It’s been a crazy week and I’m so sorry I haven’t posted anything. I have a lot of great links for you today, but still no time to make up a post here. Hopefully I will get to do a makeup post on Sunday. But in the mean time I wanted to post a link to this article about a mama who lost her baby. It’s poignant and she says a lot of really important things to keep in mind. Things like the fact that there isn’t a right or a wrong way to look after a pregnancy, and that there isn’t a right or a wrong way to be a mother. Like how even if your child dies far too early you will always be a mother. And how we should stop judging each other. Take a moment today to open your mind to the experiences of others and hold them in your heart. Lift each other up, mamas.
The world “real” rarely carries any positive connotations nowadays. It’s always used to try to build one group up–at the cost of tearing another down. “Real women have curves”, “real mothers are stretchmarked and flabby”, “real men wear babies”, etc. I’ve also noticed that whenever you see something about “real” women, it is invariably about looks, and “real” men is about actions/thoughts. Men are real no matter what they look like as long as they DO the “right” thing and act the right way. But women? Our worth and “realness” depends on looking however somebody else thinks we should, be that thin, flabby, stretchmarked, made-up, not made-up, dressed modestly, whatever. I hate it.
I agree. Moms need to be more supportive and not judge each other! We need to be open minded and help each other, rather that pick out what each of us is doing wrong. And let’s be good role models for our own children.