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Engaged, Lost and Saggy… (Autumn)

Bonnie (SOAM) Before Pregnancy, Belly, Cesarean, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Pregnant, Submissions, Teen Mom, Update 21 Comments

Hi My name is autumn I am 19 and a mom of a 8 month old son, I also among those of you is a teen mom, I found out I was 2 months Pregnant on my 18th birthday and Had my son a couple months shy of my 19th birthday, I am engaged to my sons father but I still HATE my stomach I feel like he dont want me anymore and im just there because of my strechmarks and my stomach and other areas, I had to have a emergency c-section so I have a scar thats Ugly, I Hate the way I feel and I wanted to post this and see what your comments on my stomach, is it like yours? am I the only one that stomach looks like mine? My strechmarks have faded some they were bad, I gained 75 pounds when I was pregnant, and he weighted 9.5, I went from a size 1 to a size 7 can someone help me? How can I loose it? Is there any hope for me?

I am 19 yr of age
1st pregnancy and 1st child
and my son is 8 months old as of now.

The first picture is before I had My son
The second is when I was 9 months pregnant
and the Last ones are 8 months after haveing him

Updated here.

young 22 year old mother of 3, soon to be 4 in need of advice (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Cesarean, Child Loss, Ectopic, No Photos (Story Only), Question, Submissions 26 Comments

I am a 22 year old mother of 3, soon to be 4. I am now 20 wks preganant. I am having very mixed emotions. This is my seventh pregnancy. I was 14 when i miscarried twins. i had my oldest daughter at 16, she is now 5. My second is 4 and my youngest just made 1. Yes, all girls!!! But they are so beautiful and fun. They were all born by c-section. I am a little bitter about that becuase my doctor never really let me know why my first was scheduled i was only a day overdue and i didn’t even get the chance to be induced. I have had a total of 3 miscarrages, one which was ectopic( where my left tube was removed). So I have been cut in the same spot four times already. i am really scared about having a fourth c-section being that my youngest will only be 18 months on my scheduled delivery date. i know every womans body is different, but I hemmoraged with my last. i am soo worried right now. I actually contemplated getting an abortion. My kids father wasn’t really supportive of having another child at the begining because he believes that i am already stressed out and he worries that he will be left to take care of our three daughters if something were to go wrong. But I just want to believe that this is all part of God’s plan for me. I can’t honestly say that i am excited because we are having financial problems and our house is going into foreclosure. My husband really doesn’t keep a steady job and he isn’t really much help when it comes to domestic duties. i am trying hard not to stress out but i can’t help it. i really love my girls they are so beautiful and talented but i cry when i think of losing them. I know I probably sound dramatic but with my last they told me not to have anymore only i was too young to get my tubes tide. i feel so lost right now i feel like i can’t control my emotions. I don’t want to say that i am depressed but i don’t feel like myself these days. It’s really as though I don’t even know who I am. My whole life is centered around my kids i don’t go out, i’ve never been to a club and i don’t have friends. Don’t get me wrong dress-up and tea parties are going to always be great but i just want to know who I am outside of being a good mother. It doesn’t help that people constanly tell me how I look 16 and I’m only a baby what am i doing with all these babies. But I don’t regret them. I just want to define myself outside of my house. I just feel so alone. Does anyone have any type of advice for me?

Wrinkled, saggy strechmarked tummy 4 years after giving birth!! (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Cesarean, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Submissions 30 Comments

I’m 31 years old my daughter is now 4 years old and was born by emergency c section after a 36 hour labour. I put on 42lbs whilst pregnant and lost most of it over a year after giving birth.

I’m so glad to have found this site, as for 4 years I have been beating myself up over the state of my tummy. The skin is sooooo wrinkly and saggy. Fortunately the stretchmarks faded quite quickly but the texture and appearance of the skin is awful. The other mums I know don’t have saggy skin or stretchmarks so this just added to my hatred of my tummy.

This site has made me feel so much better for knowing I’m normal.

