First Pregnancy

Learning to love my new body (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Before Pregnancy, Belly, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Pregnant, Submissions 10 Comments

Me and my husband tried to get pregnant for 15 months..when it finally happened we were sooo excited..not to mention nervous! I was 105 lbs when I got pregnant by the end of my pregnancy I was 156! I ate very healthy but I still put on the pounds, made it to 30 weeks with not stretch marks and then woke up one morning with three…next moning more and by the end of my pregnancy I had a lot, I was soo upset. My pregnancy was great besides all the weight I gained..I had my beautiful daughter on June 4th 2008..I had a great labor and birth..She was perfect weighing 6 lbs 1 oz..I swore she was a least 9 lbs with how big I was..but that was the best day of my life!…

Looking at my body 4 months later..it just does not look at all like it used to..I had a nice body and now my hips and butt are huge..I have stretch marks on my sides and my lower tummy..I weigh 120 now but I feel like I weigh so much more. This site has helped my feel better about my body knowing I am not the only one that feels this way. But every marks reminds me of my little girl.

Here are some pictures of me before pregnancy and 4 months postpartum..and of my beautiful baby Ivy Jane!!










teen mom and wife (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Before Pregnancy, Belly, Breastfeeding, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Submissions, Teen Mom 23 Comments

Hello so somehow I discovered this site, Im not sure how but ive known of it for a few months now. I finally got the guts to post some pics of myself as I see women that look just like me. It isnt like im alone out there anymore after looking around on here. I am 19, married and have my first child, Aiden. Its hard being young and taking on the wife and mother role. I love it though and I wouldnt want it any other way. I used to be really skinny and I was never happy with my body until right before I became pregnant. I was never fat but i always thought I was. At age 12 I was anorexic and I came out of it from help of my mother. I now know that I should have appreciated my body a lot more than I did. I was 119 lbs. before I became pregnant. A month before that I was 109 lbs. but I just stopped exercising and started eating badly again making me gain weight. I gained 70 lbs. during my pregnancy. I didnt eat too much more than I did prepregnancy but I was on bedrest b/c of preterm contractions from 7 months although my contractions started at 7 wks.! Allowing to get no exercise in. I wouldnt trade my old body back for my son, he was all worth it. But seeing girls my age, I shouldnt have a body the way I do. I mean come on, Jamie Lynn Spears dosent even look like she gained a pound. She was all belly. Her legs look amazing!I have stretch marks on my tummy, boobs, legs (even down to my calves!), sides and even a little on my triceps. I am now down to 144 lbs, need to lose 25 more pounds. My husband is encouraging me by putting me through a hard workout and a diet. We exercise wrestling style together 3 x a week and do Tae bo every other day. I eat no more than 1800 calories a day as I am breastfeeding. The photos I attached are me 6 months postpartum and I attached a photo of myself and my gorgeous son, Aiden Michael. The first one is me when I was 2 months prego and then I attached a pic of me breastfeeding my son. Please leave comments, I would love to talk to other mommies!



Feeling Depressed About Breasts (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Breasts, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Submissions 48 Comments

A lot of you women on here come on here being proud of your bodies and what they have done..which I am.. BUT I can’t help being depressed about my breasts. They seem to sag so much more and I’m afraid of what they will look like after I wean. In these pictures I have just finished nursing on the smaller side.. SO, you can see how much saggier they get when they are not full. Before I was pregnant and breastfeeding (this is my second pregnancy but first time bf) my boobs were a full and perky A cup. They were small but I was happy with the way they look. Now they just sag and even my SO mentioned that they are saggy.. :o( Just makes me feel so sad. I feel like I am 24 and shouldn’t look like this yet.





6 months, now (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Pregnant, Submissions 4 Comments

So my beautiful daughter is 6 months old and it just hit me like, “Holy crap! It’s going by so fast already!!!!” I can’t wait to be able to have conversations with her, take her to play on a playground, find out the things she’ll be into, and just see her grow. When me and my husband found out we were having a baby…we didn’t know what to think! Then we went and saw that first ultrasound we were so excited, it was REAL then. Neither of us had a real family of our own, but now we do and we’re so happy; everyday is a new learning experience with our daugther.










16 married, 17 first baby (Ashley)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Pregnant, Submissions, Teen Mom 16 Comments

first 0f all i l000ve this site!! i finally feel lyke im n0t al0ne!0kayy i g0t married @16..yeah i kn0w its y0ung but i l00ve him&& we were like why wait lets jus d0 it!2m0nths later i g0t pregnant for the first time! i gained 62lbs..i was skinny my wh0le life s0 i just keep eating! i th0ught the weight w0uld just fall 0ff 0f me..but b0y was i wr0ng! && stretch marks..man their everyyywhere!!! i g0t them 0n my b00bs,arms.belly and legs..like i said everyyywhere!!0n Jan 30 2008 i had my baby girl named bailey nic0le r0bles! shes my w0rld i didnt kn0w you c0uld l0ve s0me0ne s0 much! i w0uld d0 anything f0r her shes my heart my everything! she makes me soo happy! i love her soo much! but after i gave birth i l00ked @my b0dy && i hated it! i cryed so much to my husband he made me feel better at that time but then i w0uld jus g0t back & l00k at myself again and then i w0uld cry s0me m0re! my baby is n0w 81/2m0nths && i still hate my belly! it saggs theres stretch marks everywhere! i hate g0ing t0 sch00l and seeing all th0se skinny girls and it makes me wanna cry cuz im fat and l00k nasty! i wish i was like th0se girls that have babys and it d0nt even l00k like it…but thats just n0t me! i try t0 w0rk 0ut but its hard trying t0 find time t0 d0 it..g0ing t0 sch00l,taking care 0f my daughter& at 0ne p0int i did have a j0b..but 0ne day i h0pe i get my 0ld b0dy back..cuz i d0nt like this 0ne! but i l00ve my daughter…i jus l00k @her and think it was all w0rth it!! :]












