Age: 31
3 pregnancies. 3 live births.
Children ages: 14, 12, 10 (All girls)
I am 10yrs postpartum
I am 31yrs old, and the mother of three girls, ages 14, 12, and 10. My first two daughters were born natural, and my last daughter was born by cesarean. I had my first daughter when I was 16, my second daughter when I was 19, and my third daughter when I was 21. It wasn’t until my second daughter, that I developed saggy skin on my stomach area.
This was very hard for me to deal with. I was only 19 at the time, and I felt that I was no longer sexy, and desirable. My self-esteem was affected greatly, for years to come.
I tried everything that I could to look better. I even starved myself down to 105lbs. Nothing I did, could take away the lose skin. I wanted plastic surgery so bad, but I could never afford it.
I breastfed all my children, and I had voluptuous breast at that time. But, the minute that I stopped breastfeeding, my boobs shrank to smaller than an A. This was hard for me to deal with as well. I felt that I had lost all my sexual attractiveness. I couldn’t wear anything that showed my stomach, and my breasts were too small to fit into any bras. It was very stressful.
About 1 yr ago, I gained around 30lbs, and went from 130lbs to 160lbs. The only benefit to this was that my breast got a little bigger. Currently I am trying to lose weight due to health issues.
I wish that I could say that over the years I no longer worry about my body. But, that’s not true. I have accepted the way that it is, but I don’t like it. I live in a college town, so it is really hard for me when I see all the young girls running around in the summer time. Sometimes I still feel like I’m not a woman, or sexy like other women. I feel like I missed out on having a youthful body since mine was messed up at such an early age.
I have had men say very mean and hurtful things about my body, and my body has kept me from doing a lot of things, and having confidence to do things.
But, with that all said, my children are the light of my life. I wouldn’t trade them for anything, not even the sexiest body in the world, or riches galore. I love you Marissa, Alanna, and Senora!!
You are not alone. :). I had my daughter at 17 and now she’s 7 months old. I didn’t get any sagging this time around, just stretch marks and my navel piercing is messed up, but my breasts went from sexy C cups prepregnanacy to small A’s afterwards. Actually, my breasts look alot like yours- so you can say that you still have breasts of a 17-year-old. ;). Hahaha.
And I completely know how you feel about seeing other women. It gets me so upset too. I used to take so much pride in my voluptuous breasts and sexy navel piercing, but now I know I’ll never get them back.
But those college girls that you think look sexy
1. Probably don’t have kids and
2. most likely have things about their body that they’re also self conscious about.
Thanks for posting!
I think you look awesome for having 3 kids! You look better than me, and I have only had 2 ;)
I had my first when I was 18, and my body drastically changed. It was hard to accept at first, but after my second child at 21, which was a girl, I started to train myself to love my body. I was so afraid of her reading into my feelings that she would also have self image issues. I want her to love herself, no matter what she looks like. And quite frankly, I’d like to feel the same about myself! It takes time, how long? Who knows, everyone is different.
But for the record, I think your body is smokin’!!
w0w! you and i look so similar! Your body is so curvy… reminds me of the Birth of Venus (painting). But I’m about 160 and my boobs are A cups also. I can’t believe men would say mean things to you about your body…. well, no, actually, I can because some people are assholes. It’s hard to feel sexy when everyone else around you is “young and tight” in their little shorts and their pushup bras.
But the thing is– all women are effected by pregnancy. It’s not fair to yourself to compare your body to teeny-boppers who’re only attractive because young men think they’re easy to get in the sack (let’s face it, that’s pretty much what makes college women attractive to men).
You’re better han that– and i think your face is gorgeous too! (and rock that butt!)
You are beautiful! You have a gorgeous face and really nice legs! The only skin that I see is lose is the skin on your tummy. The rest of you looks so nice and toned. And your breasts aren’t saggy at all! They look great! Especially for having 3 children, wow! I am 21 and just had my first child. I have stretch marks all over my lower tummy, hips, butt, inner thighs, outer thighs, you name it. I am covered! But you know what? I am getting out in my bikini, actually this Thursday :) and I am going to show the world (Or the people at the pool) what a REAL woman looks like. A woman that has given birth to beautiful life. Without the body you have you wouldn’t have your girls. Keep your head up mama. You look great!
well i think you look amazing! i was 19, 21 and 24 when i had my kids they are 4, 2, and 6 weeks old i have the same saggy skin and a 1000 stretchmarks lol!! your boobs look AMAZING mine only look that good when they’re full of milk hehe.. but all kidding aside you have brought 3 ppl into this world and you have nothing to be ashamed or embaressed by you are a woman a real woman i too understand the feeling of not having a youthful body i feel the same way but i to wudnt change a thing cuz my kids are my world!!
