Two births have taken a toll on my body. My breasts have sagged and the skin on my abdomen has stretched. I plan to have these things fixed as soon as I have my last child (3 to 5 years from now) but for now, I feel hideous. I can’t have comfortable sex with my husband, I am extremely insecure and jealous (I never used to be) and although once a glowing beacon of happiness, I have become a bitter person. My friends and family don’t recognize who I have become and I’ve pushed people away and still do on a daily basis. I hate how much this body has affected me. Although the blessings it has given me are priceless and will be cherished always, I can’t help but feel the pain of not being able to look at my body in the mirror. I wish it could all go back to normal but basking in the joys of being a mother comes with a price.
~Number of pregnancies and births:2
~The age of my children: 4 and 1 1/2
19 thoughts on “After Two Babies Under 22 (Anonymous)”
I honestly think you look great. Your stomach especially looks amazing!!!
I think your body looks beautiful. I had my first two babies in my early twenties and was shocked at how my stomach looked. As I’ve gotten older I’ve come to realize it was not so bad. We’re still beautiful and I’m sure your husband still thinks you are too.
As much as i hate it too, i look the same way. Im only 21 and only have one child who is now almost 3. Ive tried every thing and back to try and tighten things up for the time being, but no luck. As long as your significant other is ok with it, you should be too! I felt completely lost until i asked my husband what he thought about my body… And he was honest and said it was ugly, but then grabbed our son and sat next to me and then said he wouldnt ever change it for any thing. Maybe ask your what he thinks. Even tho mine said t was ugly, it made me feel 100% better when he said he wouldnt change it.
I’m sorry but you don’t look anywhere near as bad as you must think you do. Few things I’ve learned the past few years… Health, family, and friends are the most important things in life. I lost my health after my kids and now I am unable to have a normal life. I am very ill and young! You shouldn’t focus on things that are 1. Out of your control 2. Fixable. Please know I understand, I struggle every single day with my body after my kids but please don’t push people away or become unhappy, it’s not who you want to be, especially for your kids. They love you no matter what you look like!
You look amazing. So beautiful. So sexy.
Your stomach is amazing. I would trade it with mine in a heart beat. You have no idea. Your boobs are big which is a good thing I think and I see nothing wrong with them, look great to me. Big fake looking boobs are not so attractive! You look great. I hope some day that you can see it :-)
I understand you may feel uncomfortable with your body but your breasts are beautiful and your stomach is not bad at all! You look like you have a real woman’s body. As a personal trainer and nutritionist I can tell you it would take VERY little to tighten your lower abdomen area back up. At the end of the day however, you have to be comfortable with your body. From an outsider’s point of view though, you look amazing.
I must say your body is amazing. I know you look and see yourself through the standard you once were. I look at you and see the ideal I wish I could become. Anyone who loves you and has you is a lucky man. You have a gorgeous body.
Consider yourself lucky, i am 21 and was always stunning and only realised this after i got pregnant. i had a body of a model, and now after my baby i am covered in stretch marks from boobs to my knees, i can’t wear shorts or skirts anymore let alone swimwear. Im going to get seriously into excersize because you can always tone your tummy back to better then before, please for inspiration look up ‘Sophie Guidolin’ she is a mother of 2 with an amazing body. But please remember at least you are not covered in stretch marks, because as hard as i try i will never have my body back, it will always be covered in ugly marks.
To be completely honest you look great! And your belly looks amazing! I know the feeling though, it’s hard not to judge ourselves, but no one probably sees your body like you do. I’m a first time mom and I’m 20 and for some dumb reason I thought that I would snap back with beautiful skin and a flat stomach and nice full boobs…not the case. I’ve tried everywhere to find out how to regain confidence I’ve even considered counseling. My mom had 3 children by the age of 24 and managed to look like she never had one! Her hips shrank back, her stomach was flat and toned, and her boobs looked perky, so I had big shoes to feel. But over the last few months I’ve realized that it may not be pretty compared to other girls bodies my age, but who cares, it’s beautiful for a mother. Mothers truly do have more beautiful bodies, maybe not sexy (which I would love to have that) but beautiful. We have more curves,we just need to embrace them. If it wasn’t for celebrities I bet no one would have this problem! But you’re beautiful and I mean it, and I bet your husband agrees! Love blinds flaws!
You look beautiful and sexy. Your breasts are amazing and you have curves that are soo nice to see. You have nothing to be ashamed of.
WOW!! Have you ever heard the term MILF? I hope that doesn’t offend you and I would never do anything to come between you and your husband. Nor would I dishonor my wife but you look wonderful and I’m sure your husband feels the same way. Don’t believe all the guff the media sells about what a woman should look like. Bless you your marriage and family.
You have an amazingly sexual and sensual body. Your body is the way nature intends. I am sure your husband agrees, and would love to worship you.
im only 21 and only have one 2 year old daughter , and my body is worst . im actually jealous of tummy . you dont have that big all pouch hanging like mine. i was 130 before i got pregnant . i delivered my baby i was 175 . now im 165 . for 2
years. i only lost 10 lbs. my husbands want another baby , but im too scared for my body ;(
“my husband”. sorry. i typed my husbands.. lol.. i only have one. hahaha
You look amazing, seriously.
However I feel the need to comment on Chuck’s comment, i find your comment completely inappropriate.
Hi Sadie, I don’t intend to start a flame war, but as a red-blooded male I have to agree with Chuck. Men find women of all shapes and sizes attractive, even after childbirth. THAT’S why marriages last as long as they do. Sex continues after childbirth, and its exactly _because_ men find MILFs attractive that babies numbers 2, 3, happen.
Sorry if this offends but its the truth from a male’s point of view.
Oh my, you look amazing! Your body looks sexy (you need to post some standing up) and your breasts are, well, soooooo beautiful!
I have to say, Chuck could not have been so crude in his reply. But, I have to say, you have a beautiful and definitely very desirable body. I hope this helps you regain some of your body confidence. You should be proud of how you look, you are a beautiful woman.