3rd baby-stillborn 40 weeks (Anonymous)

Our beautiful baby girl was sill born Jan.26, 2007. We had no idea that she would not be coming home with us that day. We were scheduled for a c-section (my 2nd one) she was breech just like her brother before her. My 1st baby was textbook and a vaginal delivery. She was moving around just fine the night before so when the Dr. told us that there was no heartbeat and that we would be delivering a stillborn baby we were devastated. The cord had 2 knots and was wrapped 4 times around her neck. She was fully formed and beautiful. We are still healing, but take great comfort in knowing that God had a special purpose for her: there were several women who spoke of a healing and closure that came from her funeral or from holding her shortly after her birth. We are looking forward to meeting her in Heaven again one day.

(the image is beautiful, yet very sad, so I made this one a link)
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149 thoughts on “3rd baby-stillborn 40 weeks (Anonymous)

  • Monday, March 12, 2007 at 3:11 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss. My third daughter was born in June this past year and lived only 7 hours. Grieving and healing is a long, painful process but we take comfort as well, knowing we’ll see her again one day.


  • Monday, March 12, 2007 at 10:17 pm

    she was, and remains, so lovely. She came to good people and, the way I see it, you’ll have an amazing reunion one day.

    Thank you for sharing what I imagine is probably a slightly raw-feeling tender experience.

  • Tuesday, March 13, 2007 at 1:25 am

    You are so strong and brave and so is your beautiful baby. Thank you for sharing.

  • Tuesday, March 13, 2007 at 4:51 am

    Your daughter is beautiful. I can’t even begin to imagine how painful it was to loose her. Thank you for sharing her with us.

  • Tuesday, March 13, 2007 at 5:34 am

    My heartfelt sympathy goes out to you and your family. Thank you for sharing your story. Blessings to you.

  • Tuesday, March 13, 2007 at 5:53 am

    I”m so sorry for your loss. I also just lost my 3rd baby on Feb 13,2007 just 1 month ago. She was stillborn at 7 months. One day she was moving fine, the next she was gone. I had a c-section cause she was breech and we got to spend time with her and bury her. We still don’t know the cause, but she was a beautiful baby.
    We are both greiving right now but our little girls will hold a special place in our hearts forever. And we will most definitely meet them again in heaven, I long for that day… Please feel free to email me if you need someone to talk to( endl98@juno.com).

  • Tuesday, March 13, 2007 at 6:44 am

    I am so very sorry for your loss. Your daughter is just beautiful. I know your pain. My third daughter was stillborn. I found out when I went in to deliver her at 41 weeks one day that she had passed. She was moving the night before as well. It was just devastating. 4 years later and my heart is still broken. Life gets easier but the whole in your heart stays forever.((Hugs and Prayers to you and your family))

  • Tuesday, March 13, 2007 at 8:12 am

    Oh, honey. I am so sorry. What a beautiful little girl.

  • Tuesday, March 13, 2007 at 8:43 am

    Oh wow, my heart aches for you…
    I’m not a mother yet – but I can only imagine how difficult that would be. You sound like a very strong woman – I wish peace for you all during such a difficult time. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • Tuesday, March 13, 2007 at 10:38 am

    I cannot imagine your grief. With our second child on the way I realize the dangers so much more this time around. I am so sorry for your loss and please know although you may not know me I can only offer a prayer for you and your beautiful baby girl.

  • Tuesday, March 13, 2007 at 10:51 am

    Your daughter is absolutely beautiful. I have no doubt that you will meet her again and get to hold her in your arms. What a gorgeous little angel. I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I could help. I pray for healing for you and your family. (((hugs)))

  • Tuesday, March 13, 2007 at 11:27 am

    SO SORRY for your loss. Glad to know that you believe she’s with God and that you will be reunited one day. That’s the only way to get through this ~ faith.

  • Tuesday, March 13, 2007 at 4:47 pm

    I am about to have my second son and i just want to tell you that i am very sorry for your loss. I clicked on the link and i saw your daughter. Very beautiful. It brought tears to my eyes. I can even imagine what you are going through. You and your family are in my thoughts

  • Tuesday, March 13, 2007 at 8:17 pm

    I know there arent any words that will make the pain stop, but I want you to know that you and your family are in my prayers. Your angel will wait for your arrival at heavens gate, God bless.

  • Wednesday, March 14, 2007 at 1:07 pm

    I exclaimed aloud after seeing your daughter’s picture “Oh, beautiful girl!” Thank you so much for sharing her picture here.

  • Wednesday, March 14, 2007 at 9:44 pm

    What a gorgeous baby girl. Her little lips are absolutely perfect. I’m so sorry for your loss. I pray that time will ease your pain. Thank you for being so brave as to share your story.

  • Thursday, March 15, 2007 at 11:09 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers this evening.

