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A pain I would never wish on anyone. (Anonymous)

Age: 29 Number of pregnancies: 1 Number of births: 0 It’s very hard for me to write about my experience because I’m a very private person. That being said, I don’t know if my heart can withstand all the pain and sadness I’m feeling, so I figure it’s best to try and get it out. […]

Skinny Girl Gone Wrong (Anonymous)

Hello, can i just say thank you so much for creating this website, it actually brought me to tears to see other women feeling the same as me, and being so proud of their bodies! :) Before my son i was a tiny toned size 6, with a large perk chest. my son was 10lb […]

A hole in my heart so big it could swallow an ocean. (Autumn)

AGE 32, 5 PREGNANCIES/0 CHILDREN My wife and I got married two years ago after a whirlwind courtship. I knew when I met her, that I wanted a family with her. So after 8 months of blissful matrimony, We chose a sperm donor and went to the fertility doctor. I had been tracking my ovulation […]

It all seems so petty (Kim)

Previous post here. I had c-sections with my first two births (please see my previous posts). I wasn’t thrilled with the birth experiences, but I had living babies because of them. My 3rd child was born via successful vba2c. It was amazing to hold her right after she was born. My body was stretched a […]

Pregnancy Loss (Anonymous)

It happened around two years ago and it was my first and only pregnancy. During this time I was finally living together with just my boyfriend (now Fiancé!) for a few months after moving from one share house to another. Once we received the keys we were ecstatic! Finally living our first own home. We […]

My body was ruined and I’m left with nothing. (Anonymous)

I have a child and yet I have never heard her cry. Pregnancy dosnt mean new life to me, I lost all happieness and innocence that I ever had. I’m 23 years old, weigh 143 pounds and have an angel instead of a child… I was happy with my prebaby body, 120 pounds, 5’2″, adequate […]

When is Enough Enough? (Kasey)

Hello, my name is Kasey and I am 42 years old. I have one precious daughter from my first marriage in her very early 20’s. I am seeking some impartial, independent and heartfelt advice because I find myself in a place of confusion and heartache. I got remarried 18 months ago to the love of […]

Breast Issues (Anonymous)

I am a 24 year old mother of 1 loving boy who is now 10 months old and has been breastfeeding since he was born. I have became really worried about my breast probably about the time my son was 7 months old. My boobs look like the right is larger than the left. My […]

Win Some, Lose Some (Nicole)

Nobody ever told me what to expect after pregnancy…it really isn’t a topic that is discussed socially or in the media. In fact, if it were even commonly heard of, I have a feeling a lot of young women would do everything in their power to keep their ‘bikini bodies’ in tact. I found out […]

Frumpy and Angry! (Anonymous)

Im 22 and have a 3 year old daughter… she wasn’t at all planned.. but my ex wasn’t a very nice person either, I do not regret her she I my world! See this relationship was horrible I was like a possession not a equal human being, I was treat like dirt hit and often […]


I am a mother of 10 children. The last two being twin boys. My firstborn twin boy died in February this year aged 4 months. I would generally be the first to complain about my figure post childbirth. But my experience has shown me what’s important in life. I would gladly be a size 24+ […]

Feeling Guilty (Ori)

Age: 22 Pregnancies/births:1/1 Other categories: Postpartum, Belly, Belly, Breasts or Body Art, First Pregnancy, PPD Having been at the hospital a few times the week that I gave birth, when we went in around 11:30 pm concerned about bleeding they took their time. Apparently, I was dilating, causing blood. They sent me home a centimetre […]

Through Fresh Eyes (Danielle)

Age: 31 2 pregnancies, 1 birth I am incredibly grateful to be the mother of a wonderful three year old son. Being a mother is one of the hardest jobs I have ever had and it takes toll on your physical body and your mind. My body is full of scars and loose skin and […]

Pregnant Again at 5 Months Postpartum (Anonymous)

