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You think you sag… ppppllzzz. (Anonymous)

July 25, 2008

this is me bending down…I am only 21 years old…my body was very beautiful before… i’ve lost 110 lbs..i have no fat in my body just lots of hanging skin that tortures me every time i look in teh mirror. I’m almost numb from it becuase i don’t beleive i really look like that… I love my baby more then anything in the world and I would yes definatley go through all of this again with the same outcome to have her..but COME on who can look at me and say plastic surgery would be selfish..too bad I can not afford it and probably will never be able to afford it..so I have no choice but to accept this body as I’m sure the majority of mothers can’t. So i live with it every day and will keep doing so … i will spend my wedding night with a top on.. i will look really great in clothes and have a secret underneath them everywhere I go. I wish I had help financially to to fix this..but ya know what..my body is healthy it works well..it keeps me alive every day so i can be there for my baby and beleive it or not i still thank God every day that I have my health and that I made a healthy child. It’s okay to not be 100% happy with what your body looks like.. but just appreciate what is underneath at the same time. I lost all my baby weight..and this was what I got.. so it’s not all about weight out there just so ya know… Honestly though, If it were not for my immense love and appreciation for my daughter I don’t know how I would handle this at all… cuz it’s an ongoing struggle..I see beauty in it..and I see ugliness.. Honestly though if it were not for my immense love and appreciation for my baby I don’t know how I would deal with this..it seems to be my only way to deal with because I am just so happy to wake up everyday knowing I have the most precious gift in the world..i send my love and prayers to all you moms and let you know your not alone out there..it;s okay to not be perfect and to have flaws becuase every one does..







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43 Responses to “You think you sag… ppppllzzz. (Anonymous)”

  1. AC Says:
    July 25th, 2008 at 11:54 am

    I think you are my body twin! I have stretch marks from behind my knees to behind my arms and everywhere inbetween! I’m 23, I had my son when I was 16. He was over 9lbs and I carried about 30lbs of extra weight until last year when I finally lost it! I’m happy to have lost the weight but the extra skin just hangs lower now! But of course, at the end of the day it’s all worth it. Thanks for your post =)

  2. Anna Says:
    July 25th, 2008 at 12:25 pm

    Your photo looks very much like mine before I had a tummy tuck. My belly was a bit worse – I had twins and zero skin elasticity. I looked pretty good in clothes too, so I completely understand how you feel. You don’t look bad without clothes though – and bending down is not a very flattering angle, I am still horrified when I see myself that way. :o)

  3. Kim Says:
    July 25th, 2008 at 1:00 pm

    you are like my twin, except that i’m much darker. my belly is just like yours and the stretchmarks everywhere else- hips, breast too.

  4. Aliza Says:
    July 25th, 2008 at 1:16 pm

    Your honesty and acceptance of yourself is very inspiring. I’m also a young mom and struggling with extra skin. I’m not sure how long ago you gave birth but I’ve been told that skin can take a few years to shrink back…so hang in there. And, even if it doesn’t shrink back…you’re right…you’re healthy, your daughter is healthy and that’s all you need in the world. God bless and good luck to you. :)

  5. L Says:
    July 25th, 2008 at 2:27 pm

    OMG ur body looks just like mine. I was 19 when i had my first child and before then i had the perfect body, i was actually a swimsuit model. Now even though ive lost all the weight I have tons of nasty skin left over on my stomach, breasts, and thighs and im covered in stretchmarks! I hate my body and for the longest time wouldnt even let my hubby see or touch me but now Im overcoming that and he LOVES my body. Be proud! ;-)

  6. MilkMama Says:
    July 25th, 2008 at 3:13 pm

    Wow! 110 pounds!!! You should be SO PROUD of yourself! That’s awesome! After having my daughter, my breasts sag like that, too. Thank God for pushup bras, that’s all I can say! ;)

  7. blue Says:
    July 25th, 2008 at 3:45 pm

    Girl you look AMAZING!!!

  8. Shealene Says:
    July 25th, 2008 at 10:14 pm

    I personally think you look AWESOME after losing that much weight and don’t feel bad about the boobs…my boobs are so saggy, cuz after I had my little girl they swelled up to like a size E…and I started out at a C…sooo…needless to say, at 22…I have gramma boobs. I love that you accept yourself…that’s amazing.

