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One UnHot Mama. C-Sections & Stretch marks! -Yuckk (Anonymous)

May 25, 2009

First Pregnancyy.

I had been dating my boyfriend
for 2 months before I got pregnant.
(Bad.. i know)

I was 17 years old.
& I was never confident
with my body. Now.. Id give
anything for the body I once had.
Id walk around naked everywhere!!!

The first pic was (of course..)
BEFORE I got pregnant.
I was about.. 190 pounds.
&yeah. Ima big girl. Im 5’9.

The others are today.
8 weeks pp. 216lbs.- can barely squeeze my thighs in a 14.
&& i look horrible.

Before pregnancy i was 190-size 12.
When I had my c-section I was
250.. yeah.

I had pregnancy induced hypertension.
so I blew up!!

I think I might have
ppd. My relationship
with my boyfriend
has basically gone
to shit.
Have any of you had
stretch marks & a flap
like this.. then lost them?
.
I really need some support?
Im taking care of my son -8lb.8oz.20in.-
by myself. My self conficence is so low.
But yeah.

If anything i hope this
makes the ladies with
hardley noticable stretch
marks feel better! =D

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32 Responses to “One UnHot Mama. C-Sections & Stretch marks! -Yuckk (Anonymous)”

  1. kerry Says:
    May 25th, 2009 at 9:55 am

    when you said you were 216 i expected to see a big girl, then when i scrolled down i thought all the pictures were prepregnancy! wow you look amazing for 8 weeks pp! i am 7weeks pp right now and i’d give anything for your butt, boobs and thighs! congratulations on becoming a momma! its the best thing in the world! and i hope you the best on your journey as a single mom.

  2. Kym Says:
    May 25th, 2009 at 10:03 am

    to tell you the truth girl, you look exactly the same as you did before you got pregnant, it just looks like you have stretchmarks now. Plus, you are only 8 weeks pp so your gonna definitly lose more weight and your stretchmarks will fade alot.

  3. Jennifer Says:
    May 25th, 2009 at 11:03 am

    I think your stretch marks are beautiful. My belly almost looks just like yours. When they say they fade, they really do. You are only 8 weeks! Dont’ expect too much. My belly looked just like yours and looks great now. Don’t worry about it. I actually love the way yours look. Sort of like art!

  4. H Says:
    May 25th, 2009 at 11:43 am

    Firstly, you do not look horrible, and secondly it’s only been eight weeks. The marks will fade and you won’t even notice them. If you use bio oil it helps them fade too. Good luck, and don’t be so hard on yourself.

  5. Angèle Says:
    May 25th, 2009 at 12:25 pm

    Are you kidding? Hun you are doing great!!! I would have never thought you looked like this when i read your entry!! You look amazing!! I have a flap, I am 4 years PP. You are only 3 months hun! Your body took 9 months to get that way, at least, and I mean at least give it 9 months to get back to «normal»..
    I had flames up my stomach and thought for sure I would never get rid of them! You never do get rid of them , but they do fade A LOT!!! Every month you will see a difference, take pics every month and compare, you will see a difference! Hang in there and please talk to your doc if you think you are suffering from PPD!!!

    Xoxo

  6. tamara Says:
    May 25th, 2009 at 12:43 pm

    hey girl!! i know EXACTLY what ur going through…i had my son at 20 and was slightly insecure with my looks before…but now like you said i would only DREAM to have that body back…i think id be the most confident person out there lol…first off i want to say ur stretch marks are going to do A LOT of fading!! to the point a lot of them u wont even be able to see..trust me!!! as for the “mommy apron” that can be fixed..without surgery…trust me i have come to realize its possible cz i did it..yea i sitll have a little one but not at all compared to what it was…just takes a lot of exercising, vitamins, and skin lotions….u can check out my post of before and after exercise photos under Update 3 months of Pilates (tamara). lemme know if you ever wanna talk or anything!! i know what your going through…but u are still very pretty!!! good luck with everything!!

  7. alice Says:
    May 25th, 2009 at 2:13 pm

    EIGHT WEEKS PP?!
    You look amazing, for only eight weeks.
    Your boobs look amazing and your butt!
    Omg and stretchmarks fade, you look amazing.
    You are one hot mama believe it or nottt.

