Scars of a Mother are Like No Other (Roz)

I would like to start this of by saying this website is an amazing place for all types of women and mothers to be joined as one without the cruelties we face in this world day by day…

i was 16 when i became pregnant with my daughter. i was scared because i wanted to go to college and become a forensic scientist and i knew i would have to set that back for a while to become a mother. gratefully the father was excited. even tho he was apart of my life he made it hell. he stressed me out, we argued so much through out my pregnancy and i never felt so low in my life. i begged him to change and be a family. it came to the point i had to leave him because i was in and out of the hospital in pre-term labor and i ended up giving birth to her 1 month early. eventually he got his act together and changed when he saw his daughter being born and we have been together for 4 years now. .my daughter is now 2 years old and boy she is a little fire cracker. i had such a good pregnacy. i had no sickness at all i didnt start showing until i was 6 monthes pregnant. i had no strethmarks until i was 33 weeks pregnant. i thought at first i didnt have many until i actually gave birth and looked in the mirror. when i looked in the mirror i saw a 17 year old girl who had not finish high school yet with no clue what she was going to do now that her child was out of her womb. i was also scared to end up a statistic. thankfully i finished high school i took a course for cardio vascular ultra sound to make money quicker to put my self through forensic school, and now i am goin to start school for forensic patholegy. dispite all those concerns my biggest one was my body. i danced since i was young and did gymnastic as well as play sports. i always hated my body dispite the fact it was beautiful, but now i had every reason to never want to look in a mirror again. i was so excited about my baby being in my arms i knew then wat the love of a mother truly was and it is something u cannot explain because it goes beyond the word love. i cryed everyday once home from the hospital because of my stretch marks. all the young girls who had children who went to school still stayed with th ere flawless body’s and i thought why me. i hated them for not having stretch marks when there bellys were so big and i had such a tiny belly and i did everything to prevent the marks. i was scared ppl would ask me if i had them because i didnt want to hear negative feedback. i was young and i saw how men talked about women and there body’s and how they like women to be and i was no longer that i thought. now 2 1/2 years later i have learned that it is not the end of the world and i shouldnt care what the world or men think. i have to love me and my body because this body did what no man could ever do and that was create life. there is nothing greater than being a mother and have a part of you walking the earth. i would like to say thank you, because reading your storys have helped me look at my self and say ” ur beautiful”.

~1pregnacy and birth
~i am a curvy mommy and proud
~these are photos of me and my baby girl saiyuri

11 thoughts on “Scars of a Mother are Like No Other (Roz)

  • Tuesday, August 11, 2009 at 8:57 am

    Roz, thanks for sharing your story and your little one is blessed to have such a persistent mom. You are very beautiful and you will be able to teach that to your daughter as well that beauty begins on the inside. Congrats on your success thus far with your education and I wish you the best in your career and all that you do. I have a love for forensics as well. Thanks again for sharing.

  • Tuesday, August 11, 2009 at 11:20 am

    You are a very brave woman to take on the resposibilities of being a mother at such a young age. You are so right about accepting our bodies and not listening to neg comments from men. They CAN’T do what we can and that is really something to be proud of. A real man loves the marks of motherhood on the mother of his child and appreciates the sacrifices we make to give birth to our children. It is OUR sacrifice to make and ours alone for our children and we are stronger for it. Keep on with your school and be proud of who you are!!

  • Tuesday, August 11, 2009 at 6:41 pm

    I am sorry to hear about you and the father of your child not getting along, I am glad everything worked out in the end though. You guys have a beautiful child, and you look wonderful. I am also a mother, but of two girls and my belly is much worse. That is awesome that you finished school, and are going to college what an amazing achievement. It is very hard with children, so I give you props. I have graduated but have not gone to college yet, but I will im not giving up. Don’t get me wrong being a stay at home mother is wonderful, but I want to accomplish something in a career field to. I want to be able to support my girls better, and give them more then what I had growing up. Well good luck hun & take care

  • Wednesday, August 12, 2009 at 12:51 am

    You and your daughter are GORGEOUS!

  • Wednesday, August 12, 2009 at 2:37 am

    You look great and your little one is as cute as a button. Stay focused and everything will work out fine, well done!

  • Wednesday, August 12, 2009 at 4:36 am

    I am 27 and the chanllange of mommyhood, work and school is challangeing for me so for you to take that on at such a tender age I admire you. Your daughter is a princess and your stretch marks are beauty signs that you carried a beautiful and healthy baby. I love the new attitude keep it up. It took me a while to like my body back but i look at my own princess and i feel proud of my body. I encourage you to keep it up love.

  • Sunday, August 23, 2009 at 8:19 pm

    Roz, you and your little girl are BEAUTIFUL!!! wow. I admire you for not wanting to be a statistic – I was the same way (had a baby at 20, left the father and it never worked out). I had to be a single mom and guess what? I graduated law school and am a lawyer now. It’s hard as ____ but you can do it! don’t ever let anyone say you cant, it’s HARD but not impossible. Good luck and God bless you! :)

  • Sunday, August 23, 2009 at 10:35 pm

    What a wonderful job you’re doing! I can relate to the isolated feeling of being the only young mom you can think of with stretch marks. Accepting that stretch marks are normal and beautiful is hard, but oh so vindicating : ) You look amazing, and you’re a wonderful example to other young moms : )

  • Saturday, August 29, 2009 at 7:08 am

    You look great and your daughter is beautiful! Well done on going to college!

  • Friday, September 11, 2009 at 4:04 am

    you are both beautiful

  • Sunday, November 8, 2009 at 12:43 pm

    wow your story is very similar to mine (not wanting to be a statistic and putting yourself through school-oh and the awful strtch marks lol), but can i say that you and your daughter are beautiful and beleive they really dont look bad at all…another couple years and they will have faded soooo much more

    good luck with your studies

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