4 months postpartum & 2 under 2yrs (Proudmommy0709)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Breasts, Postpartum, Submissions, Third Pregnancy 17 Comments

Well I’m still getting used to this mommy belly, and saggy breasts… The past 2 years my body has gone through a lot, I know that. I AM very proud, but at the same time I am not satisfied with the way my body looks. When I had my son Nov 27th 2007 I did get a lot more stretch marks from him & a saggy belly. As you can see thank goodness, my stretchmarks from him have faded a lot. I really don’t think when I was pregnant with my daughter than much changed, my first pregnancy really did all the damage, and I really didn’t have much time in between pregnancies to try and get back into shape. But now I am 185lbs. and I just started working out everyday, and I have changed my daily diet. I have seen a few mothers really inspire me, seeing their before & afters (postpartum & after they lost weight). I’m just really hope that my saggy skin isn’t so bad that I can’t get rid of it naturally. I will be soo satisfied with just that! I don’t care about the stretchmarks… its the skin that I hate! And my breast!… I’m 21, yess I’ve breastfed for 2 years practically and I feel like they look so saggy…. I miss my perky ones : ( lol that I know will never come back ohhh well! I’m just thankful I have a beautiful family now : ) Thanks for letting my share a tiny piece of my story… And if any mothers out there HAVE lost weight & did get rid of that saggy belly let me know! I’d love to hear you’re story & what u did

Age- 21
Pregnancies & births- 3 pregnancies 2 births
Age children- 23 months, & 4months
Postpartum- 4months

Will It Get Better….. (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Complications in Pregnancy, First Pregnancy, No Photos (Story Only), Postpartum, Submissions 15 Comments

Age:28
Number of Pregnancies:1
10 months postpartum

I just had another “talk” with my boyfriend about my self-esteem. Of course I start to cry about how bad I look now overall.

Up until my 6th month of pregnancy, I was working out up to 2 hours a day lifting weights. I was in the best shape of my life until was put on light duty after discovering I had shortened cervix. During my pregnancy I gained 17lbs at a total weight of 152. My son was 8.8lbs.

Fast forward to present….I can’t get over how bad I look from my body to my skin. My face looks dry and tired. My belly is just disgusting, my thighs are wobbly, my arms are jiggly and my ass looks scary. I’ve lost all but 3lbs but I’ve lost all muscle I had which is the sad part for me. My breasts are still to be seen since I’m still nursing my son. I’m sure they won’t be as perky and full as they once were. I hardly put makeup on. I wear the same old clothes over and over since I can’t fit into the “cute clothes”. I don’t have the time to get my pedicures or my eyebrows done. I lost my motivation to go into the gym since I get winded out doing things I was zipping through a year ago. I feel l’ve aged 5 years.

I can’t appreciate my body after having my son. I love my son to pieces but just hate the aftermath. This is hard to admit, but I don’t have much pictures of my son and I because I hate to see myself and see what I now look like (hence no pictures). I tell my boyfriend that I won’t marry him or have another baby until I get back in shape. I was once overweight and I just don’t want to return to that time. Will this get better and if so when????

My Body, My Story (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Breasts, Cesarean, Postpartum, Second Pregnancy, Submissions 9 Comments

i am 24 and have been blessed with two gorgoeus boys, with my first pregnancy i got very big very quick! i was being asked at 20 weeks when i was due by people thinking it must be any day now. Of course the problem is when you get big quick you get loads of stretchmarks and i had them on my belly, the backs of my legs, part of my back, my breasts and even the underside of my arm. My eldest was due near halloween and i used to joke with my friends and family that i didn’t need a fancy dress costume as i could just go out naked and the sight of a beached whale covered in stretchmarks would scare everyone anyways. Then i had him and i hated my body it was saggy, horrid and completely unnatractive. when i was having my second son i had to have an emergency c-sect which then got badly infected and my self esteem was at an all time low. then slowly i began to accept my body instead of trying to find fault with it and lusting after the toned figure i used to have before kids. now at nearly two years post partum i am a typical woman curvaceous and confident and when i look at my body i realise that it tells my story, it is just another reminder that i have been truly blessed and if other people dont like it, its tough they dont need to look!

