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STRUGGLING with looking pregnant a year AFTER I had my baby (Anonymous)

May 13, 2009

I am now 25 years old. I had my first son in January 2008 when I was 23 years old. I am now 14 months postpartum.

Hey, I had my first baby at 23. A few month before I got pregnant I was 154 pounds. I am quite tall so i was a nice normal size then when i just found out I was pregnant i had put on a bit of weight 180lbs. By 12 weeks ( with morning sickness and everything) I was down to 167lbs and feeling great wasn’t worried about my weight etc. right from the start people thought i was having twins my stomach was HUGE and the rest of me was fairly thin. From 34 weeks i noticed I had put on alot of weight around my face but didn’t think much of it, the rest of me was still normal except for my belly, by this stage HUGE HUGE belly.

Anyhoo I went into labour naturally but ended up having a emergency c section after an hour of pushing as my baby was posterior and quite large. I gave birth to a 9lb 5 oz baby boy he was beautiful. When people came to visit me at hospital towards the end of the first week they started making comments politely about my stomach still quite large and that it hadn’t gone down much. Friends kids started asking me if I had another baby in my stomach and by the 4 week postpartum when I was out shopping a lady asked me ” How long I had to go?” I gave in another month or two and came to the conclusion i had put on soooo much weight during my pregnancy on my stomach and no where else and after the baby was born my stomach kept that pregnant look, it didn’t look like a fat belly it looked like a pregnant one!

The week i gave birth to my son I was 226lbs. I lost a few lbs after the birth but stayed around 204 lbs. for the first 11 months of my sons life, I just couldn’t get motivated. Then I read that if you haven’t lost all your baby weight in the first 10 months you never will.. Rubbish I thought. so I started eating right and just walking 3 times a week from the time my son was 11 1/2 months. By the time my son was 13 months I had lost 28 lbs My son is now 15 months and I am still hovering around that weight and getting ready to push my exercise up a notch to get rid of those extra pounds.

I have a lot of stretch marks, my stomach looks like a prune but hey I’m working on it and feel fantastic with the weight I have lost and so grateful I now look like I have a flabby belly not a pregnant one. lol

Oh also if you notice some scars on my pictures i also had my gallbladder out at around 4 months post.

I hope you all enjoy my photos. I know this website has been fantastic for me in realizing not everyone goes back to a supermodel body after pregnancy.

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29 Responses to “STRUGGLING with looking pregnant a year AFTER I had my baby (Anonymous)”

  1. Angele Says:
    May 13th, 2009 at 1:30 pm

    Wow, what an amazing transformation! You may not notice it because you are hard on yourself as all women, but your stomach now is quite nice for still only being 14 months out! It takes a long time after those muscles have been stretched out! In my case, I have diastis (4 inch muscle seperation) therefore I will never have a tight stomach, it will always look like yours now.

    You are doing great, keep it up! :)

  2. Bridget Says:
    May 13th, 2009 at 1:36 pm

    Wow! Look at those abs under that extra skin! I know how it is to get huge during pregnancy and have a jelly-belly afterwards. You’re looking great! I’ve started a pilates dvd and was really sore after just 10 min of ab work. Keep working at it and you’ll be amazed what you can acheive! I love the 2nd picture of you pregnant. It’s a beautiful shot!

  3. Samantha Says:
    May 14th, 2009 at 5:11 am

    I know how you feel, my babies were 9 pound 5 and 10 pound 1 and I’m quite small and have always been skinny so I had massive bellies that people used to comment on all the time – they also made the same comments after the babies were born about having another one in there, it’s extremely insensitive. Congratulations on looking so amazing – I think you look great and can only aspire to losing the belly :) BTW you look super hot as a pregnant mama too! Well done on your journey and thanks for sharing it with us. You’ve inspired me!

  4. Lauren Says:
    May 14th, 2009 at 6:41 am

    You are looking so good!!

  5. Kylie Says:
    May 19th, 2009 at 10:31 am

    I like the preggo shot too! I have the similar problem of the “saggy belly”. :( You have come a long ways though, I often tell myself I have come a long ways too and I can’t be too hard on myself. It is hard though since we are young and have friends who look good and don’t have kids…or look good and have. Whenever you feel down go for a walk or eat something healthy and look at ur lil baby! …thats what I do and it helps! Keep up the amazing work tho! :)

  6. courtnie Says:
    May 26th, 2009 at 6:45 pm

    wow…you look exactly like me.
    I still get “when is your baby due?” a few times a week and my daughter is 15 months. so comforting to know im not the only one.

  7. Amy Says:
    June 17th, 2009 at 5:45 am

    I feel like I am looking at a picture of myself. My son is also 14 months old. I run and lost all 60lbs of baby weight but now I’m thinking ot pilates to strengthen the abdominal wall. I don’t think the flap is going any where though.

