Question

(Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Four or More Pregnancies, No Photos (Story Only), Postpartum, Question, Submissions 9 Comments

Please tell me what I can read! I’ve had children I’ve got a mess of a stomach etc stretch marks loads of problems… 4 children were the ex husbands he told me after I had kids he missed my body from before I had children (I don’t know where to start), cheated on me. Divorced him. Was single for years . Met a guy thought he was nice almost two years ago now we have 1 son together now. And I found out he’s gone out where there’s skimpies, had porn and crap on Facebook, been liking porn on Instagram. I can’t breath! It matters to me I told him I’m not ok with it and he says it means nothing but it’s not ok, it makes me feel like I mean nothing and he didn’t love or want me.

I just feel like I could stop breathing and die I can’t take this…

What did I do I can’t do anything about my stretch marks

Past Possible Miscarriage (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) African American, Belly, Breasts, Question, Submissions 3 Comments

My last “Normal” period was October 19, 2014 and I took a test around where I would approximately 4 weeks pregnant and it was negative but then my period was extremely late so I took a test and it was clearly positive then a week later I bleed for 2 days then my symptoms started up again.

**SYMPTOMS**
Sore breasts, Darkening areoles, Darkening nipples.
Extremely tiredness
Dizziness
Vomited 3 times since positive test
Growing fingernails (currently)
Nausea here and there
My boyfriend slept a lot too and gained weight (a lot) he vomited yesterday

Pregnant Again at 5 Months Postpartum (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) No Photos (Story Only), Question, Submissions 21 Comments

Age 25, 2 pregnancies, 1 birth. Baby is 5 months old.

Hey mommas! I am new mom to a healthy, happy,and beautiful 5 month old baby girl. My pregnancy, delivery, and recovery were all very easy. In fact, my fiance and I did the deed 2 1/2 weeks after delivery and everything was great. I was exclusively breast feeding until about 3 1/2 months, then started weaning. I had issues with supply since day one. Anyway, my fiance have been talking about the future and we both agreed that we want the kids to be close in age. Our plan was to get pregnant again in March. Well, we weren’t being to careful about sex and now I am about 4 weeks pregnant. We are super happy and excited! But I’m scared about the risks of getting pregnant too soon. I’ve heard about increased risk of autism and low birth weight. I’m scared the baby won’t get enough nutrients because my body is still recovering and the baby’s organs won’t properly form. I’m just scared for the baby’s health. I need to words of encouragement and reassurance from other mommies that have had back to back pregnancies. Has anybody been in a situation like this and want to share their experience? I would really appreciate it! :)

Marriage Help? (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) First Pregnancy, No Photos (Story Only), Question, Submissions 10 Comments

I came across this website today, and it has helped me so, so much. I am so grateful for all of the women who are unashamed to be themselves even though they are trapped in bodies they hate. I am 8 months pp, and I have the most beautiful baby girl I have ever seen in my entire life! I am really, really happy and I am so glad I am a mother!

But I can’t get over my nasty body. I have lost my baby weight, but everything moved. I have thin legs now, but I can’t get my stomach to shrink. I have a question for all of you lovely ladies who read this site: How do you have sex when you don’t feel “sexy”? My husband is amazing and supportive and tells me that I am beautiful every day, but I can’t stand sex because I can’t stand to look at my body, let alone have someone else look at it. This is causing a lot of friction in my marriage, but I have no idea what to do about it!

Please help me.

This is my amazing daughter :D

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How did you get comfortable with your new physical self? (MK)

Bonnie (SOAM) No Photos (Story Only), Question, Second Pregnancy, Submissions 10 Comments

I read about all of the women who have gone from being in shape, looking great and feeling good to looking like a “mother.” I read about how you are now comfortable and accepting of your new “beautiful” self. I am not as strong as you are. I want to be where you are mentally and I am looking to learn how you got to where you are.

I was a size 0; 119 lbs before the birth of my son 14 months ago. My hobby was going to the gym and working out. It was/is my stress reliever. I got back to my old size, yet I am left with stretch marks on my stomach, sagging/floppy boobs, huge nipples (I breast fed for 12 months) extra skin on my stomach and diastasis recti. The latter issue doesn’t bother me that much.

I am pregnant again–25 weeks along. I obviously look pregnant, like I should. In addition to me not being comfortable in my new skin, I also have dark, huge aerolas–which I think is pregnancy related! To me it is so unattractive.

I never had time to get use to my the new me because I am now pregnant again. But the issue lies here…

I don’t want to be touched or seen naked by my husband. In bed I have to be covered with a blanket. If I look down and see myself, I don’t find myself sexy and i get upset at what I see. I don’t want to be touched where the extra skin lies nor on my huge nipples! I get so upset and mad. I don’t feel like I deserve to feel good.

On tv and in movies, you never see people like “us” playing sexy roles and if you did it would ruin what the show is trying to capture. How can one find me/us attractive. I don’t get it?!!

There are boundaries in bed which I know isn’t good but I can’t get comfortable and accepting of the new me. Feeling good and feeling sexy is important for a good relationship.

I feel good in clothes and no matter how often others tell me I look good–I need to feel sexy and good with myself (naked). I know confidence is sexy, but I’m just not any longer. Even if I begin to feel cofident, I don’t feel I have the right to be. How did you do it? How did you begin to truly love your new self? Please help. I am miserable and my relationship with my husband isn’t where is should be.