Ok I see where you come from. You used to have a great body. But from where I’m sitting you STILL look great. This is my first reply. I’ve come to this site for the last three years. And I think you look great! Don’t be so hard on yourself. Many men would kill to be able to say ” that’s my wife / girlfriend “. I don’t see any reason you shouldn’t flaunt everything you got. Hope this makes your day.
I posted blessed and tortured. and when i look at you i see the same as i see in me… a beautiful woman, curvacious, vuluptuous (sp) your beautiful you have had 3 kids!! ive had one, the guys that have said hurtful things to you were not men in the first place, men know and appreciate a womans body and its journey through life. Appreciate yourself. im only about to be 24 my son will be 4 as well… ive already come to terms with that not a perfect 2os body, i have a mothers body, it took a toll on my body, more than others, less than some, sometimes it gets me down but i remember that its not what makes me, i am beautiful inside and out… appreciate yourself!!
Tell me you’re kidding Misty. You’re beautiful. You’re STILL voluptuous. You CERTAINLY have not lost your sexual attractiveness!
You made mention that “men have made you feel bad” about your body from the things they’ve said. These are not men, they are BOYS. Men see a woman for the beauty she has, and being a mother makes you that much more beautiful.
You say you don’t feel like you look like a woman, but I disagree. You look like a gorgeous woman, and one that any real man would be falling over himself to desire.
Never lose sight of your beauty. You have more than I could put into a post here!
The fact that you’ve had men say hurtful things about your body means you’re hanging around the wrong men. Your body is great – you’ve got perky boobs, great curves, and a pretty face. Don’t worry about your stomach – it’s fine. You would be smokin’ in a bikini! Just put yourself out there and the right men will find you.
And don’t say you don’t have confidence…you’re on this site and you’re an inspiration! No college girl could match what you have to offer!
I love what Jeff wrote!! He’s so right. I hope you believe that!!! More Jeffs need to write in on this blog!! :)
Hey girl.. I want to tell you that knowing you or last couple if years has been cool and man, you are WAY too hard yourself.
You’re absolutely gorgeous.. Ryan and I BOTH think so. Can’t you tell? Lol.
xoxo
I’m glad you posted; I hope it’s healing.
You could still rock a bikini Mama! I think you look great! I’m jealous of your skinny thighs!
Misty,
The above posts cover much of what I want to share with you. There are two I really want to point out. Christy’s post nails immature male right on the head. I agree that you EASILY give “college girls” a run for their money. First, you ARE a STRONG and CONFIDENT WOMAN. Second you are BEAUTIFUL (an understatement) in BODY and SPIRIT. I work on a college campus and the “college girls” should be using you as a role model. Seriously. I hope your girls are.
Kate’s post is from someone close that supports you. Know that there are more of US that KNOW that YOU ROCK!! than you think. Keep supportive friends close. Keep coming back to this site. And, hey, why not go out this summer in a bikini… not only will the sun be smoking hot, you will be too!!
it’s so nice to look at your breasts and tummy… as they look just like mine. Your breasts are still pert but the nipples have ‘had a chew’. my belly is the same. it’s crazy that when we look at someone else we see true beauty. thank you for being so brave… i love my body so much more now. by the way, REAL men love bodies like ours x
I just want to say, “THANK YOU”, to everyone that replied to my post. Your positive remarks, and supportive energy made me feel great! I was having a rough, “body” day today, and I decided to look at my post… I was thriled to see that I had so many encouraging responses!
I think you are beautiful. I’m the mother of four little girls and hard as it may be, we must love ourselves to show them they are gorgeous just as they are. You are beautiful – curvy, sexy and womanly.
I just wanted to thank you for posting your story. I had my first child at 16 and after getting married had two more at 24 and 26. I never got my “old” body back and honestly don’t even remember what it looked like anymore as it feels so long ago. At nearly 10 months PP I’m on my weightloss journey to be fit and at a place where I can be comfortable in my skin again. It’s so hard to accept the deflated breasts and sagging skin but I know my children are worth every imperfection but it’s difficult to look past that sometimes. Your post has inspired me, thank you!
Ok. So I’m a guy. N you ARE a dream girl! So pretty! If other guys don’t see that well there loss. Your very pretty!
My stomach looks slightly better than yours, but, God knows I’d kill to have your back side!
Seriously, as mothers, women whose bodies have gone through so much, we have to play the game of “my stomach looks like hell, but my boobs are amazing!”.
There is ALWAYS something about you that is just beautiful, something that defines you as an individual. Such as your eyes, your smile, your bone structure etc.
Your not fat Mom, your beautiful, and the best mom anyone could have. I love you!