I had my beautiful baby boy in October 2010, ventouse delivery on his due date! I became absolutely massive as my pregnancy progressed with swelling in every part of my body. I think I was 52 inches around the waist the last time I measured my stomach when pregnant. I gained around 30 kg’s with my pregnancy and my little boy was an ounce short of 9 lb’s.
He has been breastfed since birth and is now 18 months old and still an avid nursling (which I love!) with no signs of readiness to stop any time soon. I know that my boobs are wonky from pregnancy (although I didn’t realise how badly until this picture was taken) and that I’m still quite large around the middle with the saggy skin and stretch marks to boot.
We live with my parents who constantly tell me how fat I am (I was a skinny teen) which brings me down a heck of a lot. We are not financially stable enough for me to afford gym and with an 18 month old toddler running around you’d think I would lose weight a lot quicker! But being very close to my pre-pregnancy size, seeing this site and discovering how normal I am will give me the strength to ignore the nasty comments about my weight. I KNOW I’m not fat but it still tears me up a little to hear my own parents telling me what an elephant I am and comparing me to other people post pregnancy. I also have a merina iud fitted that makes it hard to lose weight but thanks to breastfeeding I’m not gaining weight either.
We have all done such a beautiful thing with our bodies that we should consider the after effects as battle scars from going through such intense and traumatic changes. And just as the battle scars of soldiers, we should wear them proudly and without fear.
Well done ladies, you’ve all made me feel so much better.
Xxx
24, 1 pregnancy, 1 child Sebastian 18 months old
Thanks for sharing. People are mean sometimes just ignore them. I admit i discovered one of my boobs is smaller then the other pre and post pregnancy. I am small chested but did breastfeed both my kids. Dont worry about it weight comes and go’s enjoy your little one!
Wow, I can’t belive your parents would say such things! I’m very sorry you have to endure that. I kind of like your boobs. They’re quirky and have a “fun personality.” Weird thing to say, I guess, but it’s true!! LoL. Just take care of your health and set a good example for those kiddos. Your parents are fixating on trivial, shallow things…you sound like you have a much better head on your shoulders!
Hello!
you’re a beautiful woman, you’re still beastfeeding and this is what’s most important, don’t let anyone stress you because of any kilograms. You are very young and if you will feel like or maybe simply naturally, you will lose what’s not necessary.
I am 36, I gave birth to my son on October 2009 and I breast fed him for two years and 4 months. One of my breasts was much bigger that the other and he also liked driking from it better. I guess it had a better flow.
I am a non breastfeeding mum since February, it was a relief but also I miss it (and the boy too :) and my breast are now really small and hangy,
and I am full of tears becuase I just learned about this website and I think it’s wonderful.
The mothers are the most beautiful and all the signes of the motherhood are holy :)
all the best to you and all mums!
agi
Your title made me laugh. . .I am also a bit lopsided and breastfeeding,haha. Thankyou for sharing. I’m sorry for the criticism you have to endure. Just keep focusing on the positive! You are amazing and inspirational!
Hi, I know how do you feel. It looks like im whatching myself in your picture. Maybe im fatter because its my second baby. I wonder if someday i could love myself again. The good thing is than i cant be worry now haha, i dont have the time. My bobs looks like yours, does you have any problem to breastfed? Because i do, whit the little one. I dont have milk enought, and some days my baby just dont like the flavor and make like she s gonna vomit. Your doctor told you something about the size? Well, anyway… we have a great kids. Sorry about my inglish, im from México.
I have a dad that was very demeaning with his comments about my body through my whole life. After I had my twins, he went so far as to say “wow, are you sure there’s not a third one left in there?” a week after I delivered.
Anyhow, I know how cutting it can feel. As for weird things boobs do…I have four kids and have nursed them all. My boobs have gone from a C cup to a D cup to a B cup to a D cup to a B cup…and now I’m DD. My point…boobs change A LOT through pregnancy(ies) and breastfeeding. My 2nd child heavily favored one side so for a whole year that boob was much bigger than the other. I jokingly named it “Old Faithful” because it produced so much more milk. Your body has done an incredible thing…this is just part of the journey, not it’s final destination.
The assymmetry you’re experiencing is pretty common after pregnancy. You look fine, really. We can all work on flattening the belly and all that, but you look very normal–what many people would see as a goal. Your breasts do not hang particularly low–some sag is perfectly normal, and yours look perfectly fine in that regard. As to “lopsidedness”, they will likely continue to change, and they may even out. If they don’t, there are ways of correcting, of course, but it really is not such a bad thing, except for maybe getting fitted for bras, etc. Cheers!
So.. I have a hard time keeping my feelings tucked away. I don’t know your situation but wouldn’t it be a relief to be honest with your parents and gently tell them that their comments are actually hurting your feelings? You could say something along the lines of “I know you love me and you don’t mean to hurt me.. But when you say that i’m fat or compare me to other people who recently had a baby and say that I should look better.. It actually makes me feel really bad. I’m feeling insecure about my body and the changes its gone through, could you just keep those kinds of comments to yourself?”