Learning to love it…. One day at a time (Kristina)

Hello! First off, just wanted to say I LOVE THIS WEBSITE!!!!! It has completely opened my eyes and brought me out of my ‘body blues’. I hated my body. I didn’t recognize the person in the mirror. I was completely embarrassed and constantly felt like I was covering up a secret. When i stumbled upon this site, I was looking into if women had stomaches like mine and got back to their pre-baby body without surgery. After getting no results, I started looking up how much a “mom job” costs. Then I found this site. It opened my eyes to the fact that I AM A MOTHER!!!! Not some scantily clad girl on the street, not some young hottie, I am a mom and I am proud of what I’ve done! My children are worth every single mark and sag and scar! I am posting my post-partum pictures…..this is after two kids, one little cutie girl born full-term vaginally(8/4/05), and one handsome little boy born a month premature and via c-section(3/20/07). Now, I used to be very skinny and pretty, I had big perky breasts and a tight flat stomach. So for the past three years, I’ve talked about my body as some morbid disgusting piece of flesh. My stomach and back and legs and breasts are covered in stretch marks ranging form bright red to white. My breasts, once full and voluptuous, are now saggy and disproportionate.I used to talk how I’d do anything to get my old body back. My husband was very supportive through all of that, telling me he always thought I looked beautiful and didn’t want me to look like a teenager because I wasn’t a teenager, I was a mom. So instead of doing anything about my body, I got depressed about it and just let myself go even further. When I tipped the scales at 45 pounds over my pre- baby weight about a month ago, I decided even if there wasn’t anything I could do about the extra skin and stretch marks, I could do something about the weight. So I started exercising and eating healthy, and I’m feeling better than I ever have! I have lost about 15 pounds so far, and I’m planning to lose more and post again in the future. I will also try to find those old pictures of me before having kids and some of my pretty prego pics! I realize now that its not about how I look, its how I feel. And working out and eating better is making feel so much better, and Im feeling happier about myself. My husband is noticing the confidence and telling me its making me sexier than ever as well! I may not look like I did 5 years ago, but I’m not the same woman I was 5 years ago. I wouldn’t ever trade these marks and skin for my babies, EVER! They are so worth it, And moms that embrace their bodies instead of rejecting them are the most beautiful women in the world!!!!!!



10 thoughts on “Learning to love it…. One day at a time (Kristina)

  • Tuesday, June 10, 2008 at 2:22 pm

    You look GORGEOUS!!! Thank you for sharing your story!

  • Tuesday, June 10, 2008 at 3:34 pm

    I think that is so great that you are feeling better about yourself these days! You should! You created 2 little babies which is ALOT of work and changes happening with our bodies. (inside and out) I am 14 weeks pregnant right now and can’t wait to embrace these changes. Keep it up girl! :)

  • Tuesday, June 10, 2008 at 4:24 pm

    Just a medical aside, unless your breasts were uneven before your pregnancy, you might want to have your doctor do a breast exam at your next appointment to make sure that the unevenness is not because of a large lump. :-)

  • Tuesday, June 10, 2008 at 7:37 pm

    Your body is not ugly, it is not what you have come to know as beautiful, but it IS beautiful nonetheless.

  • Wednesday, June 11, 2008 at 3:47 pm

    actually, my uneven breats are due to BOTH of my babies greatly preferring my right breast when they were breastfeeding……… which is actually kinda funny now that i look back :)

  • Saturday, June 14, 2008 at 12:48 am

    I just have to tell you that I loved what you said. I have been very sad about my body since having my third. After my second my body bounced back, and I only had a few stretch marks. I always thought nursing took care of everything. I’m 28 and my (youngest) baby is 11 weeks. I felt really great about my mommy body after reading your post. In addition to everything you said I have also felt (secretly) negative towards my hubby because his body doesn’t have to change in order for him to be a parent. (But mothers in my opinion do so much more for their kids and make bigger sacrifices anyway.) I felt bad about my boobs too.. after nursing my first 2 for 15 months each…I was really skinny but my boobs looked bad, like deflated. Before I had my second I was still skinny with big boobs..I often feel that my husband is looking at other women that haven’t had kids and I just can’t compare… Anyway, I just love what you said and its a great perspective.. I wouldn’t trade my kids in for my old body and the negative feelings stop right there. hehe.. Thank you so much for posting & I think you have a beautiful body! This site rocks! Real Women Unite! hehe :)

    p.s. all 3 of my kids prefered my right side too! what the heck! haha.. I wonder if its because I am right handed and I hold them different or the nipple.. maybe it has a faster flow idk.. just wanted to share.

  • Sunday, June 15, 2008 at 12:56 am

    thank you. my boobs were previously-pregnancy out of whack [the right being 1 cup size larger than the left] and now that i am 6 weeks deep into breastfeeding my new son, it seems like the right one is bend on world domination and the left one is it’ s very shy accomplice. i guess i mean one is huger than the other and they are both huge. and what i MEAN to say is thanks for posting and making me not feel like such a circus lady.

  • Sunday, June 15, 2008 at 9:20 am

    Thank you for the story, your body is still beautiful and you should feel good about yourself. Your tummy is still cute.

  • Sunday, June 15, 2008 at 3:01 pm

    I think your breasts are gorgeous! I didn’t notice that they were uneven, though… I guess I’m just not seeing what you are?
    And congrats on the weight loss, and more importantly, on learning to love yourself!

  • Friday, June 20, 2008 at 3:46 am

    Thank you, feel good about yourself your body is great!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *