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SOAM is here to help us learn how to love ourselves. Our focus here is body image after pregnancy, and we have had many mamas here talk about struggling with eating disorders. We try to learn how to love ourselves not only for ourselves, but so we can be living examples for the next generation. […]


Today many websites are going black in protest of two bills currently before Congress. To protect our free access to information, I ask that you take a moment to go to Google and sign your name to this. You can also go to Wikipedia, which has shut down nearly all of its informational pages (give […]


I posted this over at Facebook the other night, but haven’t had the time to share it here yet. It is fabulous. I have long noticed that it is those interesting bits – what a person might refer to as his or her flaws – which I find the most beauty in. A large nose, […]

Helping out Mamas in Need

It is humbling to me to step outside of my own brain for a little while and see women who suffer in much more basic and devastating ways than I do. Mothers in Haiti right now are likely not very concerned about what their bellies look like or if they should save for a tummy […]


Brigitte, a German magazine is banning all models and using women who represent a wider variety of body sizes and shapes! Dear, United States, please take note.

Beauty in a Magazine

Thank you, Glamour, for this! She is beautiful. Even more so that someone in corporate got a clue that THIS is what we want (need) to see. Despite the fact that it was such a small photo, I am glad it was printed at all. Next step: bigger photo. (It does make me want to […]

Marks of Life (Shi)

~Your Age: 25 ~Number of pregnancies and births: 2 at time of writing this, currently now have three! ~The age of your children, or how far postpartum you are: at the time my boys were 2.5 and 1 month old. They are now almost 5, 2.5, and 7months I wrote this back when you had […]

A Stolen Photograph (I Refuse to be Ashamed)

I was alerted to a certain anti-stretch mark article tonight by reader Sara. The author of this article had the gall to break copyright laws and steal my photograph of myself and my baby son which has been featured on this website for nearly three years. I have politely asked her to remove it. I […]

When a Child Dies

I lived in a sweetly ignorant world before I opened this website – I never knew of a person who had lost a baby. Not here in the US! Not in this day and age of good medical care and awareness of baby safety! I knew it happened, but it was rare – so rare. […]

Filming for the Documentary

My friend Lorien (SOAM entry here) speaking her mind towards the end of the day A few weeks ago, I gathered with some other amazing women (around a pool – in January!) to film a segment for a British documentary. Focusing on body image and motherhood, the documentary (currently aiming to air in March in […]

SMA: We Can Do This! (Submitted Anonymously)

I came across this postcard on post secret As a Mother, it made me cry. I would not ever pretend to understand the pain that must come with being told your child will not make it past 2. I cannot pretend to understand the strength it must take to get through the day.. But I […]

Doesn’t it Make You Wonder? (Alicia)

Reader Alicia commented on a recent post and I found her quote to be so relevant – such a simple and perfect way to sum up why we are all here at this site – that I wanted to share it with you, bolding the part that struck me as especially important. doesn’t it make […]

TV Documentary! (Do you live in San Diego?)

I have spoken on the phone and in e-mail with two women, including Alex, the director, about this project. Here is a message Alex has written that she would like me to share with you: Hi there, I’m writing from a TV production company in the UK regarding a documentary we’re making about pregnancy and […]

I found this link recently while reading a friend’s blog and wanted to share it. While some cesareans are certainly a necessity, the US has a frighteningly high rate of one in three births. People sometimes assume that cesareans are a safer way to birth, but the fact is that they are major surgeries with […]

Fifty Nude Women – showing in San Diego

Fifty Nude Women presented by Shape of a Mother and Java Mama **Please e-mail for details and to confirm your attendance as we will have limited room** A documentary about 50 real nude women of all ages and sizes and colors. No airbrushing or Hollywood sparkle mars their beautiful flaws and perfect imperfection. Come […]

Articles on the Web

I was poking through some old (old!) issues of Mothering Magazine today when I found two articles you need to read. The first I will also link from Save Our Daughters because it fits right in over there and is all about how to teach your children to be tolerant of people of all shapes […]

Baby Marie

Anyone in the San Diego area – please help!

MySpace and Breastfeeding

I’m so excited to share this! This site has been finally picked up by a US publication and is featured as‘s Activism Alert this month. Thank you!!

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