  9. Tee Says:
    July 25th, 2008 at 10:51 pm

    Your body looks very much like mine except I was 16 when I had my first child I am now 25. So I’ve had a little more time to adjust. I totally understand about being able to look good with the the clothes on top but having the lil secret underneath. Fortunately I was blessed with a husband post baby who loves me flaws and all (a real man). But like you said our children are totally worth it in the end I would not trade a single stretchmark for my babies!

  10. Elizabeth Says:
    July 26th, 2008 at 5:29 am

    i also had my first child at 16 and i look so much like you, i only weigh 105 but i have so much extra skin…it bothered me so much but now i am seeing i am not the only one and that means so much to me to see people like me standing up for themselves, and makes me feel like i should stop being so petty and enjoy my beautiful children this body created =) peace and love to you all!

  11. Sarah Says:
    July 26th, 2008 at 6:34 am

    Yep, we’re twins!! I often sing, “Do your tits hang low, do they wobble to and fro …”

    I’m learning to love my body and love that you are loving yours, too.

  12. Manda Says:
    July 27th, 2008 at 8:25 am

    That’s me EXACTLY! Thank you for posting this! I now know that i am NOT alone in this world of perfect bodies!

    i am 24 and have had 2 kids.

  13. catherine Says:
    July 27th, 2008 at 9:49 pm

    I know how you feel!! I look good in clothes, I’m 5’6” and 60kg and people ALWAYS says I am just a thin person. I’M NOT!! I watch what I eat, I excercise….and when I bend over I look just like you only my boobs are smaller.
    I’ve had three kids and I love them all to bits, and breastfeeding for 3 plus years has been elating but deflating if you get my drift!
    Love to all the mammas out there, the ones with full skin and the ones with room to spare, you are all gorgeous!
    Catherine

  14. Rachele Says:
    July 29th, 2008 at 10:06 am

    My breasts and saggging skin look exactly like yours. I gained and lost over 130lbs with my two babies, and I hate the way my body looks naked. I have to say that my children’s love for me is more than worth it. In fact, I’m now pregnant with a surrogate baby. I’m again contributing to the problem in order to help someone else to realize their dream of being a mom. And even though I won’t be the mother of this child who is sure to leave an impression of his/her own on my battle-worn body, it’s still worth it. I am however going to get that mommy-makeover. I think I deserve to have a body I can feel beautiful in. Although even after a tummy-tuck, breats lift, and all that, I won’t be perfect. My stretch marks are too extensive to eliminate, and I’ll have scars from surgery, but I’m happy with the comprimise. I don’t want all of my pregnacy marks to disappear, I just want to be somewhere in the middle where I can feel confident being naked in front of my husband. I can offer a bit of advice on how to get the funding. There’s a site called my free breast implants dot com, where you can vie for credits, that translate into dollars for your surgery, by making friends and chatting them up. My sister got her implants this way, it’s a legitimate fund raiser. You can also try looking into financing plans offered by many surgeons. I hope you find a way to get back at least some of what pregnancy has taken away, but you really are more beautiful than you think just the way you are.

  15. crystal Says:
    August 5th, 2008 at 3:56 pm

    My breast look just like yours…. I hate bending over while naked makes me feel way gross!

  16. laura Says:
    August 12th, 2008 at 10:05 am

    you don’t know sagging boobs till your nipples are less than an inch above your belly button. I’m a 44h…in the summer time i get pimples on my stomach if i don’t wear a bra at home because my boobs cover them up. You are my skinny twin and i’m totally jealous. :o)

