body image after second pregnancy (Anonymous)

At 5’7″, during my first pregnacy with my girl, I gained 80lbs and went from 130lbs to 210lbs the day I went in to labor. It was HARD work but I lost all the weight (and then some) and went sorta back to normal. When I became pregnant again I became worried that I would gain the same amount of weight but ended up gaining half. The stangest thing about my second pregancy is that after I lost all the weight (only took a few months) I still remain one size bigger then I was before I got pregnant. Now 10 months later, I am nearly 10lbs lighter then when I became prego with my second and I still have a hard time squeazing in to the jeans I wore before I got prego with him. What the hec is up with that? I am having a harder time excepting my body this time around. And the boobs; has anyone else gone up 4 whole cup sizes to be left with saggy boobs? I want to except and embrace what motherhood has done, but who can really love stretch marks.

12 thoughts on “body image after second pregnancy (Anonymous)

  • Friday, October 5, 2007 at 9:15 am

    I just wanted to let you know you look wonderful! But also I found that even though I am the same size, my body doesn’t fit things the same way. My hips got a lot wider, with each birth, other than my first they got wider. So that makes a difference on how things fit. Also with my breasts, I have not nursed my little one for a little over a year and they are slowly filling back in. They were like bags of skin hanging there after I weaned her. I hope you will be able to figure out what works for your body now. :-)

  • Friday, October 5, 2007 at 10:26 am

    Hey, I’ll take extra weight, saggy boobs and stretchmarks if I looked like you! Lol! But seriously you look great. I had the same problem fitting into my clothes. I am 5 lbs lighter than before I got pregnant, and i still have fat hanging out of my jeans that i never had before. The weight is just shifted. I think you carry it differently post partum. You’re a beauty either way.

  • Friday, October 5, 2007 at 11:00 am

    You look fantastic! And the great thing is that nobody has to see us naked but our husbands lol! And what a perfect pregnant belly you had!!! Wow! Just glowing with beauty!

  • Friday, October 5, 2007 at 11:56 am

    With your movie star looks, don’t worry about your boobs! You are absolutely gorgeous, as are your children.

  • Friday, October 5, 2007 at 6:49 pm

    i think you look wonderful and i agree..who can love stretchmarks? My pregnancies were only a few mths apart. i have a 21 and 6month body still hasnt gone back to “normal” even though i dropped the weight very fast. keep your chin up though! you are beautiful and so are your children :)

  • Saturday, October 6, 2007 at 5:28 am

    Hey you have done really well considering your weight gain was so dramatic.

    You are beautiful and i love your big pregnant belly – actually the shape of it looks as though your baby was in a Posterior position because it kind of flattens out in the middle, my stomach looked the same in some pics and then completely round like a half moon in other ones- Aint that funny!
    your so lucky to have such a great post partum figure, you truely look as though you worked hard to get it back- but about those jeans- you have to remember that muscle weighs more than fat!! You’ll get there one day. – Soon…
    Though i think those beautiful babies of yours are all worth it. So cute!

  • Monday, October 8, 2007 at 7:46 am

    my wife and mother of our 2 children has ‘stretch’ marks from the pregnancies.
    I call them her Tiger Stripes.
    They are awesome. She owns them. I love them.

  • Tuesday, July 15, 2008 at 9:51 am

    I know its hard to love stretch marks. I am honest.. I dont love them AT ALL. I would get rid of them in a heart beat if I could. But I have learned to accept them… and Id do it again any day for my children. I think you are stunning though and have nothing to worry about.

    I only gained 24 lbs with my pregnancy, both… yet still got terrible marks. What gets me is when a woman can gain 90 and not get one. HAHA im like what the heck!

    But we are all different… and Im just thankful for my healthy and beautiful boys.

  • Wednesday, September 24, 2008 at 10:19 am

    I think you look awesome! I have had a terrible time coming to terms with my post pregnancy body. I had a 9pound baby and had no stretch marks right up until the last week, I really thought i was going to get away with it but they got me. I was skinny before and i really loved the way I looked. I have an identical twin sister who is still tiny and I just feel like a lump. I’m pregnant again now and feeling really scared. I love my babies of course but I really miss my body and find it hard to accept that it might be gone for good. I guess it’s just gonna take a bit of time. But you do look amazing!

  • Thursday, October 9, 2008 at 7:25 pm

    I have two beautiful sons. And I’m very grateful and proud for having them.
    But I too find it hard to come to terms with myself now.
    It’s heaps harder to accept post baby body when you were such a sort after person before children.
    You are a lovely looking lady I agree. And that is the problem. It’s hard to feel pretty again.

    I feel very uncomfortable for my partner to even touch my stomach let alone see it. I don’t feel like anyone would be attracted to me if they could see me naked. I don’t want to have sex now because of this.

    I had a perfect flat stomach before my kids and had no problems getting people interested in me. I’m not a vain up myself person at all. But the stretch marks do make me feel gross. If a strange man smiles at me I feel embarressed. He wouldn’t do that if he saw me underneath.

    I wouldn’t change having my boys for anything but I do wish I could like myself again. I don’t think time will change how I feel. I could never let another man see me either. Would totally destroy their fantasy of me.

  • Friday, November 14, 2008 at 11:34 am

    you look great….and when its gets hard for you to except your new body just imagine all those women out there with no kids at all that still dont look half as good as you do….and for gaining so much weight you did a wonderful job losing it….i know its hard to have stretch marks i hate mine i dont think i would ever be caught dead in a bathing suit…not even a one peice….im preg with my second child and im so worried that the marks are going to get worse but im learning to think of them as proof of what a beautiful thing i have done!!!!!

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