First Pregnancy

14 months pp, still struggling with image, but working to make it better! (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Submissions, Teen Mom 8 Comments

I found out I was pregnant when I was 17. I’d say I was fairly nervous, but also very excited. I’ve had lots of support from family and friends which made my pregnancy almost easy. Other than a few minor things, I can honestly say that I absolutely loved it. I’ve always been self-conscious, but despite the weight gain and the stretch marks, I actually felt really good about myself throughout all 9 months. I’m 5’6, and when I’m at my healthiest/fittest, I weigh around 125 lbs. Before I got pregnant, I gained a bit of weight (thanks, junk food!) but because I had pretty bad morning sickness for the first 5 months, I ended up losing 15 lbs in the first 4 months. I’d say I was fairly small up until the last 2 months when I just exploded! I had a few stretch marks on my sides and my back, but I didn’t get any on my stomach until 2 weeks before my daughter was born. 2 weeks! It was the day after Christmas dinner… I woke up and BAM! they were there. I cried. Oh well.
Vivian was born on January 7, 2009 – her due date. I weighed 190 lbs before she was born. Pretty crazy, huh? I hovered at 160 lbs for about 7 months after she was born, and because I was stupid and thought I could lose the weight without putting much work into it,so I didn’t actually do anything about it until 10 months pp. I was around 145-ish then. I have been going to the gym somewhat regularly since then, although I have recently put it on hiatus while stressing about college and how I’m going to afford it. I am really into the idea of sculpting my body once I get a real chance to do so, so I will probably update with pictures of any kind of progress later.
As for right now… I’m 19, and I weigh around 135 lbs. Not too bad, I guess,but I do realize that my stomach will probably never look the same – you know, with the silvery lines crawling up my belly and sides. And Vivian… well, she is the best little munchkin anybody could ever ask for. She’s one year and two months right now. I love her too much. We’re “homies” as I like to tell people. I go everywhere with her (except work, of course!) and I just love spending time with her. She’s a very happy baby made of smiles, giggles, and pure cuteness.

Here are a few pictures I took today of how I look. I did not look like that a year ago! I was much softer, wider, more out of proportion.You can’t see the stretch marks very well, but trust me, they sure as hell are there! There should be 2 mirror pics, one close of of my stomach, and the last two of the little angel I got out of it!


After 10 Years I’m Still Not Comfortable (Kay)

Bonnie (SOAM) 5+ Years Postpartum, Belly, Breasts, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Submissions 8 Comments

I’m 30 years old and had my son when I was 20. I was tiny before I was pregnant (5’2″ and 105lbs) and my belly was pretty small up until I was 7 months pregnant, then I don’t know what happened…maybe the baby turned? My belly POPPED out and I developed horrible stretch marks on the stomach and breasts. I absolutely hated my body and went to a plastic surgeon to see about getting a tummy tuck and breast lift but both he and my family encouraged me to wait because I was so young and will get marks again if I got pregnant…well, 10 years later and still no husband or baby! I feel like I missed out on my 20’s because I never got to wear a bikini or a cute belly baring top or to pierce my navel. I am glad I found this site though, it’s comforting to find others in similar situations. I only started being more confident the past year or so and actually wore a bikini on vacation in Miami last year. I almost cried whilst running full speed into the water before too many people saw me, but the water felt sooooo good on my skin! I’m trying to be more confident and not so concerned with how I look or what others will think, but it’s still very hard…

I spent the last 10 years hiding from the world, but here we go…this is me under all the clothes. . .

Diastatis Recti (Katie)

Bonnie (SOAM) Before Pregnancy, Belly, Diastasis Recti, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, PUPPP Rash, Submissions 46 Comments

Hi Mums,

I am 30 years old and mother to an 8-month daughter. Her name is Maja.

I used to be a fitness maniac before pregnancy, which you can surely see in my photo ‘before’. I used to be on the skinny side, but during pregnancy I gained 50 lbs and I was huge. People frequently asked me if I was carrying twins. Well, I wasn’t, and my baby wasn’t that big, with just 8 lbs.

Unfortunately, in late pregnancy I developed two miserable conditions, one of them was PUPPP (which made me suicidal) and the other one was diastasis recti. The diastasis recti brought along some stretchmarks around my belly button. These stretchmarks have cured fairly well, now they look like thin white or grayish lines, but when I sit down, my stomach is wrinkled. You can see them in one of the pics.