  8. shannon Says:
    May 25th, 2009 at 2:34 pm

    i feel your pain! I am now 22, have had two boys, both cesareans…one in september 2006 and one april 2009 (just 6 weeks ago!) you look amazing. this is your first cesarean, so take my word for it…your belly will go back to normal. your stretch marks will fade (mine were much worse, and then you could barely see them)…and your belly will tighten. i had only a little lose skin near me scar after my first…the second is another story! trust me…you will be looking ever better soon!!! but you look great now as well!

  9. Jilly Says:
    May 25th, 2009 at 8:27 pm

    It is still REALLY early on for you to worry. Give it time.

    BTW, I had a big flap on my belly after I had my son. I am now 37lbs below my pre-pregnancy weight and the flap is totally gone! You’ll do great. Hang in there, sweetie.

  10. Lee Says:
    May 25th, 2009 at 9:16 pm

    you have a great ass, flaunt it…so what if your belly is not the same…a guy who wants you wont care.

  11. Lindsey Says:
    May 25th, 2009 at 9:21 pm

    I think you look really good. Your stretch marks have such a lovely pattern, and they will fade. If you feel uncomfortable in your clothes, get some that fit and don’t even THINK about the size on the label. Cut it off and forget about it. All you need to worry about is taking care of yourself and your baby.

    Relationships can go through rough patches, and having a baby is definitely a rough patch for a new couple. Try not to worry too much. Good luck!

  12. kellie Says:
    May 26th, 2009 at 4:03 am

    Hey, you are in great shape!! And hun believe me those stretch marks will fade to almost nothing. I know because after the birth of my twins and then my son i had them much worse than that. I hated my body and my apron belly, i saw the doctors and broke my heart whenever i had to look at myself but I went on to go on holiday and wear my bikini two years later. My post is under the twins section under 3 kids under three if you would like to have a look at what these stretch marks will look like after a while. I hope they can make you see that there will be massive change in your stomach over time. Seriously, you look amazing and your boobs are great :) Hope that you can soon start to feel good in your own skin. Kellie.

  13. Angelica Says:
    May 27th, 2009 at 6:39 am

    You look amazing at 8 weeks pp. You look like a woman and a mama should look! I am about 50lbs lighter than you & 19 weeks pp and I’d KILL for your body!

  14. Pamela Says:
    May 28th, 2009 at 4:25 pm

    You look the same in your before and after, 8 weeks post partum I would die to have that body! Aside from the stretched belly which is normal since you just had the baby..um..hello.. I know they seem so obvious now but the stretch marks will fade with time. And the wriggly skin around your tummy, it will never truly go away completely but it will diminish drastically. I had my daughter 2 years ago and am still struggling with my body as I was 22 when I had her and I know my body will never be the same. Its a healing process, I am still learning to accept some of my curves and working to improve others that I ca change. Good luck to you, and congrats on the baby!!

  15. Ree Says:
    May 28th, 2009 at 5:47 pm

    omg…ur pics sooo remind me of myself pp, except i didnt have that body! lol. i also have stretch marks on my arms,breasts and legs. and i was also young like you so i know how you feel. i remember lookin in the mirror and crying. but they will fade . believe all of us they will.over time i found the gym (lol), lost weight, and toned up. i finally went in for a tummy tuck, im still recovering. i still have the stretch marks- they were to high on my stomach to remove them all, but they are tighter now and they are lighter(from years gone by). dont fret. give it time.

  16. Leigh Says:
    May 29th, 2009 at 3:02 am

    You are absolutely beautiful. The problem isn’t you, it’s how we see things. Imagine Renoir painting you. He would have made the marks and your other features a central focus of the beauty of you.
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Pierre-Auguste_Renoir_021.jpg
    I hope you get some support. You need it! do you have family around? See “motherwoman.org” for some support online perhaps or some ideas and acceptance of yourself as a mama and love that baby with all you’ve got! how old is he now? a lot of us have had relationship struggles during and postpartum. getting pregnant so fast is always a stress on the relationship. do you live together? if he wants to be a good papa he can do that not living with you. i hope he’s at least a good dad, and if not, there are women who have gone through totally single motherhood who can advise and guide you- FIND some of them even if you work things out. they can inspire you no matter what!
    hang in there…. love that baby…! take GOOD care of him / her? and take excellent care of yourself too – as if you are that baby deserving the whole world just like your baby does. because you both do deserve it. if this seems impossible, just start small. you can always take a deep breath and say to yourself “all is well…” and that is your first gift to yourself. PPD? good therapy and a support group might help too… make some calls and find it.
    big hugs – i’ve had the baby blues for sure and some dips into actual PPD – had a couple signs of it recently (my 4th baby is 2 months old) but thank god its mostly 1-2 signs and even those are going away. my partner and I had a rough few months but things are totally calming down and that is so helpful. I had to calm myself first, though, and accept whatever he was going through was tough for him too. hard when no grandma is around and historically speaking we as humans have needed grandmas around and aunts uncles grandpas siblings – to really step in and do a lot to support not just the baby but the couple. we need more of that in our culture…