  8. Jessica Says:
    September 23rd, 2009 at 1:27 pm

    I just read this article because I was trying to find different methods as to what I can do to change the appearance of my stomach. I am not so much concerned about the stretch marks, but my stomach sticking out. I don’t JUST have stretch marks and fat rolls, my stomach still looks like I am pregnant and I constantly get the “when are you due” questions! I have tried almost everything that there is out there to get rid of this, aside from becoming anorexic or bulimic… You would think that with today’s technology, anyone’s body could look good… Problem is, I don’t have the MONEY for that!

  9. Leah Says:
    November 11th, 2009 at 3:40 am

    Your story is so similar to mine right down to the gallbladder surgery and big baby(my son was 9lbs 9oz). Your pictures are so similar to mine. You’ve inspired me, I can see your amazing progress and it gives me hope.

  10. Helen-Rose Says:
    February 5th, 2010 at 5:04 pm

    This is EXACTLY how i have been since my baby (my first preg and son was 20 days overdue). I started to really swell up after 34 weeks but told myself it was water retention and it would all come off. I have cried and cried and cried when looking at my belly as it still looked pregnant… i think it was worse as all the other new mothers has snapped back into their jeans pretty pronto and they are taller- i am only 5’2″ and often felt like a human bean bag… i am 2 dress sizes bigger then before the preg and am still in maternity jeans 8 months later. Some of the sticky-outiness has gone down now, but big bit extra skin still there and i can’t hold my tummy muscles in at all, especially the ones at the top, under the ribs. I don’t like any of the photos of me and my son as i don’t feel it looks like me, but i’m just glad i saw your pics as i can see how much improvement can happen- yoiu’ve done amazingly well. Well done and keep going. I am inspired!

  11. Marlena Kur Says:
    April 9th, 2010 at 12:24 pm

    Wow I am so happy to hear that I am not the only one that has been going through this. My son was 9 lbs. 1 oz. when he was born and is 22 weeks old and I have gotten at least 10 pregnant comment just this month alone. I can’t beleive people even have the nerve to comment that in the first place. Now I know that if I work it enough I will have results reading your post and seeing your photos.

  12. Aicha Says:
    June 3rd, 2010 at 8:47 pm

    Cannot tell you how encouraging this was!! I am not the only one!!! I have a 3yr old a 2 year old and a 7month old and have never really been able to get the baby weight off. So glad you posted the pics and your story!!!

  13. niki Says:
    July 29th, 2010 at 5:08 am

    this gives me hope. i have had three children now, with my first two i noticed it coming off within a year. my 3rd child is 2 1/2 yrs old and i am barely seeing a change in my shape but with minimal weight loss. This really has encouraged me though. I felt like no matter what i did i could get this pregnant to go away.

  14. Nat Says:
    June 9th, 2012 at 6:10 pm

    This is very inspiring to me. It has been over a year and with being a full time mom and head of the household I don’t have time to work out and care about me as much. A body takes a lot to make a person and even though I get upset comparing myself now to before I would never take it back. I love my child more than my vanity before but it is important now to take care of my health for him too. Thank you for your post!

  15. Lisa Says:
    June 15th, 2012 at 5:34 am

    this story has really lifted my spirits. i was so depressed about my tummy. my baby is 19 months old, and i still look pregnant.

  16. maleta Says:
    August 6th, 2012 at 9:28 pm

    Thank you for posting these pictures. I had my second 9 months ago and was feeling bummed that someone asked when I am due today. It helped my body image to see your pictures and wow that last picture is way encouraging.

  17. chris Says:
    November 17th, 2012 at 7:47 pm

    Thank u for sharing ur story and giving me some hope. Its 9 months after my third prego.. C-section ..
    .baby girl 10.2 pounds and im having the same issue. Im now motivated more than ever to excersise and lose the weight cause is bringing me down physically..wish me luck! ;)

  18. Alena Says:
    November 27th, 2012 at 4:42 pm

    Wow, thanks for posting this. My first baby was 10.5 and second one was 10.2. They have 20 months age difference. My second one just turned 12 months and I have had plenty of questions if I am waiting for a 3rd one. I hate people doing this. A month ago I started cxwork classes at our local gym and I am also going for zumba classes. It looks like it works, I hope it will go away. I am so glad I am not the only one. Girls don’t give up! Let’s take this bellys away! If we gave birth to our lovely giants, then we definitely can cope with belly) thank you for posting this dear!

  19. Brenda Says:
    January 21st, 2013 at 6:53 pm

    My daughter still looks pregnant after her last baby 5 years ago…(polyhydraminos)…why is this?