My belly button is deformed b/c of the diastasis recti. I have recently seen a surgeon and been told that I had a slight hernia and ought to undergo a surgery (a mesh implant). The diastasis recti gives me the funny pot belly which you can see in the pictures. I still look like 5 months pregnant. The trouble is, I will have to wait with the surgery until I’m done with having babies.

And I am still not sure if I want another one… It’s not about the body, I believe exercise can do wonders. What troubles me is PUPPP… Perhaps you have heard of it? Just after I gave birth (10 hours in labor), the itching was so bad that I didn’t even feel any pain. My mother had to move in and look after my baby, because I wasn’t able to sleep, I was restless and a nervous wreck. I even went back to hospital and told them to do ‘something’ or I would kill myself. It usually disappears after labor, mine was only getting worse and worse! I had it for six painful weeks and if it ever comes back… I think I can’t take it any more! Unfortunately I deleted all photos with my PUPPP, b/c looking at them made me itch!

8 months postpartum I lost almost all the extra lbs, with only 5 left. But as you can see, the body is not the same. No time for exercise! I hope this will change over time. And I am still thinking about the DR surgery. It would surely make my pot belly disappear.

I didn’t take any pics of my boobs because they haven’t changed a bit. They were two sizes bigger when I breastfed and now they are back to the original size and shape.

Anyway, Maja is the best thing that’s ever happened in my life!



Update (Iraiosc)

Bonnie (SOAM) Before Pregnancy, Belly, Diastasis Recti, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Pregnant, Submissions, Update 1 Comment

Original entry here.

Hi again, of course i still reading all post of all valiant woman who has new bodies like me. All you made me stronger and leave my depression.
Actually i feel so pretty dressed because i lost more or less all volume. My son will celebrate 1 year the 2nd april!!

Of course i still having umbilical hernia and diastasis… and i don’t know if i want more kids… of course i want… but i’m so so scared that probably i never would repeat… :(
What a bad situation for my husband, my son and me…. but, what would you do? Maybe another pregnancy would break my belly and probably the baby goes out like an alien!! hahahaha :-D
After i decide i will repair the hernia and put the navel at his place. When i will… i show you pics if you want!

Well, i hope you note some difference between fists pics and this, but i still looking bad down my clothes… my navel is so courious and is looking outside…
Kisses to everybody, still strong as you do and take care of yourselves to feel so pretty inside and outside!!

PD1 My son now is walking!!! :DDD bravoooooo!!
PD2 Again…. sorry for my mistakes in english!

Me dressed! I lost all the kilos i’ve gained!! I think now I look so well, don’t?

Do you see the hernia down the navel? and the wrinkles? :O

i know is terrible, but now i feel so better!

me at 38 weeks

and me one month before being pregnant.

Updated here.

2 Months PP Body (Samantha)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Pregnant, Submissions, Teen Mom 18 Comments

~Name: Samantha
~Your Age:18
~Number of pregnancies and births:1
~The age of your children, or how far postpartum you are:2 months

Hi everyone! I love this website i’ve been on here since i was pregnant but haven’t had time to post anything until now.Well i”am 18 and found out that I was pregnant at 17. I found out right after my boyfriend and I split up so I’m a single mother (its better off this way).
My pregnancy went well i started out weighing 120lbs and went up to 160 ! I was induced one day before my due date because i had a slow leak in the amniotic sac. So I was in labor for 22hours. I only pushed for ten minutes and out came Jasmine Isabell weighing 7lbs 15 ounces. Little did i know at the time, because i was totally numb, my doctor cut me ALL the way back muscle and everything I had a 4th degree episiotomy! I couldn’t walk without pain for a week or two but i started working out as soon as the pain started to become less severe.
I now work out everyday and try to eat healthy. Its hard because i used to starve myself before i got pregnant and now i weigh 127 and i cant seem to get the last 7lb off. I’m trying to stay healthy an not starve myslf to lose the extra weight.I have been breast feeding which is going great! Im happy with how my body looks but im hoping to lose the last 7lbs within the next 3-4 months.
I got stuck with stretch marks on my inner and outer thighs, my breasts, hips, calfs, and some on my butt. I hope they get better because they are very dark. I try to hide them in my pictures but you can kinda of see them.
The first picture is me 2 days before I gave birth. The second two are me 8 days pp. The fourth picture is one month pp. And the fifth picture is little Jasmine =]