Age 25, 2 pregnancies, 1 birth. Baby is 5 months old. Hey mommas! I am new mom to a healthy, happy,and beautiful 5 month old baby girl. My pregnancy, delivery, and recovery were all very easy. In fact, my fiance and I did the deed 2 1/2 weeks after delivery and everything was great. I […]

My Story (Anonymous)

I am 34 years old and gave birth to my first child in June of this year. Before falling pregnant I had always suffered from poor body image at times although I had got really fit and was running and weight lifting. I guess I was as happy with my body at that stage, more […]

The Gift I Took for Granted (Anonymous)

When I was 12 I feel in love with a man, M. He was 18 and did not even know I was alive. But as I grew he finally took notice. When I was 15 he ask me on a date I was over the moon. While on this date his ex shows up and […]

Marriage Help? (Anonymous)

I came across this website today, and it has helped me so, so much. I am so grateful for all of the women who are unashamed to be themselves even though they are trapped in bodies they hate. I am 8 months pp, and I have the most beautiful baby girl I have ever seen […]

4 Kids and Having Trouble with Weight Loss (Briana)

Well I am 22 years old, and I have 4 wonderful kids that I would never take back for the world.I had my first son when I was 15 years old. He is now 6 I also have a 3 year old son that I had at 18 and a 1 year old son that […]

Special Needs (Susi)

Previous post here. When I was pregnant with my son, the worst thing that happened was I had an a-hole for a doctor. When I was pregnant with my daughter, it was a totally different experience. Almost from the moment I found out I was pregnant, there were problems. At our first ultrasound, everything seemed […]

Breastfeeding (Susi)

Number of pregnancies – 2 Number of children – 2 I am a mother. I have two beautiful kids, a 5-year-old boy and a 2 ½ -year-old girl. They are awesome—they make me laugh, cry, smile, get angry, and love more than I’ve ever imagined. When I was growing up, I always had irregular periods. […]

Low Self Esteem and Damaged (Tan)

I still remember the joy of my first birth with my son. I was 21 years old. When I found out I was pregnant it was so exciting, but what I was not ready for was the stretch marks and the awful body that came with it. My whole life I have been physically fit. […]

Love doesn’t work without intimacy; a lonely life is all I’ll have. (Anonymous)

Age- 23 Number of Pregnancies- 2 Ive came acrossed this site before, after I had my first son. I thought the stories on here were very emotional and touching.. Never did I think that one day I would be posting on here. I need to get it off of my chest, talk about it, maybe […]

Missing You Always and Forever (Anonymous)

2 pregnancies/ 2 boys 28 years old Original post here. Dear Mom, I miss you everyday. I miss your beautiful smile, your laugh and being able to talk to you about anything. Christmas this year just wasn’t the same without you. Last year was the first year without you and it was very emotional and […]

33 Years Old, Nine Months PP, Life After C-Section (Anonymous)

Some of my wisest mom friends shared with me that it’s best to NOT have a birth plan…I shouldve listened to that little feeling tugging on my gut! Ah well…se la vi!! I was initially soo upset (combined with hormones post partum!!) about having a cestion…I had my heart set on a vbirth with no […]

My Story (Anonymous)

The birth of my son (first child)is by far the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. I love him more that I thought possible to love someone. However, my postpartum body… Not so much. I was 22 years old when I got pregnant and I gave birth at 23 years old. I gained […]

Isabelle, I love you! (Anonymous)

Number of pregnancies 4 (2) miscarriages (2)abortions Please don’t judge me I have made mistakes just as any human being in the world ! I am 22 years old I was 17 when I had my first pregnancy I lived with my bf we were both in nursing school in Mexico and very happy for […]

Love my 2 kids, hate my belly. (Anonymous)

The last time I posted on here was about 4 years ago..I had just had my first baby girl 5 months earlier. Before getting pregnant, I was a fit 5’5, 125 lbs. After she was born, my belly still looked like a small basketball. I had no stretchies, but I knew I wasn’t going anywhere […]

Something Occurs to Me (Anonymous)

