I’am 19 years old, I have two children ages 3 & 3 months both by natural vaginal births. My first (my son) was born when i was just 15 years old. Prior to my first pregnancy i was 160 pounds, it was a decent weight for my height which is 5’11”. On October 31st my son was born 5 weeks premature weighing 6lbs 15 1/2oz & i weighed 236lbs… By the time I became pregnant with my second child (my daughter) i had only lost a total of 16lbs (220lb) from my first pregnancy. To me this was horrible because i knew with pregnancy comes more weight. My daughter was born two weeks early weighing 7lbs 15.7oz & i was weighing 263lbs. My children are so beautiful & i’am forever grateful for them but i’am just so disgusted about what my body looks like.
6 thoughts on “I Feel So Wide and Disgusting (Anonymous)”
Don’t be disgusted! I know it’s hard, seeing women who seem to have their slim shape back after birth (I kniw they exist and I envy them)… I know how hard it is, but you have to learn to love your body. My husband said to me that he loves my body and even the scar from the c-section, because all this is because of our beautiful son. I am not that happy about my new body myself, but I’ve come to love my scar – and if I manage that, I’ll manage to love my body, too. In the end, your children will love a soft body to cuddle with more than a bony one! You are a mother – be proud!!
Your picture reminds me of mine when I posted it on this site. Though I still struggle with body issues I truly believe my body is beautiful and so should you. Every crease, wrinkle, fold and stretch mark is a story of your beautiful children’s life. Embrace them. They will fade with time but your love for them will keep growing. You are beautiful.
Oh, sweet momma. You are gorgeous and I hope you can soon believe that!
Your body made and sustained two beautiful children, contains a heart full of love, a brain full of knowledge, and a full wealth of possibility. It’s an amazing creation and it’s gorgeous! <3
You are a strong mother! Your little one is only here months old. Give your body, and yourself, time and love. You can always make changes in the way you live – both in the mental and physical aspects. Believe that you are strong and lovely and trust me when I tell you that your children love you!!
You my dear need to love yourself. Draw strength from your babies, they bring out the best in you. And know that they love and adore every part of you, so why shouldn’t you? When you love and accept yourself and your beauty, your life will change so much for the better. Remind yourself every day, how beautiful and how worthy you are of your love and your self acceptance.
I know how much it sucks not being able to get the weight off. After my first daughter(who is 5 now) I was 210lbs and before pregnancy I was 150lbs. It took me 3 years to get to 180lbs. I just had my second baby girl(she’s 3weeks) and the extra weight melted off. No one knows how our bodies work. I was up to 204lbs with this one and when I weighed myself last week I was at 179lbs. I still don’t understand it but I do think a lot of it is acceptance for yourself. If you love yourself and feel good your body responds to it. The best thing you can do is eat right and don’t give up. Look in the mirror and be proud to have made 2 beautiful babies. Once you feel good your body will react and start working with you.