Author: Bonnie (SOAM)

11 months postpartum 20 years old (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Breasts, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Submissions 11 Comments

I am a 20 yr old mother. I couldn’t have imagined that I’d be able to do this well as a mother before I had my son, but I always knew I’d do my best. I doubted that my best would be good enough, but I never knew at the time that it would come so easy when I felt that almost too-strong love I have for my son. I love being a mother and I wouldn’t trade that to have my body back, but this doesn’t change that I want to break down every time I look in the mirror. I always struggled with my weight, except RIGHT before I got pregnant. I finally reached my goal weight, and I was a size 6. From age 13 I had always fluctuated between a size 11 and 13. Then, I gained 80lbs during my pregnancy, and have lost 45 since. I stopped losing weight about seven months ago however, and can’t seem to get it started back up. Now I am left with this and I cant help but wonder how anyone can embrace their bodies when this is what it looks like. I don’t want to insult anyone.. that’s not my reason for posting.. I’m just jealous I guess. I wish I could accept this, and maybe even love it.. I just don’t see how it’s possible. I hate looking in the mirror. Most of the time I really take a good look at my stomach I can’t hold the tears back.




Learning to love my new body (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Before Pregnancy, Belly, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Pregnant, Submissions 10 Comments

Me and my husband tried to get pregnant for 15 months..when it finally happened we were sooo excited..not to mention nervous! I was 105 lbs when I got pregnant by the end of my pregnancy I was 156! I ate very healthy but I still put on the pounds, made it to 30 weeks with not stretch marks and then woke up one morning with three…next moning more and by the end of my pregnancy I had a lot, I was soo upset. My pregnancy was great besides all the weight I gained..I had my beautiful daughter on June 4th 2008..I had a great labor and birth..She was perfect weighing 6 lbs 1 oz..I swore she was a least 9 lbs with how big I was..but that was the best day of my life!…

Looking at my body 4 months later..it just does not look at all like it used to..I had a nice body and now my hips and butt are huge..I have stretch marks on my sides and my lower tummy..I weigh 120 now but I feel like I weigh so much more. This site has helped my feel better about my body knowing I am not the only one that feels this way. But every marks reminds me of my little girl.

Here are some pictures of me before pregnancy and 4 months postpartum..and of my beautiful baby Ivy Jane!!










teen mom and wife (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Before Pregnancy, Belly, Breastfeeding, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Submissions, Teen Mom 23 Comments

Hello so somehow I discovered this site, Im not sure how but ive known of it for a few months now. I finally got the guts to post some pics of myself as I see women that look just like me. It isnt like im alone out there anymore after looking around on here. I am 19, married and have my first child, Aiden. Its hard being young and taking on the wife and mother role. I love it though and I wouldnt want it any other way. I used to be really skinny and I was never happy with my body until right before I became pregnant. I was never fat but i always thought I was. At age 12 I was anorexic and I came out of it from help of my mother. I now know that I should have appreciated my body a lot more than I did. I was 119 lbs. before I became pregnant. A month before that I was 109 lbs. but I just stopped exercising and started eating badly again making me gain weight. I gained 70 lbs. during my pregnancy. I didnt eat too much more than I did prepregnancy but I was on bedrest b/c of preterm contractions from 7 months although my contractions started at 7 wks.! Allowing to get no exercise in. I wouldnt trade my old body back for my son, he was all worth it. But seeing girls my age, I shouldnt have a body the way I do. I mean come on, Jamie Lynn Spears dosent even look like she gained a pound. She was all belly. Her legs look amazing!I have stretch marks on my tummy, boobs, legs (even down to my calves!), sides and even a little on my triceps. I am now down to 144 lbs, need to lose 25 more pounds. My husband is encouraging me by putting me through a hard workout and a diet. We exercise wrestling style together 3 x a week and do Tae bo every other day. I eat no more than 1800 calories a day as I am breastfeeding. The photos I attached are me 6 months postpartum and I attached a photo of myself and my gorgeous son, Aiden Michael. The first one is me when I was 2 months prego and then I attached a pic of me breastfeeding my son. Please leave comments, I would love to talk to other mommies!