4 pregnancies 1 miscarriage and 3 births. Ages of children: 4 years, 15 months, 2 weeks old. Having posted on here about 4 years ago after the birth of my daughter (Michaela Marks) I thought I’d revisit the site to hopefully encourage others. I now have 3 children in total (see above), and, at the […]

Diastasis Recti – I Still Look Pregnant! (Anonymous)

I am 20 years old have a 8 month old, I am 3 months pregnant and have been pregnant 3 times including now. When I was pregnant with my 8 month old son my tummy was huge I am only 4″11 and before I got pregnant only weighed 130. My tummy grew so quickly and […]


I am a (almost) 50 year old woman. I have had 6 pregnancies, resulting in 4 live births and 2 very late (mid second trimester) miscarriages. My “babies” are now aged from 19 up to 25. When I started having my children in the mid-80s I was considered to be slightly overweight (5-9 and 165lbs), […]

I will break the cycle. (KMG)

Age: 32 1 pregnancy, 1 birth 20 month old I remember being a little girl of nine or ten, after my brother was born, and looking at my mother observing herself in the mirror. She had saggy breasts, a lot of stretchmarks, and a vertical c-section scar. She hated all three, blaming me for her […]


Love your website! I too have the beautiful shape of a mother and have had an adjustment period to finally accept and embrace my new body. That is not my problem or my husband’s problem though. We are dealing with my utter lack of muscle control in the vagina and urinary incontinence. I can no […]

Postpartum Depression or Hypothyroidism? (Anonymous)

~Age: 32 ~Number of pregnancies and births: 1 ~The age of your children, or how far postpartum you are: 18 months Hi, It’s been 18 months since I gave birth. It was a wonderful experience. I was surrounded by family, love, and affection after I came home with my dear daughter. My husband was supportive […]

I am a woman reclaiming my body. (Anonymous)

Aged 33. 1 beautiful six year old boy. 1 plus size single mum. What a fantastic website, have just taken a look and I love that women are taking the chance to say ‘hello, this is what real women look like’ and having their joy and pain witnessed. Some women come through pregnancy and childbirth […]

My Story (Anonymous)

Age: 17 Pregnancies: 1 Son’s age: 18 months. His birthday is October 17, 2010. First, I would like to say it’s great to find a website like this! There are so many people who don’t understand how mothers feel. My story starts when I was 14. The summer before freshmen year. I was 5’4″ 128 […]

Scared to Gain Weight (Anonymous)

I’m 21 years old and I’ve struggled with both anorexia and bulimia since I was 17 years old. I was about 120 when I got pregnant with my first pregnancy I gained about 45 pounds throughout the nine months, and I hated being so big, but since I never ate before my body held on […]

A Never-Ending Struggle (Anonymous)

Age: 20 Number of Births: 1 Child: 7 Months Old i’ve posted before, but not on a topic as specific as this. so, no pictures this time– just a story that i’m hoping some other women can relate to. not exactly the happiest, but i’ve found that people find comfort in relating with others, regardless. […]

That Thing That No One Talks About (Christine)

Age: 27 Number of pregnancies/births: 1 of 1. Months PP: Almost 5. As I write this, I am really unsure of how to start or properly address the issue at hand. I suppose the best I can do is to start at the beginning and work my way to the present. It would probably be […]

How did you get comfortable with your new physical self? (MK)

I read about all of the women who have gone from being in shape, looking great and feeling good to looking like a “mother.” I read about how you are now comfortable and accepting of your new “beautiful” self. I am not as strong as you are. I want to be where you are mentally […]

Depressed (Anonymous)

pregnancies:6 births:3 3 months post-partem age:28 I had been debating whether to post something on this site for awhile now, but when I woke up this morning I just had to talk to someone. I have three beautiful children ages seven, six and three months. I am having an extremely difficult time dealing with my […]

Long Story Short: I need help with all this. (Elisabeth)

