Second Pregnancy

A Dream Un-Attained (so far) – (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Child Loss, Postpartum, Second Pregnancy, Submissions 14 Comments

I have one beautiful daughter who is two years old and I hated my body afterward. I was single and I thought that no one would ever be attracted to me. I was disgusted by myself, and I couldn’t understand how anyone would want to have sex with me. When Brenna was 7 months old a friend of mine asked me on a date… I didn’t realize it was that kind of date until he started acting awkward and stammering with his words. It worked out and we are now married. He’s beautiful grumpy and we’re very happy together… We’re yin and yang.. and it’s just perfect. He’s 10 years older than me and has been wanting his own spawn for quite some time. After we got married we decided to have another baby, and we got pregnant very easily. A few days ago I thought I was 12 weeks pregnant. We went in for our first ultrasound and there was no heartbeat. They performed a D&C. And when I woke up the next morning the painful realization that I was not pregnant, doubled me over and I crumbled back into bed. I finally did get up and I looked in the mirror at the wreck my body is from 1 baby and how I’d wished it was still full. I feel so empty… like I felt after I had my daughter except I had her to show for it… This time I just feel empty. I know we’ll get pregnant and try again, but for now my body is just a reminder that I’m not pregnant anymore.





Loving My Stretchmarks (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Postpartum, Second Pregnancy, Submissions 6 Comments

I have 2 babies, my son is 2.5 and my daughter is 1. My whole life I have been happy with my body except for when my mom would tell me I was getting chunky (which I now know I wasn’t). Before I got pregnant, I was 165 and 5’7. I was muscular and looked great! I worked out about 3 hours a day 4 days a week and pigged out! I could out eat anyone! Then I got pregnant…. I was fueled by McDonald’s and put on about 70 pounds, yikes! I gave birth to my 10 pound boy and went to weight watchers. I lost all the weight plus 10 pounds but I couldn’t get over the stretch marks. My skinny mom had 4 kids including an 11 pounder and no stretch marks. It put me in a depression. Rediculous I know, but I always was the chick with the good body. Then I got pregnant with my daughter and I stumbled across this site. I can’t even begin to tell you how it changed my life! I got out of my depression and realized my body was normal! I read submissions almost every day and cherished my body and what it was doing and what it has done. I actually was sad when the one stretch mark my daughter gave me faded. I am now 25 pounds less than when I met my hubby! I have now adopted a very healthy lifestyle and enjoy my stretch marks for what they represent. I have no prepregnancy pics or any pregnancy pics from my son because I was too embarrassed to take any which I regret now but I am including pic from about 1 year postpartum. Thank you for taking the time to read my long story. God bless all the mommies out there and Bonnie for creating this truly life changing website!



6 Months Postpartum, 2 Kids 15 Months Apart

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Postpartum, Pregnant, Second Pregnancy, Submissions 12 Comments

I am a 24 year old mother of two gorgeous little boys. I had my first son in December 2006. He is now 21 months old. A short 7 1/2 months later I got the surprise of a life time and found out that I was pregnant again. My youngest son is now 6 months old.
I am lucky that after both pregnancies I lost the weight very quickly. I gained 34 pounds the first time and 28 pounds the second. I am now covered in stretch marks, have fat where there used to be none, I have some lovely cellulite on the back of my thighs and pancakes for boobs after nursing two babies. (I’m still nursing the youngest.)Although at times I am insecure about my new body, I love it more than I ever have. It, with a little help from my husband, gave me two perfect little boys. How could I not love it?






…Extra skin (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Postpartum, Second Pregnancy, Submissions 12 Comments

Sexy Extra Skin

Here is my belly 9 months after the birth of my 2nd daughter (born 17 months after my first.) I am 28 years old. I gained 50 lbs with my first daughter (born 8 lbs 13 oz), and with her I measured full term at 25 weeks. My 2nd daughter was born 7 lbs 4 oz. Since her birth 9 months ago, I have lost 40 lbs, and am now smaller than I have ever been in my adult life. I also feel more healthy, and surprisingly more sexy and confident than ever before. I am proud of my belly. I am proud of what my body has done for me. I know my belly does not look “normal”, and no amount of diet or exercise will make it look so, but I am not ashamed of my belly, my stretch marks, or (as my husband says) my sexy extra skin! I am a mommy, and I am beautiful.