7 Mo. PP Twin Mommy (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, First Pregnancy, Submissions, Twins 11 Comments

21 years old

I found out I was pregnant with twins at 9 weeks. I found this website while I was still pregnant, and the stories helped me so much. I don’t know why I’ve waited so long to submit some pictures! I am currently 7 months post partum, and my body has underwent some MAJOR changes. I started out weighing about 130lb’s at 5’5…now I am closer to 165! I’ve been watching what I eat and trying to stay active,but the extra weight is just not coming off as fast as i’d like. The first couple of months post partum were bad (as far as being self-conscience). My babies are truely the lights of my life…one boy and one girl… I love them with all of my heart! My body, on the other hand, isn’t my favorite thing right now, but they are more than worth it. I would go through the whole thing 1,000 times over for them. I remember crying when I got my first streatch mark at about 7 months, and they got worse from there. I have to say I’m proud of my body for going full term with them. They weighed right at 6 pounds each. I have thought about getting a tummy tuck, but only after I get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I think that flap of skin hanging down is permanet. Here are some pics of how my tummy looks right now, and one of my beautiful babies at 6 months!

Finally feel like a woman! (Erin)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Breastfeeding, Breasts, Child Loss, Pregnant, Submissions, Third Pregnancy 13 Comments

I always felt like I wasn’t very feminine looking – my breasts were small, my body thin… I didn’t feel like a woman at all – until I had my children (2 daughters, now aged 3 and 16 months)… I actually wound up thinner, and with smaller breasts than before children, but I have now found new respect for my body, and it’s purpose! I’ve created two beautiful little beings (and breastfed both successfully), and that makes me as womanly as the next….

Photos are:
38 Weeks with my first….
38 weeks with my second….
Breastfeeding my second….
Me today….

~Your Age:24
~Number of pregnancies and births: 3 pregnancies (1x miscarriage at 7wks) and 2 births – girls aged 3 and 16 months
~The age of your children, or how far postpartum you are: As above.

Mother of Two Baby Boys (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Butt, Postpartum, Second Pregnancy, Submissions 18 Comments

Age: 24
Two Pregnancys/ Two Births.
Children Ages: 2 1/2 & 10 weeks.

I find it pretty hard being 24 and dealing with friends and their perfect bodys in bikinis..their perky boobs, and flat stomachs, lack of stretch marks. My husband says I look great in my body now, but when your not used to something its hard to deal with. Even after 2 1/2 years. With my first son, i gained way too much weight. 53 lbs to be exact. Bringing my 110 lb body up to 163..giving me stretch marks and saggy skin. After an enormous weight battle and approximately 1 year ..I was actually smaller than I was before getting pregnant. But, my body was changed..my boobs sag..my nipples are bigger..i still have the stretch marks..but the worst is the saggy skin/ better known as the muffin top. No clothes seem to complement my body. Its now 11 weeks after my second child. I did well this pregnancy only gaining 23 lbs and i have 5 lbs left to loose to get back to my weight agian..I am starting to accept my post baby body and even wore a bikini to the beach last month. If you dont like it..you dont have to look at it. … Im not always okay with my body in public, but I am trying.

Hating My Post-Baby Body (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Breasts, Postpartum, Second Pregnancy, Submissions 15 Comments

I was always in great shape. I used to have visible abs, perky boobs, and a pretty shape. I got pregnant at 18 by my high school sweetheart, and had my daughter at 19. I put on 85 lbs with my first pregnancy. I suffered from terrible ppd and for a long time was depressed about how I looked, but didn’t really care. I was in a terrible relationship and hated my life. 2 years later, I was still 40 lbs from my pre weight, up 7 pant sizes, but finally able to start getting my life back. I decided to leave my relationship and get a better start on my life. Unfortunately I found out I was pregnant again. This time on my own, I gained little extra weight, and combined with excessive blood loss due to a difficult delivery, I left the hospital at 30 lbs over my initial prepregnancy weight, down 10 from when I got pregnant. Now, 2 and a half years later, I am 15 lbs from my pre weight. I wear a size 3, but I am still in agony over how I look. Due to the large weight gain in my first, I have strech marks EVERYWHERE and they are terrible. On my thighs, some are 3-4 in long and an inch wide. I have them on my arms, boobs, starting 4 in above my belly button all the way down to the backs of my knees and my calves. I hate my belly, my breasts, everything. I was married 2 years ago, and I have become jelous, possesive, and incredibly loathing of myself and anyone my husband might find more attractive than I. Some days I think its not so bad, but other I want to lie in bed and cry over what has become of my previously great body. I used to be a happy, confidant, independent person, but now I’m shy, insecure, and needy. I hate what I have become, and am hoping things are going to get better.

Age 23
Pregnancies: 2
Ages 4 and 2