  17. sista Says:
    August 12th, 2008 at 10:17 am

    There’s hope. After giving birth to my 10.5 pounds baby boy and gaining a solid 70 lbs, the weight came off 9 months later. Sadly, so did the boobs. My husband joked that they looked like knee highs! This hurt, but I didn’t let on. My GP was SHOCKED and ventured that perhaps I had some sort of lack of a hormone that we could test for. Fast forward 12 years later. I’ve gained 20 lbs in the last two years. Not proud, but exercising. Slowly but surely, my breasts are now rounder and dare I say, fuller? I did have another child, nursed him for 18 months too. What I am saying is, I would much rather be thin and look good in my clothing anyway, than not. 99% of the time people see me, I’m clothed. Now that I have a bit of a muffin top sticking out of my pants…now THAT aggravates me. There’s no ‘pretending’ when there’s so much hanging out of the clothing. I never was one to be vain and think I had a hot body, but looking at pictures of a young me, I sure was HOT. Older and wiser, I am glad not to be so big as to be bedridden, or to have health related complications. I can garden, I can play with my children, I can fit in the seat of an airplane, I can breathe well and my knees don’t hurt. You are young, the skin will shrink back, the breasts will fill up…you have WAY more breast tissue than I did, so more hope. Also, look at your mother, at how well adjusted she is. You too will reach peace with this body and will focus on ONWARD and FORWARD. I am in awe of the pictures you have posted. I know I never could have. You already have it within you to step out of the envelope you live in and take a look at the awesome soul that resides there. Your daughter is a lucky little girl.

  18. Gabriela Says:
    August 13th, 2008 at 3:09 pm

    After reading your message and trying to think that we are forced to deal with how our bodies look because of money really sucks. I mean, not all bad because we should be PROUD of how God has made us. We each are unique. I know how it feels to have low self-esteem do to appearances….But seriously, the women I have met on this web site make me wanna embrace my body, my son and stop hiding from the cameras and from people because of what having a baby has done to my body. Thank you ALL!!! PS why dont you try contacting Tyra Banks! She might be able to help you. I know it sounds crazy but I’ve seen her do shows about these types of isues…send her a message and your pix and who knows?! You might be able to get the help you long for! Much luck….and once again, thank you!

  19. Mish Says:
    August 14th, 2008 at 12:49 am

    Finally someone who looks just like me! I am 25 w/ two kids ages 3yrs and 16 months. My breasts are nothing more than bags of skin after breastfeeding them both and my tummy does the exact same wrinkle/sag/hanging thing! I dropped my baby weight ridiculously fast after having my kids but the effect on my skin was horrific. Like you, I look trim and fine with my clothes on but if anyone were to ever see what lies beneath….
    I try not to dwell on it though. I keep rubbing in creams and practicing Pilates and wait for the day I can afford my tummy tuck. xx

  20. me up there Says:
    August 31st, 2008 at 9:50 am

    It was really hard for me to make thius post in the beginning because of how honest it was..but i am so glad i did. I wanted everybody to see the not so perfect looking young 20 something’s put there ..that I myself catch nyself griping on about when I see walking down the street. asking myself why they got so lucky and look amazing after havng a baby and oh it must be nice..,and then I go wait a minute, lots of people probably say that about me when they see me..and i think it’s funny cuz i look like this under my clothes..and everyone goes “at least yer thin”. I was 236 pounds only a year ago and have just recently got to being thin..honestly I would trade for a bit of that action cuz i miss my skin being filled out instead of draping. I really don’t think I lost the weight to look a certain way.. I did it to keep up with my kid and becuase i ran around and breastfed to no end. This is me over a year later..so it’s not shrinking back trust me..and this is after my first pregnancy. I don’t want peopel to feel sorry for me…becuase I don’t feel sorry for me..i just look at it as my luck of the draw..and some people have hit the genetic lottery.. I just love women and think they are so strong and open their hearts to the world so much..and if a man had to do this job I could just imagine..lol but things are getting a little better..this website gave me the courage to not spend my wedding night in a shirt and to say to hell with censorship. I am feirce no matter what I look like on the outside becuase on the inside I am a sexy, young, spunky, and free thinking 22 year old girl. I havn’t let anything change that so far and I hope none of you feel like you can’t be yourselves becuase your trapped in body issues. Thanks for letting me honest and accepting me.
    with love
    -saggy girl in pics