Age: 19 Pregnancies: 1 Births: Due February 17th 2012 OK, this is a long one, my apologies. I first found out I was pregnant at the beginning of summer, I was 18 at the time. It was a complete shock and I was unbelievably scared. I felt like this wasn’t supposed to happen to me: […]

Struggling (Nicola)

Nicola, age 26 1 Pregnancy, 1 Birth 1 Year PP When I was pregnant, I really believed that I was going to enjoy motherhood. I was sure that I had prepared myself as much as one can. When my baby was born, of course it was difficult from the start. Not only was I recovering […]

5 Years Later (Dolly)

It has been 5 years since the worst day of my life. I lost my daughter . My children at home ( then 3 and 4) were never the same. Since that day I had 2 miscarriages. When I found out I was pregnant again my youngest , Jacob (then 7) would ask every day, […]

I Just Don’t Feel Good Anymore (Tawnya)

Age: 20 Number of births: 1 Age of child: 1 year My name is Tawnya, I just turned 20 and I’m a mother of a beautiful 1 yr old girl. I was 120lbs before I got pregnant, I was in a size 3. I gained 80lbs during my pregnancy. I’m just struggling with the way […]

Update – The Shape that Love Built (Amanda)

Original entry here. Age: 24 (had a birthday since posting my last article lol) Number of Births: 3 Ages of Children: 5 years old, 23 Months old, and 4 months old. Hello again!! I just thought that I’d update on my post “The Shape That Love Built”. I still feel the way I did in […]

Disappointed (Anonymous)

Original post here. children: 5 yrs, 2 yrs Today I was looking at soam and noticed the NYC newspaper had done a column on Soam I read it and continued on to read the comments. I cried, I come to this sight when I am feeling low and need to see and hear people I […]

Save the Mom Jeans (Jenna Moffit)

Age 24; Pregnancies 2; Births 1; 8 months post partum There are too many days I wake up to my 8 month old daughter talking to herself in her pack and play at 5 am. When I look in, she sees me and her face lights up with joy; I can’t help but pick her […]

I Get it Now (Anonymous)

So, when my son was born, I remember finding this website and submitting a story of my own. I read it yesterday. I felt so sorry for myself. I hated how I looked, how I felt. I was depressed. I read so many “woes me” stories, and of course, the stories of strength and courage. […]

My New Tattoos (Anonymous)

Age: 31 2 pregnancies/2 c-sections 20 months and 2 months When I made my first submission I was in a great place and had finally accepted my new body. I was pregnant a month later (the first time we had unprotected sex) and enjoyed my second pregnancy just as much as the first – there’s […]

Update (Lucia)

Previous entries here and here. I read this site as often as I can now, I have a very active 9 month old and I try to be out with him as much as posible, and i´ve been meanin to share something with you all. When I was little I remember asking my mom if […]

Chemically, Artificially Me (Anonymous)

Previous entries here and here. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ if I were less of me and more like you would I be alright? would you love me more if I looked like the models in the magazine? boney flesh, bared on glossy paper, beautiful? layers of colours, a madeup mask.. hides you.. redefining your idenity wrapped up in […]

My Story (Anonymous)

I have always been worried about the day I would find out I was pregnant. Not because I didn’t want a baby or a joy in my life but I had always felt insecure about my weight. I come from a family where weight was a big issue and both me and my brother were […]

Whose Body is this Anyway? (Lisa)

I posted this on my blog about a year and a half ago. It was my way to make amends with my body. I didn’t take any photos of myself during that time. I actually hid from the camera by always being the photographer. I was 34 years old when I wrote this (now almost […]

Every Little Bird (Hollye Dexter)

This January, I somehow managed to get pregnant again, at forty-seven years old. I felt it, even as I went about my life, travelling, volunteering in my son’s school….but convinced myself it couldn’t be so. Surely I had missed my period because I was at that certain age. Just to assure myself, I finally took […]

Am I the only one? (Randi)

