I don’t understand how many of you ladies can consider this as still being beautiful. I can’t stand the sight of my stomach…it is a stomach of a 90 year old woman on a 30 year old body. I am not overweight, I am happy with the rest of my body, but I just hate this stomach. Yes, I know that it is a stomach of a mother who has two children….but you know what…I don’t care…I don’t care what my body went through…it became something so ugly, so unreal to me! I can’t even feel comfortable during intimate moments with my husband, I have to wear something to cover up. When I bend down, my stomach skin or fat (whatever it is) just hangs down. I’ve never seen anything like this before…Here are some of my photos. The last one is of my hanging stomach when I bend down, lol. Thanks for listening!
NUMBER OF PREGNANCIES AND BIRTHS: 2 PG, 2 BIRTHS
AGE OF CHILDREN: 3 AND 5
21 thoughts on “This is beautiful??? (Anonymous)”
I know what you mean, and Im sorry you feel so bad about it! I think your skin looks beautiful, yes stretched, but your skin is flawless! I think if it bothers you that much you should consult a surgeon, Im looking into a mini tummy tuck… it just tightens the lower stomach, which is where I have loose skin as well. If that is not an option for you just try to keep your head up, you seem like a strong woman that knows what she wants, and I hope you can find peace with yourself.
I really do not think you look nearly as bad as you think. You look like Julia Roberts…google a picture of Julia Roberts in a bikini after baby…you have her body! Your legs are so perfect! I feel you on not loving your body though. I love my babies, but I DO NOT love my body…I am 23 and have loose skin, stretch marks, and an overhang from 2 cesareans :( You look better than me :)
if you save enough money, im sure a tummy tuck would do wonders for you, seeing as how you hate you stomach so much…I feel bad for you, though…you like me are only 30, i have had 2 kids myself…last one I had 7 months ago. I am fortunate enough to still look like i did pre kids but I worked HARD!
I actually dont think you look that bad, your legs form what I see look smokin!
and witht he poses you are making, like the last one…well who wouldnt look like that?
the pics where you are standing up straight dont look half as bad as you think…you definetly have abs!
Have you considered a tummy tuck, they are not as expenisve as people think? I hope you feel better soon, thank god belly baring shirts are not in style anymore :)
What changed, really? what in your life does your stomach skin effect? Do people in the supermarket notice? NO. Do people at the library notice? No. Do your kids see you different because of it? no. People try to convince you that it’s important, but I promise, it doesn’t matter to anyone but you. If you want to get a tummy tuck, neat. But do it for you. Not anyone else, or what they say you SHOULD look like. Your still beautiful. <3 I promise I’m not just saying that.
Yes, yes it is beautiful!
justice, I think you meant well but some of you comments seemed like a double edged sword.(I’m not trying to sound snarky)
Anyways…I think you look hot! Can we trade bodies please?? We can pull a “freak friday”:)
your skin is so smooth, and the colour is great! I envy Your thighs. Keep Your head up
You do look beautiful!
And encouraging anyone to have a tummy tuck (while saying you were lucky enough to retain your pre-pregnancy figure) is really offensive. :)
I do absolutely not want to be provocative but concerning this site and the mutual attempts to confirm each other that every woman here is beautiful I am asking myself if this might not be counterproductive and if the next step might be to put the question why on earth we all need to be beautiful: Isn`t it enough to be healthy and “functional” and, of course, well cared for and as fit as the individual circumstances allow for? Why shoulf bodies be beautiful? We grow and give birth and age and that is especially what bodies are designed for: To make us experience life, to live in it, to give love and tenderness – beauty has absolutely nothing to do with it. It would be great if we could see ourselves and others this way and appreciate that there is a “functional” body that does exactly what a woman`s body is supposed to to, even if that woman is not a mother: To bring tenderness and strength, compassion and creativity into this world. Of course, that is no argument against living as healthy as possible and enjoying exercise, thus worshipping the body that carries our essence through this life. Wouldn`t it be better if this site wouldn`t be concerned so much with beauty? Just a spontanous idea…
Although I understand where you are coming from… what you have been told is attractive and what is not by the media (what we are all here to un-learn)……YES, this IS Beautiful! Really, I’m not just saying this to be nice and supportive- although I am trying to be that, too. I REALLY do see the beauty in those tiny waves of skin. And as someone else mentioned your skin is a flawless, pretty color and you can tell you take good care of yourself health-wise. I hope you will come to see all of this too.
to justine – trust me you can still work HARD and have loose skin!
