Ok first off my name is rocio im 20 yrs old and i have a son thats gna be two in april. I now weigh 170 lbs my before baby weight was about 120 well around there… i had a c-section (and not by choice) sometimes I feel like my boyfriend is still with me because of the baby. I do realize that im not the same person as i was before. there has been allot of life changing events in my life like moving in with my boyfriend, having my fisrt child, moving to a new city (and i know no one at all)… need i say more… i try to motivate my self for diets and calory counting and all that but its so hard for me. There are days that i dont want to do anything except cry. I feel so depressed. Im not sure why i feel like this but it happens. To be honest there are days that i feel wonderful but then there are the days we go out to the mall or some where and we could pass by Victorias Secrect and he could say something like “oh thats so sexy” or just anything and i think to my self yea okay like my fat ass is going to fit in something like that, but i dont say anything to him i just keep walking. I dont want to lose weight for him i wanna do it for me so I can be healthy and play with my play and not get tired so fast. so if you have any advice please help. everything is appreciated!
5 thoughts on “Dunno what to do? (Rocio)”
you can do it
First, take a deep breath and realize that it is not only rail thin women who are beautiful. Also realize that being a young mother can be stressful and that you are not, and nor should you be expected to be super woman.
Also, it sounds like you may be hovering in the world of depression. If that is the case, it may be best to tackle in inside before the outside. You could try getting some emotional support in the form of therapy, or a mothers group, and maybe look into medication if that looks like an option for you. If you can’t afford the hefty therapy fees, you could try looking into some sort of faith based or not for profit counseling. That may be a more affordable way to go. You won’t be able to lose the weight long term if you don’t fix the issues you are having emotionally. The weight may only be a symptom of the problem.
The way I found is helping me lose the baby weight is that I have started going to a therapist, have joined weight watchers, and have joined a mom fitness group where I can work out with other moms who are having the same challenges as I am.
Good luck to you and know that there are many people out there to help you attain your goals. You just have to seek out that help.
Rocio, one of the best things for you to do, is to continue to have a positive attitude and seek positive outcomes. My husband is a personal trainer and health promotion director and is great at encouraging, instructing, and can help you with a meal plan. you are still very young so please don’t give up. just have a plan!
You sound like you might be a bit stressed and depressed as a result of all the big changes you’ve gone through. Perhaps talking to a Dr. might help?
Perhaps also consider that your boyfriend is saying “that’s so sexy” at something in VS because he would like to see you, as you are now, in it, not to make you feel bad. Sometimes guys are less critical of us than we are of ourselves.