~Age: 20 ~Number of pregnancies and births: two pregnancies. One still birth at 22 weeks pregnant. One live birth. ~The age of your children, or how far postpartum you are: son Jacob is 15months old. So 15 months pp. I have always wanted to be a mother. Not necessarily get pregnant at a young age […]

Ode to My Boobs (Miff)

I was directed to this site by a friend of mine after I emailed this “Ode to my boobs” to my closest girlfriends who are also mothers. Before I was pregnant I was a 34 B or C, during my pregnancy I was a 34 DD, and once I started breastfeeding I got up to […]

I Need Some Help (Shannon)

Previous entries here: Missing My Baby Boy 5 Weeks PP 2.5 Months PP 6 Months PP 15 Month PP I have posted on here 4 times already…and my last post was just a 1.5 months ago…but I need some help from you fellow Mamas…I feel so horrible about my body. I want to love it […]

Ups and Downs (Anonymous)

31 years old kids ages 5 and 3 I am 5’2 and 125 currently.Previous to kids my weight was about 120-125.I am happy with my weight finally after 3 years! My first pregnancy I was all day sick for the first 3 months but after that things went well.Had a 7Ib 12oz baby but vaginal […]

Scared Mother 25 Weeks (Mini)

~Age: 19 ~Number of Pregnancies: 1st One This is my first pregnancy and I have always been a little bit self concious. I do everthing I can to make sure after birth I have my good body again far as jogging and applying lotion on my stomach. I kind of scared. All that matters is […]

Of Mothers and Beauty (Michelle L)

Your age: 30 Number of pregnancies and births: 4 ————– “I hate using maps,” I said to him. Amongst sculptures and artifacts, oil canvases and mixed media, we wandered aimlessly and tirelessly. Hours passed like seconds. Nothing mattered to me but the air that he was breathing. The walls melted in the winter rain falling […]

Holding My Son Makes it All Go Away (Erika)

Number of pregnancies-1. I found out two years ago that I had PCOS. I was also told that I had a very low chance of having kids, since both of my ovaries were so covered in cysts. I was then with an abusive boyfriend and was almost relieved to hear that news..I finally got out […]

My Husband Kissed My Stretch Marks (Anonymous)

20 yrs old 39 weeks and 6 days pregnant I have been looking at this site for a few months now, and I am so thankful for it. I keep seeing these women who look like models (probably because they are models), celebrities, or just everyday women who don’t have physical changes from pregnancy and […]

Update (Anonymous)

Original entry here. A little over a year ago I wrote on this site because I was upset with my body one year after giving birth to my amazing son. Things did get better, I got into a swimsuit and started working out, but never had the time between school and motherhood to get to […]

Just Wanted to Share (Karla)

Hi! I have been a visitor for years now, I have never writen my story…but one day I will! today I just wanted to share something with all my shapeofamother friends… I was reading The Velveteen Rabbit (by Margery Williams) to my 5 year old today. I have read this story before, but just as […]

The Life of My Belly (Anonymous)

I’m 31 and have had 2 abortions and 1 miscarriage – no children. All years apart and all for the best…. and still I find myself looking at my belly, that carried the life I was expecting to meet, someone I already loved. I wonder if it’s strange that it’s two years later, and I […]

The Body My Children Gave Me (Kelly)

Age: 27 Number of children: 4, going on 5 Ages of children: 9, 7, 4 and 2, with the next one due in March When I got pregnant with my oldest son, I was 5 foot 2, 93 lbs, and thought my body was perfect. After he was born, I lost the weight pretty quickly. […]

Who am I? (Anonymous)

Age 26 2 pregnancy’s, 2 boys I’ve been on this site alot over the last year or so and have never done an entry. I love this site it has helped me out through some bad days, today is one of those days, and I finally decided to send this in. I met my husband […]

Needing Some Support (Sarah)

Hello, my name is Sarah and I am 23 years old, and I have never been pregnant. My husband and I have been married for 2 years, and we have been trying to conceive since we got married. However, we’ve obviously been unsuccessful. I went to the doctor and they scheduled a pap test and […]

