A big thanks to Kate who sent me this link this morning which led me to this article about a mom’s personal experience starving herself during her pregnancy. I have long thought that the focus on weight gain during pregnancy is too strong and even misguided. It is a good and important medical tool to use, but most of us do not use it that way – instead it is twisted into some kind of moral social structure in which those of us who gain the “right” amount “win” and those who gain outside that are forced into self-hatred.
The article mentions that more often anorexia is about control – and how truly out of control are we while pregnant? It’s exhilarating and terrifying all at once. From changes on the surface like stretch marks to changes deeply inside our souls as we realize just how vulnerable motherhood makes us – we are out of control in many ways.
So, take a look at this woman’s story and pictures. And pass it on. And I believe we can help someone out there.
Now I don’t feel so bad about eating for 2 while pregnant. It may not have been so healthy for me, but I know that my baby was getting all the nutrients it needed in order to grow. I can’t help but weep for this woman’s pain.
I agree that it’s a huge stressor in pregnancy: weight gain. Too much? Too little? Stretch marks! Extra fat! Big baby! Little baby! UGH!
I just don’t understand any womans hang up with weight.
If you were “hot” enough to get preggers, you are still that hot to him. If not you did not have a real man. Don’t worrie, you will get bigger there is a lage baby growing inside you.
The dad have it rough eating with you every time so you do not feel bad, you give birth and drop like 15 pounds, or more. Then you are looking at a fat guy.
it is hard to be a dad too.
sorry for the typos.