~Your Age: 29
~Number of pregnancies and births: 2nd pregnancy
~The age of your children, or how far postpartum you are: 14 months and 1 on the way; due 11/3

Is My Weight Loss on Track?? (Krissy)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Postpartum, Question, Second Pregnancy, Submissions 12 Comments

Hi other moms! Well I guess the best way to start is always at the begginning…

When I was 20 I got pregnant with my first child. My prepregnancy weight was 125 and was a barely even A cup… when i went in to have our daughter i was 206 pds. (I carried 4 weeks over for some hard to explain reasons) and was a DD cup. I was right on track with my weight loss and just as i started to look like my old self I found out I was pregnant again. When I found out I was pregnant I was at 145 my daughter was 6 months old at the time. When I went in to have my second child I was 215 pds. (I had ALOT of water weight that time). My second child just turned six months today. I just wanted everyones opinion about whether or not my weight loss is on track since having two kids so close together seems to make things harder. Also my husband has started making it seem like i just “let myself go” he hasnt said anything but i can def tell he feels that way since I am not losing the “baby weight” as fast as i did with our first child. We were always the inshape kind of couple constantly doing athletics and things like that so being out of my normal shape has been really difficult for me. My current weight is 150, and i think toning is my biggest struggle with my body since our kids were born.

I just dont know how fast Im suppose to be losing weight and ppl keep telling me too fast is unhealthy but at the same time I of course feel like getting back in shape couldnt come fast enough… I guess i just wanna know what other people think of the way I look at this point in time.

PS I took some of these for my husband, I will be gone for our wedding anniversary so i thought it would be a good idea, but am unsure if I actually want to give them to him or wait and take more when i get into better shape.

AGE: 22
# OF PREG.: 3
# OF BIRTHS: 2
CHILDREN: Daughter 2 in july, Son 6 months (TODAY : D )

Scared Mother 25 Weeks (Mini)

Bonnie (SOAM) First Pregnancy, No Photos (Story Only), Pregnant, Question, Submissions 7 Comments

~Age: 19
~Number of Pregnancies: 1st One

This is my first pregnancy and I have always been a little bit self concious. I do everthing I can to make sure after birth I have my good body again far as jogging and applying lotion on my stomach. I kind of scared. All that matters is that I have a HEALTHY baby boy really. But what else can I do to get tha flat stomach?

Do I have Postpartum depression? (Autumn W)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Postpartum, Pregnant, Question, Second Pregnancy, Submissions 25 Comments

Age- 30
Number of Pregnancies – 2
Number of Births- 2
Daughters- 8 years and 2 months

I have always been told that if you have postpartum depression, you feel resentment towards your baby but I do not resent my baby in any way what-so-ever! I love and adore her but I hate myself!
After the birth of my first daughter I immediately lost weight and I didn’t have any of the thoughts or feelings I am experiencing this time. I cant stand to see myself in the mirror and I feel like no one understands. I wake up every morning and cry and I’ve tried to talk to my husband about the way I feel and he just tells me he loves me no matter how I look. I want so badly to be beautiful because I want him to be proud of me. I feel like he is ashamed of the way I look and no matter how often he says he loves me and he thinks I am beautiful, I am convinced he is lying. I wonder how anyone could be in love with me now? I have always been very thin and considered attractive and now out of no where I feel like I am hideous. Recently my husband tried to introduce me to a few of his co-workers but I literally ran and hid because I didn’t want to embarrass him. I am completely convinced that he married me because of my physical appearance and now that it has faded he cant possibly love me anymore. I am also convinced he is going to cheat on me because he HAS to be disgusted by the way I look and I know I am not good enough for him. One of my best friends recently told me that I am ruining the experience of having a wonderful husband and beautiful family by focusing so much on my appearance and although a part of me knows she is right it doesn’t help me because she is gorgeous and doesn’t have any children so how would she know what I am experiencing. I literally hate myself now and It’s not really even about me, it’s all about my husband and how I am completely convinced I am no longer good enough for him… Is this postpartum depression???

Do I look pregnant? (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Ectopic, Postpartum, Question, Submissions, Third Pregnancy 18 Comments

Hi Im really confused at this point and just want some honest opinions. I believe in “intuition” so somebody go there if you will. :)

Im a mother of 3..I had a tubal ligation in 1997 and I became pregnant again in 1999, it was ectopic and ended in surgery. I have not been worried about being pregnant again until now..I was told I had a cyst on my ovaries a few times..some very small ones but they cant ever really be sure if it was a permanent cyst or due to ovulation because both images were taken a few days before my cycle. Other than that I dont have any known conditions.

My question today is do I look pregnant or do you think I have something else causing great swelling. My stomach has continually grown over the last few months. I have taken several pics just to monitor it all but Im about to go crazy:) No positive urine test, although I had a very faint line one time I also had some opk tests which I used recently over a period of 3 days and all gave a line which I am told can sometimes detect hcg, I had an ultrasound earlier this month, it was the fastest one I ever had so I cant be positive she didnt miss anything but its said nothing was seen. The doctor noted my uterine lining was thicker than normal but could of been due to my cycle coming. I have not missed any cycles they have shortened and been less though. I have all other pregnancy symptoms such as bigger breast, heart burn, movement (quickening), cravings, tired and urinated like crazy (a few months ago), my hips have spread, and most of all I got a growing abdomen and a “crooked” darkened linea negra?

I would conclude this all in my head if only there was no movement, and no growing abdomen..So please anyone take a look and all ideas are welcome. The first pic is today 6/21/2010 The second pic is a combination of how my stomach looked in november 09 or so and 5/2010, and the last one is a few days ago 6/17. If anyone feels I am pregnant Im interested in why or how far u think ect?