  • Friday, March 16, 2007 at 2:24 pm

    Hon I can’t even imagine what that ust feel like to carry a baby for 40 weeks and then lose her…..my prayers go out to you. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • Friday, March 16, 2007 at 8:23 pm

    I think you have made a very healing choice to share your daughter and your experience with everyone. I lost my daughter Leah in my 6th month of pregnancy. Words cannot express the devestation we felt, and still feel today (9 years and three kids later). I decided to join a group called Sidelines where women who have experienced pregnancy loss go on to support women going thru a pregnancy after a loss. It is a wonderful was to keep the memory alive by helping others. I think the site is sidelines.org if anyome is interested, otherwise email me at jamiecarney1@hotmail.com. Hugs to you!

  • Saturday, March 17, 2007 at 3:05 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine what that would be like. You and your family are my thoughts and prayers (btw, I think your daughter’s picture is beautiful).

  • Wednesday, March 21, 2007 at 6:23 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss. My first (only, so far) was stillborn 11/25/06. It was also a complete surprise (shoulder dystocia with her cord caught between her shoulder and my pelvis bone) Your angel is so beautiful!

  • Friday, March 23, 2007 at 2:45 pm

    god bless you. xx xx xx xx xx

  • Friday, March 23, 2007 at 4:34 pm

    Beautiful! She is beautiful and always will be. I agree with the pp that you will be reunited one day, and what a day that will be! I cannot begin to imagine or pretend the grief you must be feeling. But I pray you will grieve and heal. My best friend gave birth to two beautiful girls: one was born still and the other passed on to join her sister at 5 days old. That dear friend said that this type of loss you never ‘get over’ you just ‘get through’.

  • Sunday, March 25, 2007 at 7:13 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss. Your picture moved me. I am a new mom of a daughter, and I can’t imagine your pain. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  • Tuesday, March 27, 2007 at 1:01 am

    Your baby girl is absoloutely beautiful! I am so sorry for your loss, I also have a little angel, stillborn at 37 weeks due to an umbilical cord accident. She will be with you always watching over you until you can hold her again! I’ll pray for you and your family!

  • Friday, March 30, 2007 at 8:37 pm

    I am so very sorry for your loss. Thank you for being so brave & sharing your story. Your daughter is beautiful. YOu are in my thoughts & I hope you can find solace in knowing she is with God.

  • Sunday, April 1, 2007 at 8:48 pm

    So sorry to hear about your lost.Your daughter is so beautiful. We just lost our first grandaughter on March 28th at 36 weeks. She had her cord wrapped twice around her neck and then knotted. Our hearts are so broken for our children and her loss. I never imagined that this would happen. Thank you for sharing and God bless you and your family.

  • Sunday, April 1, 2007 at 8:51 pm

    Heartbreakingly sad and yet achingly beautiful, both the photo and the sweetness within. I cannot even fathom what you are going through, but my tears think and speak better for me. She is lovely and you will meet her again. Souls do not fade as quickly as the body that carries them.

  • Friday, April 6, 2007 at 3:41 pm

    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Your daughter was beautiful. I have to boys, 4 1/2, and 2 years ols. Two weeks ago on March 28th, 2007 my husband and I gave birth to our first daughter. I was six months pregnant and she was born stillbirth.. Yet still born. It is hard for me to coop with. I want to try again but I am so scared we will have to go through this again. Are you or did you try again. Is there any advise you can give to me. I am ready to take any advise anyone can generously give me. I dont think this is fair for anyone to have to go through. Hearing others stories does help me get through and knowing that we are not alone. thanks for sharing and god bless.

  • Sunday, April 8, 2007 at 9:24 am

    I am so sorry, my son died 2 years ago at 40 weeks, he had long, thick black hair and weighed over 10 pounds (cord accident) and it happened at home! I almost died myself, and would gladly give my life if he were here instead of me. Today would be his 2nd birthday.

  • Monday, April 9, 2007 at 8:14 pm

    so sorry about your loss. your daughter is absolutely beautiful. our first born son was born still at 8 months on November 29, 2004 with no known reason as to why but I can understand the grief you are going through and my advice is that the grief does seem to get less as time goes by but actually give yourself time to grieve and understand the emotions you are going through. take care

  • Wednesday, April 11, 2007 at 8:35 am

    thank you for sharing your little girl with us. she is beautiful.

    amazing how your post brings so many of us out of our silence…how many of us there are who didn’t get to bring our babies home. my firstborn, who died 11 hours after birth, should be two at the end of this month.

    i’m so sorry. and so grateful to you for having the courage to share your daughter with us.

  • Wednesday, April 11, 2007 at 9:50 pm

    She is beautiful!
    So sorry for your loss, hun.

  • Thursday, April 12, 2007 at 6:45 pm

    Your baby is perfect and so beautiful. I wish you and your family strength and joy again someday. Thank you for sharing her.

  • Friday, April 13, 2007 at 12:24 am

    Your daughter is so beautiful, thank you for sharing her with us.

  • Friday, April 13, 2007 at 5:32 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story and your beautiful daughter with us. May God bless you and all the women who lost children. Remember that your sweet children are with you always.