Feeling Depressed About Breasts (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Breasts, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Submissions 48 Comments

A lot of you women on here come on here being proud of your bodies and what they have done..which I am.. BUT I can’t help being depressed about my breasts. They seem to sag so much more and I’m afraid of what they will look like after I wean. In these pictures I have just finished nursing on the smaller side.. SO, you can see how much saggier they get when they are not full. Before I was pregnant and breastfeeding (this is my second pregnancy but first time bf) my boobs were a full and perky A cup. They were small but I was happy with the way they look. Now they just sag and even my SO mentioned that they are saggy.. :o( Just makes me feel so sad. I feel like I am 24 and shouldn’t look like this yet.





6 months, now (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Pregnant, Submissions 4 Comments

So my beautiful daughter is 6 months old and it just hit me like, “Holy crap! It’s going by so fast already!!!!” I can’t wait to be able to have conversations with her, take her to play on a playground, find out the things she’ll be into, and just see her grow. When me and my husband found out we were having a baby…we didn’t know what to think! Then we went and saw that first ultrasound we were so excited, it was REAL then. Neither of us had a real family of our own, but now we do and we’re so happy; everyday is a new learning experience with our daugther.










8 months postpartum, fifth baby (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Four or More Pregnancies, Postpartum, Submissions 13 Comments

i’m 22 years old with 5 young kids my youngest is 8 month old and i feel good with my body now i want to lose some weight but i feel like is ok for 5 kids i just need to toned it up cause is saggy and my belly button is horrible that the part i hate the most i love my baby girl and all my kids i wouldn change it for anything in this world..






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16 married, 17 first baby (Ashley)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, First Pregnancy, Postpartum, Pregnant, Submissions, Teen Mom 16 Comments

first 0f all i l000ve this site!! i finally feel lyke im n0t al0ne!0kayy i g0t married @16..yeah i kn0w its y0ung but i l00ve him&& we were like why wait lets jus d0 it!2m0nths later i g0t pregnant for the first time! i gained 62lbs..i was skinny my wh0le life s0 i just keep eating! i th0ught the weight w0uld just fall 0ff 0f me..but b0y was i wr0ng! && stretch marks..man their everyyywhere!!! i g0t them 0n my b00bs,arms.belly and legs..like i said everyyywhere!!0n Jan 30 2008 i had my baby girl named bailey nic0le r0bles! shes my w0rld i didnt kn0w you c0uld l0ve s0me0ne s0 much! i w0uld d0 anything f0r her shes my heart my everything! she makes me soo happy! i love her soo much! but after i gave birth i l00ked @my b0dy && i hated it! i cryed so much to my husband he made me feel better at that time but then i w0uld jus g0t back & l00k at myself again and then i w0uld cry s0me m0re! my baby is n0w 81/2m0nths && i still hate my belly! it saggs theres stretch marks everywhere! i hate g0ing t0 sch00l and seeing all th0se skinny girls and it makes me wanna cry cuz im fat and l00k nasty! i wish i was like th0se girls that have babys and it d0nt even l00k like it…but thats just n0t me! i try t0 w0rk 0ut but its hard trying t0 find time t0 d0 it..g0ing t0 sch00l,taking care 0f my daughter& at 0ne p0int i did have a j0b..but 0ne day i h0pe i get my 0ld b0dy back..cuz i d0nt like this 0ne! but i l00ve my daughter…i jus l00k @her and think it was all w0rth it!! :]












Two boys and trying for one more baby (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Breasts, Postpartum, Second Pregnancy, Submissions 3 Comments

I have had two boys that are sixteen months apart. My oldest is three and the baby is almost two. I workout several days a week plus I try to eat as healthy as possible. I am disgusted with my body but I also realize that this body brought two beautiful lives into this world. My husband looks at me with loving eyes and has embraced everything that came with these pregnancies. However, my insecurities and discontent with body is part of my everyday life.





My changing belly (Anonymous)

Bonnie (SOAM) Belly, Postpartum, Pregnant, Second Pregnancy, Submissions 6 Comments

I am 26 years old with 2 kids, 18 months apart. I was lucky, I didn’t get any stretch marks with my first, but my second was a 9 pounder and I’m only 5’2″ so now I have lots of them! At first I didn’t like them, but now they’re my battle scars….a reminder how how amazing the human body is! I never thought I could carry, let alone deliver(no drugs I might add) such a big baby!