no “mommy makeover” for me (Anonymous)

I couldn’t help but think of the Shape of a Mother website when I read this rather infuriating article in the NY Times about “mommy makeovers” being marketed by a number of (male) plastic surgeons. Thanks for helping to combat the prejudice and hatred of their own bodies that so many women struggle with throughout their lives. We waste so much energy worrying about superficial garbage that could be better spent nurturing ourselves and our children, who I am sure prefer to lay their heads on a little bit of pillowy mama-tummy to rock hard abs anyway.

I had my first baby this summer at age 33. I am old enough now that I am just glad I haven’t had any major injuries or illnesses, and I appreciate my body so much more than I did at 18 or 19, when I thought I was “too fat”. Luckily, I took lots of art history classes, and seeing lots of Rubens paintings and 19th century French academic nudes made me realize that my body is actually pretty normal, and the women in Cosmo (and our society’s obsession with waiflike, androgynous bodies) are more freakish. Plus, I had some groovy female friends who liked to say things like, “It ain’t love without the handles,” and spilled out of their jeans and tops with exuberance and joy in their own bodies.

Here are photos of my pregnant and postpartum body (14 weeks, 25 weeks, term, engorged — yikes! Hello San Fernando Valley!, and 6 weeks postpartum). I am 5’3″ and I’ve been a steady 130-135 lbs my entire adult life. I am 10 weeks out from birth, but I still can’t quite fit into my pre-preg jeans without feeling like I’m in a sausage casing. Thank god for elastic waists! I was lucky enough to bike or walk to work my entire pregnancy, getting 2-4 miles a day with daily dog walks thrown in for good measure, and yoga once a week. I figure that keeping up my walking and breastfeeding will help me drop any extra baby inches I am carrying (I have no idea how much I weigh right now as I don’t own a scale) and fit in my old pants again. A friend of mine warned me not to skimp on meals or lose weight too fast though – she got svelte and ‘back to normal’ in 6 months by doing hardcore yoga 4 days a week, and she paid for her fabulous body by having her milk dry up. So, ladies, it’s good to keep that mama love around as insurance for your milk supply!

14 thoughts on “no “mommy makeover” for me (Anonymous)

  • Tuesday, October 23, 2007 at 10:11 pm

    I love the beautiful veins you get when breastfeeding. Lovely pictures.

  • Tuesday, October 23, 2007 at 10:40 pm

    I had to laugh at that San Fernando Valley joke. :) You look fantastic. I love nursing photos. Beautiful!!! Yes, keep up the nursing. It helped me lose the weight, too.

  • Wednesday, October 24, 2007 at 4:26 am

    OMG your first 2 pictures are no different than your last post-partum ones!!! Good for you! And you’re right, as long as we’re healthy that’s all that matters. Unfortunaley, that realization comes to many people far too late.

  • Wednesday, October 24, 2007 at 9:39 am

    I appreciate that you love your natural beauty. Nice to see that all girls don’t shave.

  • Wednesday, October 24, 2007 at 1:20 pm

    ^^^LOL I certainly didn’t shave down there when I was pregnant. There was no way that I’d put a razor down there when I couldn’t even see my toes!!! :D

  • Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 6:42 am

    :o) LOL about the shaving – I hate that all the pics you see, no one has HAIR!! It’s freakish!! (No offense to anyone who does shave… I did when I lived on a lake…)

    YOU ARE GORGEOUS!! You have such a beautiful body.

  • Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 10:05 am

    I absolutely LOVE your attitude! I wish all women could be like that! You look great – great boobs!!

  • Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 3:37 pm

    I love your friends! And plbth :-P to the mommy job indeed! And you certainly don’t need one, even if I did agree with the philosophy behind it.
    :-) Fabulous!

  • Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 4:12 pm

    you look fab! love your attitude – this is so great to read, all of you comfy with the gorgeous mamabodies!!! we should be so proud too! this webpage is the bomb!

  • Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 8:39 pm

    Absolutely beautiful pics! You look the same now as you did before having your baby, your body is just more curvy. Thanks for sharing your story.

  • Friday, October 26, 2007 at 12:23 am

    You look fantastic! You are fabulous inside AND out.

    I find today’s standards of beauty very unappealing. Who wants to be with a woman who looks like she’s going to get sucked out the window if a strong gust comes by? Not any man that *I* know. Yet this is the unattainable image marketed to us.

    I think REAL women, like you yourself sister, are much more sexy!

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  • Monday, November 2, 2009 at 2:54 pm

    im 17 and had my baby at 15 i lost a bunch of wieght but sumtimes i wonder if i look good for my age can ani one give me any tips

  • Monday, November 2, 2009 at 3:00 pm

    ooh and wut kind of oil or lotion works for strech marks pleeeeeeezzzzzzz help

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