  20. Bonnie (SOAM) Says:
    January 21st, 2013 at 8:33 pm

    Only a doctor or perhaps a midwife could give a reason for sure, but a common suggestion to look into is diastasis recti.

  21. brandi Says:
    July 31st, 2013 at 3:53 pm

    what kinda workout have u been doing i have the same problem but ive had two c sections and three children i lose weight everywhere but my stomach

  22. KC Says:
    March 18th, 2014 at 8:18 pm

    Wow! Isn’t the human body amazing! Thank you for posting your photos. It’s wild to see that transformation. You’re doing an excellent job!
    I had a similar transformation- now I’m training for fitness competitions. This is great motivation for everyone who wants to look great after having a baby. You CAN do it, your stomach WILL go back. Just eat more natural, fresh foods, no sugar, and get sweaty- gym or otherwise- work your body, get your heart rate up, and sweat EVERY SINGLE DAY!
    Good luck all!

  23. Cattaca Says:
    June 17th, 2014 at 8:14 pm

    I’m only 8 weeks out but I’m freaking out already. I put on almost 40 lbs, went from 150 to 186 during pregnancy left the hospital at 170 and now am at 175. So depressing but I feel healthy just don’t know when I’m going to exercise now I’m back to work! I have a theory that I’ve got a lot of stuff my body is waiting to detox until the baby is a little older. I’m using fractionated coconut oil to try to help the process. Plus it’s good for your skin!

  24. Aidee Says:
    June 21st, 2014 at 1:20 am

    I think you are doing great! I was a 5.1′, 115 lbs before my first which was 2.5 yrs ago, he was 8.11 lbs had a big head so I suffered for about 2 hrs. They were about to do a c-sec when they decided to try the vacuum to get him out. I was so beat up and had a big tear that it took me about 6 wks to get well. I was a new full working mom so I was tired all the time and I stayed with that belly for a yr, when I finally decided to get back in shape I got pregnant again. I ate better with my second and did a bit of more exercise. I also decided to have a c-sec with my 2nd which I recuperated in 1 week from and lost all the weight I had gained with the 2nd in 4 weeks. But I still had that pregnant looking belly from my first. I read about my 3″ diastisis recti being the corporate of this so I researched and worked out so many things for 6 months and got no where. Then 2 mos ago I found The Dia Method and I started losing the weight fast and in 1 month I saw a 2″ difference in my diastisis recti. And since I am not a patient person a month ago I added some free waist 10 min workouts from You Tube Tiffany Rothe and YES I’ve been getting back in pants I haven’t worn in years and my diastisis is at 1″. Everyone is different and has to find a method that works for them but I was a couch potato before baby and now I can’t stop working out. If I don’t get a chance to do the dia method which are super light and non-stressing workouts, I do the Tiffany Rothe ones which leaves you feeling like you worked out that waist like crazy. I hope this helps a bit for some desperate moms. I also use skin tightening creams and exfoliate my belly in the shower, something about attracting blood flow to that area helps the skin and so far its true.

  25. Usha Says:
    June 26th, 2014 at 7:55 am

    Did you lose the weight doing workout? If so, what type of workout did you do?

  26. Shelby Says:
    November 9th, 2014 at 12:09 pm

    Hi. thank you for sharing your story. My daughter is about to turn 1. after having two babies back to back, my stomach still looks pregnant if I dont suck in. I am struggling with motivation to get to the gym or work out. Having a 2yr and 1yr old has taken all of my energy and I can’t believe I am already a year postpartum. But reading that quote about losing the baby weight after a year really motivates me. Seeing your journey makes me hopeful I can loose the belly as well.
    Thanks for sharing

  27. Michele l Says:
    January 10th, 2015 at 1:36 pm

    Thank you for this post. I find great comfort in it, it’s pictures and the comments. We are not alone. You are beautiful and you body did a beautiful job carrying a life. I wish I could tell myself the same thing. Thanks again, everyone.

  28. linda Says:
    January 12th, 2015 at 11:59 pm

    Thank you for your story …. I also had a beautiful 9 lbs baby girl and it’s my 3rd c section she’s 11 months and I lost my motivation but after reading your story I will start walking again ……

  29. Michelle Says:
    January 29th, 2015 at 12:48 am

    My son turned 1 in Dec and I am so overweight that I can’t get on scale because of the fear of the figure i would see on the scale.We had a 3 – weeks fast in my church this January and I had lost some weight. I work 7am till 10pm, Monday to Saturday so I don’t have time to workout. Seeing your pics and reading all your comments have inspired me. I am deterdetermined to get rid of this extra big belle but what do I do to get rid of all the stretch marks please….I feel awful when I see myself in pictures.


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