  21. me up there Says:
    August 31st, 2008 at 9:51 am

    wup sorry for the spelling eror

  22. Eva Says:
    September 2nd, 2008 at 4:03 pm

    I had a similar situation, actually my stomach also had a scattering of stretchmarks in the shape of fire/flame going up over my belly-button. I had my first one at 18, and my last one at 26. Though my last one was 11 lbs. my stretchmarks didn’t get any worse in that pregnancy. Now I know that when you have a baby still a teenager when your hormones are not balanced yet you have a much bigger chance of getting a lot more stretchmarks than normal. The elasticity of your skin is not so much connected to the weight you gain during pregnancy as to your hormones, if there is a hormonal chaos then it provokes abnormal weight gain as well, it’s all connected. I gained under 25 lbs in my pregnancies, though the kids were big, but I still looked similar to you. I did get a mini-tummy tuck after my first marriage was over, my stretchmarks are still there and my stomach still looks split in half, but at least that that bottom skin fold is gone. But then I knew I wasn’t likely to have any more children. If you get pregnant again, your body will look good during pregnancy. Anyway, all my stretchmarks are now white and nowhere near as noticeable. If it’s any consolation, I knew a couple of girls who had worse stretchmarks(each of theirs was half an inch wide) just as a result of ‘bad’ hormones when they were teenagers. People can get lose skin or get disfigured in different ways, and it is difficult to learn to accept a new “ugly” yourself when you remember the way you used to be(speaking from my own experience). I promise it’ll look much better eventually anyway, and if you gain a bit of weight, around 10-20 lbs, your breast and belly will fill out and you won’t look like that any more. I’m 20 lbs more than what I was after my last pregnancy but it means the skin is not sagging anywhere ))

  23. Kelly Says:
    September 9th, 2008 at 7:24 pm

    Wow. You have the same body as I do. I just had to respond. I’m 26 years old, and my daughter is almost 3. I gained 80 pounds with her and lost 70. I work out 6 days a week, and I also look good with clothes, but I’m petrified of showing my body to anyone for fear that they’ll be disappointed when I take my clothes off. I’m not with my daughter’s father, so this makes dating very difficult. Thank you for sharing your story. It makes it a lot easier to know that I’m not just some freak and lots of other women really do experience the same thing after pregnancy. It’s frustrating to see all the hollywood stars who look perfect after having children. At least now we know we’re the norm and not them.

  24. Mama Says:
    September 22nd, 2008 at 3:29 pm

    Wow, my boobs look exactly like this!! (Only yours are bigger than mine and so they look nicer!) Mine are flat and they sag too if that makes sense. Then they disappear when I lay down, lol. Thanks for posting! Bless you!

  25. katie Says:
    November 18th, 2008 at 4:43 am

    feel glad!! Someone out there does wish they had your body- ME! I’m still struggling with my figure- I know I will never wear a bikini again, and maybe I’m vain and petty for being upset by that, but my whole wardrobe is so drastically different now to accomodate my new, plumper size. I feel like I was robbed of part of myself, my identity. Who I am, how I understood myself and how I express myself. I’m ashamed to admit I’m so insecure, I wish I was confident and strong. But I wish I had your size~!

  26. Alicia Says:
    November 29th, 2008 at 6:40 pm

    me toooooo

    haha so many people here agree ! i am new to this site and i was just looking through the pics like come on now am i REALLY alone and then bam! the first picture you posted thats me too girl only im smaller anyway i breastfed 2 beautiful healthy baby boys and i had the first at 16 and second at 18 im 19 now and struggling to accept my body all the same and i cnt afford surgery either! but you are right these bodys work and we are blessed for that. thanks for posting this. i know i not alone. <3

  27. Brittney Says:
    January 7th, 2009 at 9:16 pm

    you look just like me. I am now 19. i Got pregnant when i was seventeen, not long after i graduated. i was 5′ 6″ and 120 lbs. i had a 8 pounds 6 ounce baby and gained almost sixty pounds. i lost it all rather quickly but now one of my nipples is all stretched out and it makes my one boob hang lower than the rest. i hate the way i look now and would do anything to get rid of the stretch marks and the hangy skin and the saggy boobs.i look the same as you bending over and it has had a huge impact on my life. i hate myself and the way i look and it eats away at me everyday. it kills me to know i can never wear a bikini or a short shirt again. i used to want to model, not gonna happen now. its even harder for me because i didn’t want to have kids. i am so depressed everyday and it really affects my relationship with my boyfriend. i have really bad self-esteem problems before my son and they are even worse now. im so glad i found this site. its amazing that all these women can get together are share stories and help each other. thank you so much for making this site.

  28. Julie Says:
    January 20th, 2009 at 8:15 pm

    Don’t worry it will get better if you think about it it will be worse

  29. Venus Says:
    January 22nd, 2009 at 3:04 am

    please don’t feel bad about your body. Your husband should love you no matter how you look. I have very saggy breasts too, I’m thinking of posting here soon myself to show how great & how frustrating & uncomfortable it can be having big breasts, but not porno star perky firm big breasts, saggy big.
    Be proud of yourself, I hope that will come with time. I’m 28 and it has taken me this long to be truly comfortable with my body. I had my baby when I was 17.

  30. Beth Says:
    January 27th, 2009 at 9:28 am

    Thank you so much for posting your photos. I’ve looked through alot of them but nothing has match ever so perfectly as the first one. My body is exactly like that when I’m bent over. I lost 80 lbs since the pregnancy and there is nothing but skin left. I completely understand how you feel about looking and feeling amazing in clothing and then, you take it all off and there it all is. I actually avoid bending over naked in front of my husband. I used to run around naked all the time but now i can’t get into my clothes fast enough after i get out of the shower. I feel where your coming from and from the rest of the comments, seems like alot of other women do to. much love and hugs.

  31. S Says:
    January 29th, 2009 at 8:48 am

    I’ve heard, and it may not be true, that if you donate the extra skin you can get the surgery paid for (or a significant fraction of it). (this is only true for people who have a lot of skin to donate–ie. not your average tummy tuck)….I mean this only as an offering of hope, not to undermine your self acceptance which I admire. I have developed the “apron” after my daughter was born 14 months ago and I’m still struggling.

  32. Crystal Says:
    January 29th, 2009 at 4:35 pm

    I haven’t had a baby yet, but I am very very overweight and I have a good 160 pounds to lose so naturally I’m very worried about loose skin. I did some research and found that in most cases if someone exercises alot and gets their body fat down to an athletic level (like say around 15-16% for women) then then loose skin will tighten up. Either way I think you’re beautiful and it’s amazing what you’ve accomplished.

  33. stacey Says:
    February 6th, 2009 at 11:35 am

    Wow I feel the same way about my body you do.. After having three kids I feel even worst about my body than i did before I had three kids. I have stretch marks on my breast , under them, my entire stomach, my butt, hips, behind my kness, my entire body is marked up… I hate to see it… I look very sexy in clothes but when I take them off its like damn… But nothing can compare to the love that I have for my three kids. So you are not alone

  34. Liz Says:
    May 29th, 2009 at 9:05 am

    that is how i look when i bend over too, looks like it’s more common than we thought, thank you for being so brave, i have pics up on here, but not that position, it is something i am self conscious of but your post made me feel like i am not alone! thank you for being such a brave beautiful woman!!

  35. velisha Says:
    June 11th, 2009 at 6:05 pm

    You picked the very bad angles. I think in reality you look much better.

  36. Marie Says:
    July 10th, 2009 at 1:20 pm

    Hello, just wanted to say thanks for your post! I have been going through many post and reading how people without a single stretch mark are so upset about their body and thought…geez if they could only see what mine looked like! Then I see your post! I have just as many stretch marks and just as much loose skin! Thanks agian for your post!

  37. Melanie Says:
    October 24th, 2009 at 11:44 pm

    It took courage to put yourself out there. Your like my body double. im 22 my son is 2.I wear a shirt while having sex. with the lights off. I about have a panic attack when a hand gets close enough to were they can see or touch my sagging pooch.I lost alot of weight. hate my body and all my stretchmarks. im terrifed that one day ill wake up with them everywhere. my kids dad let me know how discusting i am and how this girl he knows had her kid and 1 yr later looks perfect. avoiding mirrors and wearing mens or large shirts is my thing.

