1st pregnancy; 25 weeks along
I’ve always been naturally skinny. I guess you could blame good genetics. I’m almost 5’9″ and have always weighed anywhere from 124-128. As of right now I am 25 weeks pregnant and I’ve already gained 22 pounds! (150 lbs) I am having such a hard time loving this temporary but new body of mine. I always thought that I would be so cute pregnant…all belly! Well that is not the case! My butt, hips, & thighs have expanded just as much as my belly has. I had to stop wearing shorts at around 13 weeks because my once smooth butt and thighs now have dimples galore! I feel like I am not able to 100% enjoy my pregnancy because I’m so worried about how I look now, what I’ll look like towards the end, & if I’ll be able to get my body back after my son is born. I think about it everyday and I know that may make me seem shallow or vain/conceited but I want to be able to look in the mirror and be happy with what I see! I want my husband to be attracted to me. Finding this website has truly been a gift. Although I am still not completely happy with my growing body my outlook as truly changed. I’m starting to understand that this body that I despise so much is giving me my greatest gift ever and that I should embrace it and know that it will all be worth it. I admire all of the strong, beautiful women on this site & would love to receive more advice and words of wisdom because I know that things are just gonna get better from here!!
6 thoughts on “Learning to Love My Pregnant Body (Anonymous)”
I just wanted to give you my experience. I have always been a little underweight from the norm. I usually have a 20 bmi, being about 130 at 5’8 with a medium bone structure. When I delivered my son I was 175. I was very concerned but my midwives and the doctors in my family explained that I had 5-10 lbs of catching up to do from the norm, so I should expect to weigh propotionally more at delivery. I am back to my prepreg weight now. I will add that I am very active and eat very well, in modest portions. I think the best thing going in my favor is that I never eat for comfort – with the stress of being a mom, that would make it very hard to maintain my lifestyle and weight. I didn’t have that option as a child, and cooking exhausts me, so I turn to other things like sports, shopping (that’s it’s own issue ;) ), or work.
Eat very nutritious foods (kale, nuts, avocado… Google superfoods) but focus your attention on your baby and your other interests and you’ll see that your body will be at a healthy weight, you’ll feel amazing, and you will have a nice, pretty glow.
My butt grew the most of anything when I was pregnant, and it’s the only thing (well with my hips) that got stretch marks. I was looking at my big ol’ dimply bum in the mirror one day, and I made a disparaging comment about it, and my husband said “are you kidding me? I love your ass!” What we think is unattractive isn’t always to our other halves. I’m sure your husband still thinks your dead sexy…plus, you’re carrying his baby! Men seem to find that quite attractive :)
Your body and mine sound very similar. I’ve had 2 babies and with both went from 125lb to 165lb (I’m 5″9 too), and it ALL went to my bum, hips and thighs!
Whenever you feel like this, remind yourself that your clever (and beautiful) pregnant body is not just growing your baby, but is also busy building fat deposits in all the right places for you to have some extra energy stores for the early months of breastfeeding and sleep deprivation. You and your baby are going to need those extra bits of butt, hips and thighs later on, so just relax and enjoy your pregnancy!
I know it’s hard to not feel that way and think about that kind of stuff because I used to feel the same way. I was more hung up over my boobs though. To my surprise, after I had my little girl I felt more confident than I ever had. I didn’t really care how I looked or if I had a bit of a muffin top going on because I felt so accomplished, amazing, and strong. I know eventually the extra pounds will start to bother me but I have to keep reminding myself that it hasn’t been that long and I have plenty of time to get back in shape. My main priority is this awesome little baby that MY BODY grew. It’s a great feeling! Good luck :)
i am now 30w5d pregnant, and have gained…lots of weight. i weighed around 100 lbs pre-pregnancy, maybe a little less. i have always been not only skinny, but underweight, which i always thought was AWESOME! my fiancee seems to think that this new body i’m sporting is as sexy or maybe even sexier than pre-pregnancy! he constantly begs me to keep my ass and hips, and comments on how much healthier i look and how he likes not feeling like he’s going to break me when he holds me. so thats something to think about; your own image of you might not really relfect what others are thinking!
Hi i just had to answer. I am i exactually the same situation.
I am 26 years old and pregnant in week 30 now. and when i was pregnant in week 26 i also had gained as you, i had gained 24. And i had the same starting weight and hight like you. i dont know what i weigh now :-/ i will know when i go to doctorapointment at wednesday.
My mom also have been tall and skinny and she have had no bum, before she got pregnant and gained 44- 50. She got bum, thighs and waist. And me to!! :-( But we have to try to enjoy, and get down to starting weight when we have delivered our babyboy. I hope and think that would not be a problem :-) We must not think we are the only one.
Its better for thee baby that we gain, than gaining nothing. I say to myself. :-)
Im not from an english speaking country as everyone can see, so excuse my spelling and all that :-)