  17. H Says:
    May 29th, 2009 at 5:01 am

    if you look at the first photo and the third photo, the only difference is the stretch marks. These will fade, and then you will look pretty much as you did before. : )

  18. sarah Says:
    May 29th, 2009 at 4:04 pm

    I understand how you feel. All the other Girls your age are walking around in skimpies and bikins trying to look like girls in music videos and stuff. I am a young mum too, just turned twenty when my first son was born. If you were a little older and your friends were all other mums you would be comparing to them and you would see just how good you look for just having had a baby. A year after my first baby I was slimmer than before I got pregnant(breastfeeding), my stomach was flat as and I looked four months pregnant at eight weeks pp. Your belly really is shrinking fast and your stretchmarks will fade. You will never look the same naked as you did before. I look back on photos of myself before pregnancy and I cant believe I had any body issues! What was I thinking. Now that I know how much better I looked then and how much worse I could look I just think of how much worse than this I could still look, I could be really fat, i could have a mangled face etc etc. It makes me realize how much nicer I look and that really im not the most beautiful person but Im def not the ugliest either. We aren’t even in the middle, we’re better! yay

    I agree with what leigh says- you really need to get some support systems around you. Take all the support you can get! No one can raise a child all on their own. Look on the net and see if you can find some local support, the net is also good for finding mothers groups etc. You could ask at your local library if they know of any thing for young mums in your community.

    Read as much as you can about parenting it helps with the feeling of being overwhelmed so much. It also means you can make good decisions about the way you want to raise your baby.
    Maybe you could keep your eyes open for someone who your think is or was a really good mum and ask them to be your mentor- they will probably be flattered and very happy to help.
    hope this helps.

    Raising a baby is very full on and real character building, you are doing it and you are brave.

    Treat yourself the way you would expect others to treat you and your baby boy, he will learn what to expect from the world from what you expect. You would never let a stranger say they hated your body or anything so dont say it to yourself.
    Best wishes, sar

    ps. If you want we could email each other sometimes, I sometimes struggle with depression too and am always happy to make my own support network bigger. My facebook is http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=602483828&ref=profile if you wanna add me. I just dont want to put my email here!

  19. mee. =) Says:
    May 30th, 2009 at 11:37 am

    hey.

    im the girl who posted.

    i feel kinda weird having
    these pictures online..

    well.
    i wanted to add that
    i had to get a restraining
    order on my boyfriend.

    ive lost 17 pounds since
    i took these.
    my son is now 3
    months and 1 week!

    thanks for the support
    and comments.

    im finally starting
    to get my life back
    from my controlling
    boyfriend. and im feeling
    better about myself.

  20. Abby Huskey Says:
    June 3rd, 2009 at 1:48 pm

    I think you look great for 8 weeks! And everyday it will get better… I also used to think about what I would do if I had my old body back! I tell everyone that I would live in a bikini:P But now I realize that thinking that way is useless. I will never have that body again, and I need to focus on loving the body I have now.
    I wish you the best of luck with everything!

  21. Nichole Says:
    June 4th, 2009 at 9:05 pm

    Hey listen im gonna be honest with you… im 7 months pp and my stretch marks were just as bad beleive me… its sux but their so worth it! i had the same flap of skin too… the marks do get lighter and the flap getts less and less the more you work out… but they both will never completly go away.. but u do look great for just having a baby! congrats and good luck!

  22. Tone Says:
    August 10th, 2009 at 9:35 am

    YOU LOOK GREAT!

  23. Thomas Says:
    August 17th, 2009 at 12:56 pm

    Slap some cocoa butter on that and bam right back to normal. Listen hun you look amazing im 20 years old and if I met a girl like you she would have no trouble at all dazzling me with her looks

  24. Erin Says:
    August 19th, 2009 at 8:59 am

    It took you nine months for that baby to cook in the oven. You can’t expect to go back to “normal”
    in just a few short weeks.

  25. Cheryle Says:
    August 19th, 2009 at 7:24 pm

    It sounds like you just were not in a supportive environment. Having a baby is HARD work and if you are dating someone who is not sensitive to everything you have gone through it can make things 100 times harder. Concentrate on yourself. What makes you feel better and gives you peace. B/c once you feel good about yourself (and the less stressed you are), the better able you will be to be good mom to your baby. In short, raising a baby is even harder than carrying one. Dont give anyone else your power or strength, you are going to need it for your baby.

  26. Erica Says:
    September 3rd, 2009 at 6:46 pm

    You look fantastic!!! I looked the exact same way after I had my daughter at 17!! The stretch marks will lighten and you’ll find a guy who loves you no matter what! I did and we now have another baby… and I did get more stretch marks with the second (those from the first just kept getting longer…).

    I wish you luck! And you look FABULOUS!

  27. Tysandra Says:
    September 17th, 2009 at 12:59 pm

    i am in the same boat girly! im 4 months pp with ppd and im constantly thinking about my weight. mostly because of my daughters father cheated on me the whole time i was pregnate so all my self esteem is gone. i weigh 177 and wear a size 16. i , i wore great jeans and im dying! to get back in them. its tough, i weighed 155 and wore a 10 before but now im a single mom and i found alot of people my age dont know what having a child is like so, i just focus on myself and my daughter. do something for yourself ya know? go back to school! its great.

  28. Nadie Pearson Says:
    November 9th, 2009 at 8:19 pm

    I began using the Dr Max Powers “Stretch Mark Treatment” every single day about two months ago and it works WONDERS. First you can use it for stretch marks and you can use it for scars and to moisturize your face and neck, ladies!

    You must follow the instructions even though they are pretty simple. If I am using this for acne scars, skin discolorations (sun exposure), uneven skin tone I apply either over makeup (may not be recommended as this could remove your makeup)and on a freshly washed face.

    I use the lengths of my fingers not fingertips since they produce the oils that could cause you breakouts from YES touching your face. I rub into the affected area or scar (even works on cystic acne scars) atleast two to three times a day when I am able to. But if not I do this at night before going to bed. Be patient and wait one to two weeks before you notice a big difference as the scar gets lighter your face appears to be glowing and skin discolorations slowly fade.

    Keep on it atleast everyday. I thought it was only for men who workout – based on the way the product looks, but I am glad I bought this and one bottle lasted me over two months and I used it everyday! Give this product a try, be patient, follow the directions and you will not be disappointed.

  29. Jozie Says:
    February 6th, 2010 at 8:56 pm

    you look so good! I had my daughter when I was 16 (I’m 18 now) and I had really bad stretch marks too
    I had trouble coping with it, when I got pregnant I was 149 and a size 7 at the end of my pregnancy (thanks to steriod treatments) I was 190, it’s been 2 years and I still have some weigh to lose, I’m currently 179 and a size 12-14, so it takes time, I’ma single mother who goes to school and works so it’s hard to find time to do anything else haha
    I recently started trying P90x and so far it’s working great!

    just keep trying to be positive about things!
    just look at your little one and it’ll all be worth it! :-]
    but you do look freaking AMAZING. :-]]

  30. calebs mum Says:
    April 7th, 2010 at 12:20 pm

    im only 17 and have had my first lil boy i was a size 6 befor i got pregnant and went strait up to a size 14 my strech marks are a lot worse then urs i had c-section and it looks even worse don’t panic it will go thats what i tell my self everyday. just keep motavatied everyday and it will go im only 12weeks pp trust me hun u look good compared to me so dont panic we all no how ur feeling u’ll get there x

  31. amber Says:
    October 22nd, 2010 at 5:27 am

    GIRL! your the first post to even come close to having stretch marks like mine… (i will be posting pics soon) THEY DO FADE – but can still be seen. still very uncomforting. people tell me daily how amazing i look, inside i feel disgusting ugly not myself.

    As i read these peoples positive quotes i feel sad. Im going on three years with what youve got… it gets smaller but the more weight you loose the SAGGIER the skin gets…. im trying my hardest to find a way to love myself…. keep up the good work!

  32. James Says:
    October 29th, 2010 at 10:55 pm

    I know that I don’t have stretch marks but I used to be married to someone that had them. She was always so worried about them. I honestly told her that those stretchmarks are like rain on the windshield. If you focus on the rain you can’t see anything else. But if you focus on what is beyong the rain, then the rain simply dissapears and you can see all the beauty that is in front of you. You are beautiful, just look beyond them. And if anyone you are dating can’t, then that defines their true self and that would not due for your child.

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