Another Update (Dolly)

Previous posts here and here. After a few years we have decided to try again. In April 2010 (6 weeks) I found out that I was pregnant again. The same day I went in to get my IUD removed I started to miscarry, I again became pregnant June 2010 (again at 6 weeks)and miscarried again […]

Behind Enemy Lines (SMS)

Age 30 1st pregnancy, 1 year postpartum My body has always been the enemy. This shape which outlines the whole of who I am, encapsulating the parts of me both seen and unseen. Somehow, with time and age, it had come to represent me, a personal definition of who I am, carefully crafted for the […]

Who will you be? (Lauren)

I am not a mother but I think about that day so often…who she (or he) will be, how I will feel, etc. This simple poem is a reflection of those thoughts. Who will you be? Who will you be? Will you be like me? Will you live in a castle or climb through the […]

“You’re Perfect” – Two Saving Words (Destiny)

When I was ten, I was driven two states over to spend the summer with my Grandparents. I don’t know what we were doing, but I was playing outside, and walked up to my Grandma. I wish I could remember the words I started with, but she replied “You’d better be careful, Dez, you’re getting […]

Beauty in the Battle (Kara)

25 3 Pregnancies, 2 Birth Girls ages 6 & 4 Longing for another soon & 1 more shortly after My body looks as though I was attached by wild Tigers, shredded on my breats, abdomen, back, butt & thighs But i find beauty in my Battle Scars, its the beauty of growing precious cargo. However […]

I Wonder (Anonymous)

~Number of pregnancies and births: 1/1 I’ve been reading your stories for the last 6 or 7 months and am just like a whole bunch of you – in a shirt I look great. With my shirt off, the extra elephant gathers at the bottom of my tummy were making me feel horrible about myself. […]


hi there I love this site sooo much! thank you for creating it! I wish I would have known about it when I was pregnant. I got pregnant unexpectedly in Sept 2007. My boyfriend was surprised and happy even though we were not getting along at all. Anywase , my pregnancy was a bad one,I […]

I wear my baby stripes with honor (Karyle)

Age: 22 Years old Pregnancies: 2 happy little girls Childrens ages: 18 month old and 3 months old To me, these scars to not make me ugly or disfigured. To me, they are reminders of what we as women go through to bring our children into the world. Any man who thinks stretch marks are […]

When is Enough, Enough? (Anonymous)

Age: 37 Numbers of pregnancies and births: 3, births 1 Child’s Age: 4 I spent my youth and 20’s overweight and hating my body. I was a size 18. During a bad break up I gained an additional 15 pounds and for the first time it looked like size 18 would be too small. I […]

Needing Guidance- Finally reaching out (Anonymous)

It will be a year next week that my son was born. I have kept these feelings inside for far too long. A year that I have been living in this body that I now call my own. My belly button still looks the same, saggy and loose. I still have “love” handles and flub […]

The Shape of A Birthmother (Anonymous)

20 yrs. old 1st Pregnancy, 8 months pregnant I woke up one morning in July expecting to start my period. When I went to the bathroom and hadn’t started, I didn’t think anything of it because I am not typically regular. As the day went on with no signs of it starting, I began to […]

pregnancy weight gain, sex & fear (Anonymous)

I found your site because I am 30 weeks pregnant and shocked that I am having such a hard time adjusting to my changing body. I am 31 years old and this is my first pregnancy. My partner and I decided this July that we would stop using birth control. We were so in love […]

Update (Jill)

Original entry here. i’m now almost 6 months pp and i feel i have to update my last entry. since whining all about my unhappiness over my new mom-bod i have continued to work hard (even through the holidays!) and am happy to report my progress. i just ran my first 5k, am back into […]

Staying Hopeful. (Anonymous)

25 years old I’m not pregnant, yet, nor have I ever been pregnant. I figured this would be the perfect place to come for support with infertility. My partner and I have been trying to conceive going on 2 yrs. I’m hoping that there are mothers here on The Shape of a Mother that have […]