  • Saturday, April 14, 2007 at 9:32 am

    I just lost my son at 38 weeks gestation. He was stillborn on April 2nd. He had a knot in the umbilical cord and it was wrapped around his neck 4 times!!!
    Did you have an autopsy to find out how this happened? I am waiting for my autopsy results, but our stories are so similar!
    I am trying to find a reason behind this, although there may never be a reason discovered… I just don’t want this to happen to us again. The doctor did mention that the cord was unusually long, and I wonder why that was.
    I pray that you and your family are doing well. I have two boys ages 2 and 4, and it is hard on them as well. I know how you feel, and for me, putting it in God’s hands has made it easier to accept. Easier, but not easy.

  • Sunday, April 15, 2007 at 4:19 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing your story and your beautiful daughter. God bless you!

  • Thursday, April 19, 2007 at 11:00 pm

    Oh, my Lord. I’m SO very sorry for your pain and your loss. Your beautiful angel. She’s running through green fields and tulips, blue skies and sunshine right now.

  • Tuesday, May 1, 2007 at 8:01 pm

    There are no words to describe the loss of your child! She is beautiful! I, too, lost my baby girl. She was 18 days old and would have been 6 in 2 weeks. (She was born with a diaphragmatic hernia) I do have 2 healthy boys now, but my heart still aches for her! God bless you and your family.

  • Thursday, June 14, 2007 at 7:49 pm

    I would like to start off by saying you are so brave in everyway it is this is a loss that only God knows why always know you will see her again thank you so much for your story. God Love You

  • Saturday, June 16, 2007 at 1:24 am

    My heart goes out to you and all the mothers who posted here who have lost a child.. I can’t imagine the pain and sorrow of something like that..I’ve cried reading this whole page.. I was thinking how something like that could have easily happened to me. My 1st son had a lot of distress during labor, he had to be turned and delivered with forcepts and then to discover that he had the cord wrapped around his neck twice. He is 2 years old now, mean as a snake but in perfect health. Thank you for being strong enough to share your story with us, and she is a perfect little girl. God had a reason for taking her you may not understand why now. But one day you will be together again and what a wonderfull day that will be!

  • Tuesday, June 19, 2007 at 2:08 am

    God… Shes BEAUTIFUL. She has been chosen for a reason. She is with my son that I lost three years ago, 39 weeks stillborn. She is not alone and you are not alone either. I know exacly how you are feeling… keep strong and some day you will be happy like I am now, I gave birth to a healthy little girl last year. My thoughts are with you… xxx

  • Friday, July 27, 2007 at 2:59 am

    Your little girl is beautiful, my nephew was stillborn at 41 weeks on the 16th march 2007 there was no reason for his death apart from being to over due. he to died during labour. It’s good that people are able to talk about their Angels openly now maybe more will be done to provent things like this from happening so oftern. my thought’s are with you and your baby girl. xx

  • Saturday, July 28, 2007 at 1:31 pm

    I just want to say that being overdue is not a cause for death. Many, many babies are born even at 43 weeks pregnancy with no problems.

  • Monday, September 3, 2007 at 6:58 pm

    I am truly, truly sorry for your loss. Your story is so familiar to me…our second son was stillborn 5 days after my due date because of a knot in his cord, on March 22, 2007. My heart aches with yours. I know that we will be reunited with our beautiful babies someday.

  • Saturday, September 29, 2007 at 11:23 am

    I’ve read your story, and your comments. Each one is telling you that “God had a reason”, or “They’re in heaven and you will be reunited”. I am glad so many of them have so much faith, but I am not going to sit here and tell you that.

    I have never been a mother and I can only guess at your pain, but I do have an inkling of an idea what it is like to lose something you have cared for and raised. I have lost well over 30 pets in my life due to cars, poison from neighbors, or a house fire, and I have loved them all like a child.

    Seeing these stories brought that pain back, and I know it’s no where near the same but it helps me understand the slightest bit. I won’t tell you that god had a plan or your daughter is in heaven because I don’t know. I don’t go to church and I don’t really have a religion.

    I will tell you however that your daughter had a purpose EVEN as a still born. It was to make others think, maybe there was something about her that the doctors could study, I don’t know. I do know that your daughter’s story, your story, has brought out a lot of people, a lot of which have lost children whether first or third and boy or girl.

    Your daughter is helping to bring them together even from beyond the grave. She was a beautiful little girl and I am sorry for your loss. It scares me that this could happen considering my husband and I are trying to have our first.

  • Saturday, October 6, 2007 at 8:55 pm

    I am so sorry about your loss and pray that God gives you continued strength, grace and deep peace always.

    Thank you for sharing your loss with us — not only verbally, but the picture of your beautiful baby girl.

    Please know that she lives on in spirit and her life is a source of encouragement — having seen her picture will help me help my daughter as she delivers her stillborn baby.

  • Saturday, November 10, 2007 at 8:31 am

    Good site! I’ll stay reading! Keep improving!

  • Monday, November 12, 2007 at 2:43 pm

    I just lost my first baby, (2nd pregnancy though, first was a miscarrage last December) tormorrow it will be 3 weeks since I learned that there was no heart beat. I was 41 weeks and 2 days and was due to be induced just two days later.

    Reading other comments on here are helping me to at least realized I’m not alone. Sad part, is I wish I was alone in this.

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