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Without my belly, I wouldn’t have hers. (Anonymous)

March 3, 2011

age-17
7 months pp

I posted on this site about two months ago. I have lost a little more weight since then, but all together I am feeling great. I was 93 pounds when I found out I was pregnant with my beautiful daughter. 156 when I gave birth. I am now down to 128 pounds. Thanks to my amazing boyfriend I am starting to feel sexy again.

Last night I was getting my daughter dressed after her bath and while I was putting lotion her belly, it hit me how perfect her belly is. She has the softest skin and such an even skin tone. She is so beautiful. I looked at my own belly, how its sagged and stretched and the lighter skin tone of my stretch marks. But for once I did not care. It hit me that my daughter will always be beautiful. When she holds the shape of a baby, plump and soft, when she holds the shape of a young child, careless and free. When she holds the shape of a teen as shes finding her own self and is becoming a young lady. But most importantly she will be beautiful one day when she holds the shape of a mother if thats what she wishes. She will be just a beautiful with her belly round and stretched for the new life she is carrying. MY belly is BEAUTIFUL because I gave life to such an amazing baby. Without all my marks I would not have her perfect belly, that one day itself may carry the marks of motherhood.

Thanks to my daughter I am finally coming to terms with my weight gain. I am going on vacation and have decided to wear my BIKINI. Idc if I have a few extra pounds or stretch marks! I have a beautiful baby to show for them. I love my mommy body and I’m going to rock it ;) thanks to my new mind set, my relationship with my boyfriend has improved so much. I no longer think he is lying when he says I’m beautiful or when he tells me he loves my body. Motherhood is such a beautiful thing and I think we are all too hard on ourselves.

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14 Responses to “Without my belly, I wouldn’t have hers. (Anonymous)”

  1. Shannon Says:
    March 3rd, 2011 at 8:25 am

    This has to be one of my favorite posts, and I have read them all! I LOVE your confidence! You look amazing, and you are so right, you and your daughter will both always be beautiful.

  2. lamina Says:
    March 3rd, 2011 at 8:55 am

    What a beautiful story :) you are beautiful

  3. Jenny W Says:
    March 3rd, 2011 at 1:35 pm

    This is great, it truly is, and I hope one day I too will have your confidence. Congrats

  4. Angela Says:
    March 3rd, 2011 at 6:01 pm

    You have such an awesome outlook, I absolutely loved it. You also look great in the bikini!!!

  5. Tosha Says:
    March 3rd, 2011 at 6:16 pm

    Wonderfully written :)

  6. sia Says:
    March 3rd, 2011 at 7:53 pm

    thanks ladies <3 idk why by re reading this and all the comments brought tears to my eyes. thanks for all of your wonderful comments

  7. gail Says:
    March 4th, 2011 at 5:45 am

    awww! you are truly wise beyond your years.This is a wonderful perspective.Your daughter is incredibly lucky to have such a beautifully healthy mom! wear that bikini proudly…cause you are ROCKING it! You’re beautiful inside and out!

  8. Maya Says:
    March 4th, 2011 at 9:40 am

    Your attitude about your rockin’ body is inspiring. What really stands out is your kindness to your own body – something that will probably come across to your daughter as she grows up. I’m going on a beach holiday soon and I think I’ll wear a bikini like you!

  9. Amanda Says:
    March 14th, 2011 at 12:19 pm

    You are beautiful! You rock that bikini girl!

    I love that your confidence and happiness with your body shows so much. That is one of the most important things you can teach your daughter. She’ll see you loving yourself and it will make it easier for her to love herself too.

  10. Sara Cucciaioni Says:
    March 26th, 2011 at 10:12 pm

    You inspire me to be more confident about my after baby body. I am sort of vain so it is difficult. I used to have a really great body that I complained about. Now I realize how good I had it. Oh well, I have a beautiful baby boy that I adore. It’s hard to work out, work (I’m lucky I job share with another teacher) and raise my son. So, working out tends to go to the wayside.

  11. sia Says:
    March 28th, 2011 at 6:42 pm

    sara, im so happy that i could help you, even if its just a little. i know how hard it is. i was so teeny before i had my daughter, weighing only 93 pounds. since i posted this i lost about 8 more pounds. i am now 120. some days i feel great, but i still have my rough days. i have been eating really healthy and working out. i want my daughter to grow up loving herself no matter what her body is like so i try so hard to love mine. i can only lead by example. im sure your body is more beautiful now!!

  12. Gillian Says:
    March 29th, 2011 at 11:46 am

    This post made me cry. I love the picture of your’s and your baby’s bellies together.

  13. Katey Says:
    April 28th, 2011 at 9:37 pm

    Wow, what an amazing post. I have been quite disappointed in my body since I gave birth to my daughter three months ago. No woman in my family has ever had stretch marks and I was extremely careful to take care of myself and gained less than 30 pounds during my pregnancy, but I have absolutely hideous stretch marks on my belly. I used every product on the market to prevent them, but nothing worked. Our doctor told us that it was because my daughter was in an odd position and stretching my belly from side to side. She even stretched part of it so far that my skin literally split open. Every time I look in the mirror, I wish that I would have appreciated my mark-free belly while I had it before rather than focusing on my perceived “flaws.”

    It took me five years and five miscarriages to be blessed with a child. After reading your post, I am going to try and focus on that instead of what is perceived as an “ideal” body for a woman. Every time I look at my baby’s belly, I will think of what you wrote and I believe I will feel much happier about my body in the future. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

  14. Sarah Says:
    December 5th, 2011 at 11:02 am

    I stumbled across this site today, and read this story. I started to tear up because it hit me that without my belly, I wouldnt have my three boys prefect ones! Thank you so much for this, maybe this summer I’ll sport my bikini!

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