Young 20 Year Old Mother and Wife (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Before Pregnancy, Belly, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Pregnant, Submissions, Teen Mom 5 Comments

I am a young 20 year old mother and wife! My son is now 10 and a half months old almost reaching his first birthday coming up in april on the 25th! I am so proud to be a mother and even though it would be amazing to have my prepregnancy body again, I would never trade it back if it werent for my little boy Aiden. He is the light of my life and he is what makes up my world as well as my husband. I dont know what I would do without my little family and I am very blessed to have both of them. I had a rough pregnancy with my son (my first and only pregnancy) as I had contractions on and off ever since I was 7 weeks pregnant. The contractions became more and more frequent as my pregnancy progressed and they were always very scary. I took myself to the hospital numerous times always scared that my son was going to be delivered that day! My son held on tight until his gestation was 39 weeks! I was on bedrest every since I was 7 months pregnant which made it difficult as I was still a senior in highschool. Luckily I had a tutor come to my home to help me finish up my credits so I could graduate which I did 3 weeks after my son was born. We had come a long way and are very glad we are where we are now. I gained 70 pounds during my pregnancy due to inactivity and eating everything in sight. I lost 52 pounds and need to lose another 18 pounds to get back to my prepregnancy weight. At this given moment though we again are both going through yet another trial in life as my son was just diagnosed with silent acid reflux. The doctors or I didnt even have a clue of him ever having acid reflux as he had no signs of it. That is why it is called silent. instead of him throwing up, his food was constantly going up and down his esophogus making it raw and painful to eat. This had gone on for almost 5 months with him not eating! We just thought he wouldnt eat until finally the doc ordered him to go to the feeding team to be evaluated. Finally it is all figured out and he is now eating with his special recipe of very concentrated formula plus a calorie booster and a food thickener. he is doing great and I can tell he is already gaining weight and he finally has a full tummy! Here are my pics, the first one is when I was 2 months pregnant, the 2nd is when I was 8 months pregnant, the 3rd and 4th pics are my stomach 10 and a half months postpartum and the last one is a recent one of me and my little boy on my 20th bday! Thanks to everyone and their kind words!



The Best Site Ever! (Kym)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Pregnant, Submissions, Teen Mom, Update 5 Comments

Previous entries here and here.

This Is going to be the third time posting on The shape of a mother. My name is Kym and I am mother to a beautiful 21 month old baby girl! I started my journey into motherhood, a very insecure 18 year old teen. I have been insecure since i can remember and pregnancy didn’t help. I started getting stretch marks All over my belly, as early as 4 months along. I thought this was completely out of the ordinary, I had never even gotten a stretch mark while going through puberty, so i spent endless nights leading up to the birth scanning the internet for pictures of women who had stretchmarks as bad as mine! And surprisingly there was next to nothing! When I found this sight it was truly great, I read every single story that had been posted! after i had my daughter i suffered terribly from depression. This site really helped me forget about me being sad and showed that i wasn’t alone. Fast forward until now, I am now married to my daughters father, and we have been together 5 happy years. I know he doesn’t care about my stretchmarks, which i Too have learned to live with, They have faded SO MUCH!! and it makes me very happy to say that, Unfortunately I am a bit overweight,and due to eating crappy, But i go to the gym, and Ive been eating healthy to get rid of yes still my baby weight! I know tons of women who are having babies now and the second i find out they are pregnant i send them the link to your site! I tell them it helped me accept my body and love it. I know they all visit SOAM on a daily basis!!

1st and 2nd pics were taken 1 month and 1 week before i gave birth
3rd is 1 month p.p
4th me and my daughter
5th my stomach now!!!

Working Hard to be Me Again! (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Submissions 7 Comments

I used to be 5’2 and weighed 115… when I got pregnant I gained 30 pounds.. mind you IM 5’2! So all that weight really REALLY shows! I now weigh 142 ~ 17 months later! I nursed exclusively for 16 months so I didn’t try and lose the weight but now I am getting on it! I hope to be in a bikini this summer… and with tanning my stretch marks have seemed to fade a little… I am just so ready to feel comfortable in my skin! Here are a few pics of me … hopefully I can post some nice after pictures soon!