The journey of Learning to Love My New Body (Anonymous)

I became a mother at 24 years old, and am now a mother of 2 children at 27. Becoming a mother has sincerely been the most magnificent experience of my life. I was able to conceive immediately and had two wonderful and uncomplicated deliveries that have literally been the “mountaintop” experiences of my life to date. But since having babies I have genuinely struggled to embrace my new post partum figure, until I found this beautiful and encouraging site. My mother and all of the mother’s in my family didn’t get any stretch marks. My mother at 48 is still able to wear a bikini. I meticulously applied expensive cream up to three times a day in the last several months of my pregnancy with my son, and with my daugther, and hoped that I would have a healthy dose of good genetics on my side. However, stretch marks now cover my entire abdomen, and the skin is now loose. My stomach look “OK” when I am standing up, but when I bend over is puckers and wrinkles. The worst part for my was that my belly button got the worse stretch mark, leaving it looked ripped in half. I once had a friend say, “ew . . it looks like an old woman’s face!” Before pregnancy my belly button and abdomen in particular were my favorite features about my body. I was so discouraged that at 24 my bikini wearing days were over! I bounced back to my prepreggers weight after both of my children within four months, and am even thinner now – but what troubles me is “what is under the clothes.” Many people comment that I look fabulous for having two children, but have struggled to accept this. I am genuinely working on enjoying my new body. THis site has been a wonderful source of encouragement for me. However, my greatest movtivator is that I do not want to share by “self image issues” with my beautiful daughter . . .I hope and pray that one day I will feel beautiful again, under the clothes!

9 thoughts on “The journey of Learning to Love My New Body (Anonymous)

  • Saturday, April 12, 2008 at 11:14 am

    WOW I think you look great!!!! You kinda look like me only better cause unlike you I havent been able to lose my “pooch”. I think you would look great in a bikini! Gosh I so wish I had your tummy you wanna trade!? ha ha

  • Saturday, April 12, 2008 at 3:28 pm

    I understand how you feel. You want to be able to go to the neighborhood pool and be the hot bikini mom. I totally get it.

    The thing is you’re a mom now. You have traded six pack abs for a loving child and a happy husband. He is the only one that is lucky enough to see you naked anyway, and as long as he is happy who cares?

    I think you look great and I love the pregnant pick with hubby and his arms around you. It is sweet.

  • Saturday, April 12, 2008 at 10:36 pm

    You look SO beautiful. I’m preparing myself for the worst, so all im worried about is being thin again like you. I gave up hoping for great skin because my mom had NO stretch marks even after three kids and two were TWINS!! She doesn’t have a single one but I’ve got them on my butt and thighs. It sucks, but none are on my belly. As long as I can fit into my pre-pregnancy clothes I will be happy. You look FANTASTIC. And you should still wear a bikini!! You’ll look great:)

  • Sunday, April 13, 2008 at 12:29 am

    I really love your belly. The stretch marks are footprints from your children. To me, it’s very beautiful and delicate.

  • Sunday, April 13, 2008 at 7:34 am

    I’m not sure the person who said your belly looks like “an old woman’s face” is that good a friend! And what’s wrong with an old woman’s face anyhow, right? :) You *do* look great for having had two kids in rapid succession, but I know, it’s what’s in your own mind that matters most. I, too, struggle to get my own image issues under control because I don’t want my daughters to have them, or my son, for that matter. I have a ten year old sister who’s been telling me she’s fat lately!

  • Sunday, April 13, 2008 at 5:34 pm

    Thanks so much for posting your pics! I feel exactly the same way you do. I am 25 with two wonderful kids and a very wrinkly, stretchmarked tummy. You are not alone. I also feel too self conscious to wear a bikini but have found some very sexy one pieces that I think will still look great on the beach in summer. Just trying to keep my chin up! All the best!

  • Monday, April 14, 2008 at 10:56 am

    why should we be done wearing bikinis?? i plan on wearing mine and i look nowhere as good as you! ;)

    if all mommas wore bikinis, who could stop us? it’s a revolution! who’s in? :)

  • Wednesday, April 16, 2008 at 2:59 pm

    You are so beautiful!!! Your belly is so flat! You are gorgeous!

  • Saturday, April 19, 2008 at 7:34 pm

    I think you look great your lucky your strech marks aren’t deeper or wider. I would much rather have your belly than mine.

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