I have always been a healthy weight but still had to watch what I ate.I was pretty naive and assumed that my body would go back to normal straight after birth. I quit smoking as soon as I found out I was pregnant with my son (my first pregnancy)and the weight just piled on. I gained 20kg by the time I gave birth to him at 41 weeks, I was also covered in stretch marks After having him I managed to get back to my pre pregnancy weight by 6 months post partum but I still had the jelly belly. When he was 11 months old I fell pregnant again. This time I was determined to eat healthily and avoid too much weight gain. I put on 8kg with this pregnancy and had lost all that by 6 weeks pp. Today 8 months later I am actually 7kg lighter than what I was prior to falling pregnant with my first, but I am in no way happy with my body I look at my belly now and I am disgusted. It looks like elephant skin. I am no longer interested in being intimate with my husband because I feel so unattractive. He thinks I am beautiful of course and tells me everyday but I can’t help comparing myself to others who have had kids and bounced back straight away
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Darling… i looked like you (u can see my link), with only one baby, and my bellybutton is completly outside because i have diastasis (a big, big hernia of the abdomen, that can’t close and put out my navel…).
I have a big scar also, same elephant skin… but… now i beggin to feel better looking the rest of my body… now i use more skirts to feel good of my legs, i put “bodys” (like the babys!) to ensure nobody will see it… nobody and me too!
And we need to feel strong! The rest of the body is so good, isn’t??? ;-)
Be happy cuz u have 2 babies… me only one and i’m afraid of having more, probably twins… and become destroyed…
You look so so great and thin!
Thanks for your comment. I still sad when I look at these pictures but I do have 2 beautiful children to be grateful for
I will take some new pictures in a few months and see if there is any improvement
I’ve yet to meet a woman who has “bounced back” right away. It’s not possible IMO. I think you look gorgeous and SO SKINNY! I think you’d be surprised at how many of those who have “bounced back” are just wearing some really great underwear! ;)
I completely understand how you feel, I am five months pp and I am very frustrated with my skin on my belly. I worked so hard not to get stretch marks, and I lost all the weight. However, my skin just is not the same. You just have to remember that no matter what every one has something about them they would love to change whether it appears they bounced right back or not but you are beautiful any way.