3 Years Postpartum (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Postpartum, Second Pregnancy, Submissions 7 Comments

I had a horrible first pregnancy 6 years ago where i gained 81pounds plus alot of stretch marks. I managed to lose all the weight within a few months but was left with a mess of a stomach and butt from stretch marks and extra skin. I gave birth to a second child 3 years ago and my body just isn’t good. I weigh less than when i get pregnant the first time but look worse.




This is Me (Angela)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Breasts, Postpartum, Second Pregnancy, Tattoo 7 Comments

My name is Angela and I’ve never been a slender girl. I’ve always fought with my weight and have had a poor body image since before puberty (Thanks Mom) It wasn’t until after the birth of my first son Azriel that was I was able to gain some sort of acceptance towards my body. Even though it made my boobs a little saggy and gave me a good helping of what I call “fleshie jello” I was empowered by the changes motherhood made in my body. June 25th I gave birth to my second son, Jovan. This time around the weight didn’t come off as fast and the stretch marks were more prominent. Even though there are days when I despise looking into the mirror, I am still proud to have this flab and these stretch marks. This is me, this is who I was made to be. And I am proud.






eighteen months postpartum with baby #2 and 100 pounds lighter (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Breasts, Postpartum, Second Pregnancy, Submissions, Surrogacy, Update 14 Comments

My entire life I have hated my body. And because of that hatred, I had no desire to take care of myself. I gained weight, lots of weight, and teetered on the edge of 300lbs. Then in my quest to become a surrogate mother, I started reading about beautiful women who hate their bodies because they cannot carry babies.That really put things into perspective for me. After two children, and a lot of soul-searching, I finally was able to take charge of my life and start appreciating my body for it’s function instead of hating it for it’s appearance. I’ve still got a long road to go. But I’m on my way to being healthy both mentally and physically. Right now, I’m putting my weightloss aside to persue helping another couple have a baby. At eighteen weeks pregnant with my surro-babe, I am truly grateful for my body’s amazing ability to create and sustain life. Beauty fades, but my children are my legacy, and the joy they have brought me will last my whole life long. When you really think about it, what’s a few stretch marks and extra pounds, when you’re getting the chance of a lifetime to be expirience carrying your own child?



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8 days pp, second child (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Cesarean, Postpartum, Second Pregnancy, Submissions 5 Comments

I wanted to share my pp photos. After my first child, I was wearing my old clothes again within days. This time, its a different story. I had stretch marks after my first, but got more stretch marks this time around. I’m optimistic that I will loose the weight and will post more at a later date, but as of 8 days pp, this is me. PS. I also had a c-section. I had gained a lot of weight before this pregnancy. I weighed 147 before pregnancy and weighed in at 210 upon delivery. I hope my photos help someone who, like myself, is a bit down about their pp shape.




25 After 2 Kids (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Breastfeeding, Breasts, Postpartum, Second Pregnancy, Submissions 11 Comments

I love this website. I felt like I was the only person in the world that had stretch marks! Seems like all my friends and family lucked out with pregnancy. I have stretch marks from the tops of my breasts all the way down to the backs of my knees. I’ve never been too self conscious just felt a bit like a freak, now I know I’m not. I love my kids ages 6 years and 10 months they are my world and I’m so happy to be their mother. I do sometimes get a little sad about the way I look after kids and breastfeeding but I just push through it I remember how lucky I am to have a healthy, happy and thriving family.





Update: 11 Months Postpartum (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Postpartum, Second Pregnancy, Submissions, Update 5 Comments

hi all i posted before here. just thought i would do you an update. I’m still breastfeeding, im still padded and probably will continue to be until i stop breastfeeding. I am however at peace with myself.I will get back to be being in shape again, but until then i have a wonderful husband that love me the way i am and two very gorgeous boys whom i love with all my heart. I was so miserable and insecure before but now im happy with myself.It can be done.To all the mothers every where, you are all beautiful!