Feeling Destroyed (Anonymous)

second pregnancy first child 4 and a half months post partum 26 yrs old. to start off , i love my daughter with everything that i have.. she makes me smile and laugh and feel complete.. she is the reason i get up in the morning these days.. now.. she is my second pregnancy but […]

young 22 year old mother of 3, soon to be 4 in need of advice (Anonymous)

I am a 22 year old mother of 3, soon to be 4. I am now 20 wks preganant. I am having very mixed emotions. This is my seventh pregnancy. I was 14 when i miscarried twins. i had my oldest daughter at 16, she is now 5. My second is 4 and my youngest […]

Will It Get Better….. (Anonymous)

Age:28 Number of Pregnancies:1 10 months postpartum I just had another “talk” with my boyfriend about my self-esteem. Of course I start to cry about how bad I look now overall. Up until my 6th month of pregnancy, I was working out up to 2 hours a day lifting weights. I was in the best […]

14 Months Later (Linda)

I am 29 years old and first time mom to a beautiful 14 months old girl. I really don’t have any complaints about my body, the few stretch marks that showed up 2 weeks before I had her, seem so faint that really don’t bother me. Three months ago, my husband didn’t think I should […]

Not a Mother, Yet… Or Ever? (Tatiana)

I am 26 and engaged to marry a wonderful man next year. Just a couple of days ago he told me that his utopia would be to marry me and have a baby with me. The thing is, this is not necessarily my idea of an utopic life. I love traveling, I love being able […]

Battling Myself Over Surgery (Anonymous)

I am a 30 yr old mother of 3, ages 10, 7 and 8 months. I have always been self-conscious about my body but now more then ever. I am coming to terms with my mommy body however I have never been happy with my breast. I have always been almost a “b” cup but […]


Hi there i had a baby 11 months ago and i still havent got back to how i would like at the moment i hate my body and cant bear to see myself naked i am 23 and this is my first child and pregnancy, birth and motherhood was and is the best experience ever […]

A Lost Son, A Blessed Son, A Missed Son (Andrea)

I got married in July the 19th [On my 22th birthday] 2000, to my husband Patrik. In January next year I found out I was pregnant, with twin boys, the whole pregnancy went well and October the 12th Anton and Isac were born. I found it realy great being a mom and I loved it. […]

The Ugly Side of the Bump (Julie DeCoria)

Originally posted here at Julie’s blog. I’m a female. And so are you. This being said, we are instant unity in numerous issues: dieting, love, life, voting, shoes, and pregnancy. So, I feel I can say this and you all won’t judge….. What the crap, Pregnancy? Maybe, I’m just hormonal today, maybe the Prego Fairy […]


I don’t have any pictures to share this time….but instead, complaints. I have posted here twice before. Once at 4 months PP here and once at 7 months PP here. By the time I was about 10 months PP I was back to normal and completely happy with my body again. Once I started working […]

The Loss of my Son and Daughter (Keisha)

Becoming a mother is one of the best feelings in the world to experience. You can’t believe to be bringing someone very special in this world, and they be a part of you. My son Demetrius was born January 14 2000, 8 lbs 1 oz. A big and healthy baby. I did everything I knew […]

Am I Really Going to Be a Mommy Again?

When I was 18 I had my first baby girl. It was my first pregnancy I was a very mature 18 year old and very ready for my daughter. My pregnancy was great no problems or complaints I delivered my daughter Destiny at 39 weeks She was born at 10:11 am on May 14th 2000 […]

All (Karli)

All by Karli I am 26 years old, divorced, with two daughters ages 4 and 7. I am proud to be a mother, and proud to be a woman. Originally posted here. * * * * Standing naked in front of the mirror, I started with my toes. I love you, toes, I said. I […]

Thank you (Anonymous)

I had my first son 21 years ago. I remember being somewhat prepared for what the birth would be like (honestly, not as bad as I expected!) but what completely threw me was looking down at my body during that first post-birth shower. My stomach looked like that of a 90 year old woman! Droopy, […]

