I became pregnant with my eldest when i was 19, before i had her i had a great figure (i couldn’t see it at the time but now i do!) i was slim but had curves, my breasts were always small but they were perfect, round, firm and wonderful. Since having my second daughter 8 months ago my confidence has dissapeared, i no longer see anything attractive when i look in a mirror, i was lucky in that i only have the odd one or 2 stretch marks, my stomach has remained pretty much the same as before, i seem to have acquired an unusually flat flabby bum, which seems unfair considering i’m so bony everywhere else, i could at least have a nice perky bum :P and my breasts.. well, not only are they still small but now they sag, and my nipples are darker, they don’t look ‘sexy’ at all anymore. I’ve always had a very slim figure but since having my girls my weight has plummeted and i am left with NO curves, i would do anything for a bit of weight on me, i just want to feel feminine again!
I have uploaded some recent photos (and yes there appears to be an ‘orb’ on the photo of my bum! :P) and i am a little scared of getting negative comments, not about the changes to my body due to having children but more my weight, i have some health issues at the moment that means i really cannot put on weight, i would do almost anything for a few curves here and there! ;) i am always jealous of curvy ladies, women on this website who upload photos saying they feel ‘fat’ or ‘flabby’ all i see is CURVES! beautiful soft curvy bums and boobs.. and i’d give anything to have some of them! :D
Anyway, i have been browsing this wonderful website for months now, and every body i see looks beautiful, i’m just hoping to see myself in the same way i see every other mother one day, your all stunning, i never notice the stretch marks or the sagging skin, all i see is a woman who is a mother, a woman who has experienced the most amazing thing in the world, creating life! nobody should EVER feel anything less than stunning after having a child, you no longer have the body of a girl, you have the body of a woman, that should be celebrated and adored, it’s a real shame the media have made so many mums out there feel inadequate, we all have amazing qualities, we are all beautiful in our own ways and variety is the spice of life :)
2 pregnancies and 2 births.
Almost 3 year old daughter and an 8 month old daughter.
16 thoughts on “Confidence?.. what’s that? (Suzanne)”
you don’t want to hear it but you look perfect. i’ll trade you bodies! except then you’d get the curves with the stretch marks … enjoy your smooth skin, it’s gorgeous!
You look amazing. I thought these photos were pre-baby! I hope you can see yourself the way that others see you, too. Beautiful!
Yes, you are quite thin, but you look very feminine. And your breasts are fantastic. They are not saggy at all!
you have great hips i would say you have perfect curves!!! you look unbelievable …i really cannot believe you have had two kids i really wish you could see how beautiful you look and i am NOT just saying it i really mean it!
Oh my gosh! You look amazing, your tummy is so smooth! And you have perky boobs, go mama!
I guess we always want what we can’t have, because girl, you look amazing! I would love to have that body! Your stomach is great and your breats look fantastic, especially after 2 kids! I know it’s hard to see yourself the way others see you, but try not to be so hard on yourself!
Maybe you need a guy’s opinion. You look great and have a naturally athletic figure. For your bum being flabby, it’s not. Looks fine to me. And as for your boobs being “saggy” and your nipples being too “dark”, I think you’re very wrong on both counts. They look great to me. Work on getting the confidence you deserve!
Those last two paragraphs you wrote really made me almost cry, in a good way! It is so nice to read how nice we women look who think we are fat or flabby! WEll, just everything you said… thank you!!! It made my day just to read that! And you look really, really great!!!
you look GREAT…Iam jealous, my bf says your hot,lol.
you have great boobs and you can just do lunges to “fix” your bum, you look really good, no worries girly
You look FLAWLESS!!! I’m so jealous. You’re GORGEOUS! And John is right, you have a gorgeous athletic figure (a la Michaela Conlin) – just beautiful. My positively envious!
You look great! Your breast are NOT at all saggy! OMG, not at all! Take a look at other women on here if you want to see some saggy breasts. I’m pale, and my nipples never darkened with pregnancy like the books said, and I felt ripped off, LOL.
I think if you had different panties on, your bum might not look ‘droopy’. I think because you can see the bottom curve (the ‘smile’), you’re thinking it’s droopy, but the problem is actually your panties are cut too high :)
Hmmm..stunning. Really. Enjoy it!
You look absolutely amazing!!!! There is nothing wrong with you!!!! Repeat after me, I look amazing. All these strange women are writing me and telling me this, they must be right. I would give a million dollars to look like you. Smile and be proud of what your body did.
you look great!! I feel ya on the boob thing,, perky 32 C , didnt hardly even ever need a bra :) but now well,,, not so much lol,,, now i HAVE to watch what i eat and workout,, but its totally worth it to keep myself strong and healthy to take care of my beautiful baby girl,, be encouraged,, you look lovely,,, oh and if you want, try adding more protein to your diet and do weight training,, that should help pack on a few pounds!!!! :)
omg, you look awesome!!!
Suzanne I could be you. We have almost identical figures (though I have slightly smaller breasts and less tummy definition), I feel exactly as you do…and yet, looking at your pictures I see a beautiful woman.
I guess it goes to show it really is all in the self esteem.