Accepting the “mom” figure (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Breasts, Butt, First Pregnancy, Piercing, Postpartum, Submissions, Teen Mom 30 Comments

Before my pregnancy I was 115 lbs and stood at 5’8. When I found out I was pregnant I was scared. I was 17 at the time and my boyfriend and I were having problems. When I saw those two pink lines on the pregnancy test I knew my life would never be the same. I broke up with my boyfriend, transfered to a new school and graduated high school on my 18th birthday (5 months ahead of everyone). Having gained 53 lbs and endured 7 hours of labor, on February 20th 2008 at 5:06 I gave birth to my daughter Haylie. 8 lbs 7 0z and 21 1/2 beautiful inches. I credit her with being my saving grace. Since her birth we have moved out of my parents house to a new town where I attend college for Dental Assisting. Haylie is now almost 8 months old and she’s my pride and joy.
I see my stretch marks and while they bother me I’m so thankful my body was able to nourish and carry a beautiful child to full term. I have accepted my “mom” figure, even the good and bad.
I am now 118 lbs and proud of my body.






Beautiful Body (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Pregnant, Submissions 9 Comments

I’m 22 years old and I got married may 19 2006 and found out I was pregnant in july 06. That was the happiest day of my life.I was like I will never get stretch marks I never put any coco butter on my belly and I swore I would be lucky, I wasn’t

My belly is covered in them and Now my daughter is 19 months and now they are fading, but I can see them.. It bothers me but I’m learning to love them, they remind me of my beautiful Daughter Adonia and seeing other women with the same stretch marks lets me know that I’m not the only one… I have been working out to get my tummy back before I get pregnant again…







When he smiles (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Breasts, First Pregnancy, Poetry, Postpartum, Pregnant, Submissions, Update 22 Comments

I want to lie and say that I am comfortable with my body.
I want to say that I don’t give it a second thought.
The truth though…
The truth is that I think about it often.

I can be honest and say I think about it less now than I ever have.
This website helps.
Trying to maintain a healthy outlook helps.
Knowing, now that I have a son who has rocked my world, that love for a child…your own child…kicks all other types of love in the ass.

The emotion I feel when I look at my son conquers all.
If you are a mother, you know that.

You know that you would jump in front of ten speeding locomotives for your child.
You know that you would sacrifice all for your child.
You know that watching every first, step, bite and word is better than…well…is better than anything for which we have words.

I know that I am “lucky”.
I didn’t get stretch-marks (well, not many)
My body handled pregnancy well.
I carried small.

But, in reading what I have written, that “luck” seems trite and selfish and trivial.
It.
Does.
Not.
Matter.

What matters is growth and adaptation and health and happiness and love and memories.

Juicy watermelon running down my son’s chin.
Laughter as he splashes through a puddle.
His assuredness as he navigates his first steps.
That sweet smell of his milky breath first thing in the morning.

When he smiles.
When he smiles.
When he smiles.

I want to lie and say that I am comfortable with my body.
I want to say that I don’t give it a second thought.
The truth though…
The truth is that I think about it often.






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12 weeks pp with first baby (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Before Pregnancy, Belly, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Submissions 5 Comments

i am 19 years old i found out i was pregnant what i was 18 it was scary at first but i got used to the idea even was fine that i had left her father and would be a single mother, and now here i was have a beautiful 12 weeks old baby girl who i wouldn’t trade for the world… but i wish i could be happier with how my body is now i do miss my old body a lot and i wasn’t all that happy with it when i had it but now that i’m 30lbs heavier and 3 sizes bigger i realize how much skinnier i was i don’t think i thought about how much having a child changes your body until i had one of my own… i’m very glad that i have found this website it makes me feel much better knowing that there are women who feel the same or have gotten back to the body they had before i sure hope someday i will but for now i’m not to worried about it i have my little girl here and that’s all that matters.. my pictures are working backwards from now to before i got pregnant.









12 Months Postpartum (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Breasts, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Submissions, Update 9 Comments

Well, my daughter is going to be a year next week, so this feels like a good time to celebrate what an amazing year of changes it has been. It’s been the most profound year of my life, and I wouldn’t change any of it for the world. Having said that, it hasn’t been an easy year. I suffered from ppd quite badly in the first four months until I dealt with it through counseling and medication. I’m doing so well now, and though I struggle a lot with post-partum body image (and it’s funny to think I had issues before now too…) I’m feeling quite good now and in control. Seeing these pictures of myself, and not concentrating on any numbers, I see that I look alright and I should be proud of myself and love my “new” body. I’m far from losing the “baby” weight, but I hope that I’m on my way.





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