Color of private area after having a baby? (Anonymous)

Hello Ladys Just need some education on private area color after having a baby. I have been very self conscious about the color of my genital area, I do remember before having a baby the color of genital area being fairly close to the color of the rest of my skin, and once i got […]


5’7″. Size 3. 125 pounds. 16 years old. That was then.. Size 11. 145 pounds. 17 years old. This is now.. My life changed when the pregnancy tests [all 5 of them] came back positive. I was 16 years old, a junior in high school, an athlete. I loved my body. People said I was […]

A Quote from My Dad (Anonymous)

Last night we were contemplating my navel–now an outie! and my dad said the following: Mom’s belly didn’t go back down, it has all these burbley folds and rumples, and her breasts are stretched, too. Every time I look at her, I think–5 babies!! This woman gave me FIVE BABIES! And every time I see […]

Sad (Anonymous)

I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy just over ten month ago. I didn’t have the best pregnancy with one thing and another. However nothing could of prepared me for giving birth. Lots of damage was caused which meant I had to have surgery after having my baby. This was for vagina reconstruction and […]

Dunno what to do? (Rocio)

Ok first off my name is rocio im 20 yrs old and i have a son thats gna be two in april. I now weigh 170 lbs my before baby weight was about 120 well around there… i had a c-section (and not by choice) sometimes I feel like my boyfriend is still with me […]

Let’s be Honest… (Anonymous)

I’m fourteen months post-partum, and still have about 20 lbs to lose to get to the weight I’m comfortable at. How did you lose the weight, if you did (and if you say solely “breastfeeding” I’m going to scream, because I’ve been breastfeeding for fourteen months and have found that to be the BIGGEST myth […]

Okay during pregnancy, self-conscious now (Karen)

I was 31 when my son was born. I had spent, easily, 25 years feeling fat, feeling overweight, feeling shy about my shape. As a teenager, I fluctuated between 15-30lbs more than was “recommended” by doctors at the time (5’4″-5’5″ and 130-145lbs). Then I met and married my husband, who is in no way shy […]

Doesn’t it Make You Wonder? (Alicia)

Reader Alicia commented on a recent post and I found her quote to be so relevant – such a simple and perfect way to sum up why we are all here at this site – that I wanted to share it with you, bolding the part that struck me as especially important. doesn’t it make […]

First Pregnancy Fears Shared (Anonymous)

I am 16 weeks pregnant and already have had major changes occur physically. My breasts have grown an entire cup size and I was already a 36D to begin with. They are uncomfortably large and I assume will only get bigger. I plan on breastfeeding (God willing) so I can only imagine what these puppies […]

I need this site (Anonymous)

I have 3 beautiful children whom I love more than anything. I nursed each of them for a year each. However, I have been left with a body I am so embarrassed of. My husband does not get to see my “banana” breasts, my skin on my stomach sags despite being only 15% body fat. […]

Proud of this site (Anonymous)

I just found this site via a link and am amazed and in awe of all the mothers who have posted especially with pictures. I will have to find pictures to post since so many of the younger mothers have questions about how it looks. Well I’m now almost 43 years old now, had my […]

Thank you! (Anonymous)

I am so very thankful for your website. I have no pictures right now, just some thoughts to share. I stumbled upon your site today, 5 months after the birth of my beautiful, amazing daughter, Paige. I never thought of myself as a vain person, or as someone overly concerned with my looks. Recently, though, […]

Mother’s Mark

This was posted over at our group at Flickr and I wanted to share it here. If anyone has any answers to her question at the end, you can either e-mail her or post comments here or at Flickr. I’m sure many women would benefit from these answers and I will compile them all into […]


I Will work on Getting you a picture of my apron, After I had Owen last christmas I stood in the shower and my sister was trying to help me clean up my incision – which broke open. And she literally had to lift up the flap of skin to access my incison, she was […]

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