to “is this beautiful???” I am right there with you – after having a LARGE baby my skin is wrinkly and creased too. I thought it may go away if I lost all the weight, it did not. The more weight I lost, the worse it got! BUT, I am not saying don’t loose the weight – it makes you feel so much better (more energy, sexier!), but mine just got worse. While my overall body got leaner, my stomach looked better, but more wrinkly. I am pregnant with my last right now and seriously considering a tummy tuck. I understand, while my stomach skin doesn’t “bother” or affect anyone else, it affects a little about how I feel. It is a personal desicion and don’t let anyone make you feel “wrong” for doing it or “wrong” for not doing it. If you make the desicion for your best interest then you can’t go wrong! Keep strong and yes, I do think you are beautiful person, a beautiful mother, everything included!
The thing is, it is not the body of a 90 year old, but the body of a 30 year old mother. What we are constantly force fed from the time we can focus our eyes on a tv or billboard is that a woman’s body is supposed to look a certain way. In fact, your body, my body, and most women on this site and who have had babies, look like us. We don’t see this in magazines or tv because it is not valued in this society or more accurately, our society’s media. Other cultures have different perceptions and definitions of beauty which include women with curves and with less than taught skin. This tells me that what we see as beautiful is all perception, it is all in our heads and we can create a shift in our perceptions if we so desire. It’s taken the ten years since my daughter was born to be as comfortable as I am with my body and I still have a ways to go. I still want to change the way I look but I don’t beat myself up (well…not as much, anyway) as I used to. And yes…to me, your stomach IS ABSOLUTELY beautiful and I say this without the slightest condescension. I strive to achieve what you already have.
Yes, you are beautiful.
For what it’s worth I think you look wonderful! Yes you have some saggy skin but your figure is incredible (I would KILL for your legs!!) and as others have said, it’s a mark of motherhood.
I’m sorry you’re not happy with your figure. It’s not easy to accept your body (I haven’t!!) but take heart that so many others think you look fantastic
Although I’ve lost all of my baby weight, my tummy has lots of loose skin too. The doctor says that it’s a combination of lipomas (benign fatty growths that your diet has nothing to do with, they are just weird deposits) and stretched muscles. At least yours is at the bottom, that’s easy to fix, cosmetically :) I have loose skin way above, too! It’s weird looking, but I try not to think about it… I don’t think it’s pretty OR ugly, it’s just what the body does!
You are beautiful because you are just like all of us. We all look like you. We are all women and we have all been through this beautiful journey called Motherhood. There are ups and downs, but in the end, we are the same.
Wow! I thought I was the only one that looked like that! I totally understand how you feel. My stomach looks like that too after 3 pregnancies. I have the same saggy skin when bending down. And I also don’t feel comfortable during intimate moments with my husband. I know he doesn’t care and thinks I’m beautiful, but it definitely bothers me. You already got a lot of good responses, but I just wanted to say that you are not alone! I totally understand how you feel.
You are not alone! My belly looks like yours, with that sagging and dent in the middle! My kids are 12 and 8. After 8 years of hating my tummy and blaming myself, I found this site. I hate my tummy just as much, but at least I know I can stop torturing myself at the gym and being obsessed with trying to find the right diet and exercise. If I was rich, I’d probably have a tummy tuck. But if I ever saved that much money, I’d rather spend it on so many other things – like a great trip with my kids and husband!! So, my advise is, stay healthy, accept imperfection, and do your best to move on!
Lol. This is the way I keep from beating my self-esteem into the ground everytime I look in the mirror (I used to be scary skinny, then I got pregnant and gained 90 lbs…tool two year and lost 70lbs. At 5’5 and 120 lbs, I am relatively happy withy weight and body …minus the leftover stretch marks. But I can live with those). I stare in the mirror and think “I gave birth to a beautiful baby, who is healthy. My body, this body that isn’t quite the same, came through and did what it needed to in order to ensure my daughter was safe, healthy, and comfy. Yeah, it’s not the same, but all in all, a crappy stomach I can deal with. I can hide it. It was a small price to pay for my kid.” that way I don’t feel like it’s my fault. It’s more of the price o paid to get my daughter, and that I can live with.
I have the same exact belly I know i you feel I hate mine too i was ok after the birth of my daughter but 9 year after i had my son I gained a lot of weight but los all of it and I was left this that. I have to tuck it in my jeans:(
I want you to find my story on this website. And think again what you consider “Beautiful”. I think you are.