  38. MJ Says:
    November 5th, 2009 at 10:06 pm

    I am so glad you put these up. I was going thru so many photos trying to find one close to me and then you came up! I feel the exact same way. I’m 22 & have only had one child and though I love him more than anything, i’m devestated at the changes it caused. I have boobs just like yours and it’s sooo hard for me. I was the girl who looked great in anything, could walk into VS and look fantastic and now I can’t even wear a bra without being afraid if i lean over that I will have to put my boobs back in. I even have stretch marks the same places as you, even on my thighs! Thank you for showing me that we can live thru it.

  39. Deborah gbogbo Says:
    July 21st, 2010 at 3:48 am

    gosh! Am so proud of u & hapi you share this. Am not married yet & am 33 years so what will happen when i hv mine plus i weight 100.

  40. Holly Says:
    August 16th, 2010 at 12:25 am

    As women and young mothers we cannot let this ruin our lives, we only have one life to live and we dont want to live it and end it feeling like this! I get my best advice and support from my man because he is a handsome bigger man but our bodies look alot alike because he’s gained and lost a lot of weight, and so have I due to 4 healthy pregnancies, I am going to tell you all what he tells me because it really does make me believe in love and that is all you really need; When I complain about my body he says It’s not that important, a small simple few words but I catch myself complaining in the mirror naked and his words play over and over in my head”IT’s really not important!” Also when I say i’m going to get a tummy tuck he tells me that he loves the real me and doesnt want me to be fake and he also laughs and says then what next when you’re 50-60 years old are you gonna have to get a face lift as well? He made me realize that this, what we are and who we are now is life, we are all headed down the same path, we are all going to age and sag, We need to be fun loving grandmothers one day like the ones we grew up having and if we are acting like this already than how will we be able to enjoy our golden years and our own grand children? Getting things fixed now is not going to change the unevitable, we are all human beings and we were made to age and everything changes over the years lets not let it ruin our lives please! And if you really want to know what I think about all of the air brushing and surgery, lets see if this makes it easy for you all to see how fake and scary it is these days, I have seen transexual men pull off looking like women better than women themselves have so if men want to be all into looks, I know this sounds crazy but they might be the next Jerry Springer show victim of a hot transgender man who became a woman just because of his/her fake boob implants and make up!!! Proof that it is a scary world out there, and looks are not everything because anybody can look a certain way, but who are they really on the inside? I am glad to have the opprotunity to be a part of this and thank you all and hope everything gets better and easier for everyone!

  41. KayD Says:
    May 16th, 2011 at 5:23 am

    So I’ve been looking for my twin… Found her!! :)
    My belly may even be a bit more wrinkled. I just turned 20. I was 110 before I got pregnant. I gained 60lbs. I was all belly. HUUGE at one point my Dr. thought we might have missed twins, or my DD was wrong. Nope. I had a beautiful healthy 8lb 15oz girl, after 23hrs of poor treatment, a Dr missing in Action and an emergency C-Section… What we go through for our babys. I will do it all over again. Different hospital maybe lol.

  42. Johanna Says:
    May 24th, 2012 at 5:28 am

    This could be me!

    Okey, Im about to turn 28 and I got to kids.

    Before my pregnancy┬┤s I had big and firm boobs, no wrinkle belly with marks, nothing.
    I had a hot body!

    Now, I have small and empty boobs with strech marks, a belly that hangs, wrinkly, alot of skin and marks.
    Strech marks at my tummy, tits, hip, thighs, my as and even at my “mons veneris”..

    I love my body, at the same time I hate it!
    Love that the outcome are to beautyful perfect children, but I hate that this is what I have to look like, that I feel i need to hide my body.

    I would do it all over again, and yes, I might have more babies..
    Because its worth it! <3

  43. mom Says:
    June 20th, 2012 at 12:30 pm

    This could be me too! I have stretchmarks all over my body and that is a bit embarrassing I think. I am not that confident and I don’t like to go to the beach or get undressed in front of people. I just don’t like my body. I need to learn to like it but it’s hard. I have gained a lot both my pregnancies but then lost it after and my skin is sagging too. I am only 33 but looks more like 73…

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