Age: 22
Number of Pregnancies and Births: One Pregnancy and Birth
My Son’s Age: Almost 20 Months
Pre- Preg Weight : 150Lbs
Weight Post Partum : 165Lbs
Hello fellow Mommas! I am new to SOAM as of, well.. now. And Im so happy that I have found a place that I can come to and be myself.. You’re stories are absolutely empowering and I cant believe at how many other women are out there who feel the same way I do everyday!
Well, here it goes.. Before I got pregnant I was with my son’s father for 2 months but we had known each other for approx. 2 years prior to dating. I was about 150 lbs then, my stomach has never been flat ever in my life and i have always had that “pocket” as I would call it. Well during our relationship he would always call me beautiful and sexy, but then he would be texting the same things to his ex girlfriend. Well when I was 3 months pregnant, he was always going to see her and we were always fighting so I left to make life better for my unborn child when he arrived. My son’s fathers ex was a super sized woman when they dated but she had been working out and now is absolutely stunning with her flat tummy and great butt.. As you would guess, this made my esteem lower because clearly he would rather someone with that body type..
As I got bigger and more and more pregnant, he started telling me how fat I looked and how ugly my stretch marks were.. That I started hating myself before my son was even born. I ended up delivering at a hefty 198Lbs. I haven’t been with his father since I was 3 months pregnant and haven’t really had a boyfriend since then either. I feel alone all the time which causes me to be depressed. I feel like no one wants me because of the way I look. I cry every time I look into the mirror. I keep diet jumping or starving myself so that I wont be so ugly anymore. I just wish that someone (a man especially) would come into my life and sweep me off my feet and tell me religiously how beautiful my body is. It is so hard to feel beautiful when you cant even keep a boyfriend while looking the way you do..
Although I don’t like the way that I look right now, I’m sure that being on this site with all of you supportive and beautiful mama’s out there will assist me in gaining better self-esteem. Thank you so much for listening.
Pictures are as follows : Pre pregnancy , While pregnant, Right after birth (pajama pants) , Now(shorts) and (pantless) lol.., And then my beautiful son a couple days ago. <3 [gallery]
you look stunningly beautiful!!
and I cannot understand anyone thinking otherwise!
it takes time to fully understand your new beauty, for you at least.
but from where I stand, I cannot see how anyone would not find you sexy and beautiful!
everything worthwhile in life has a cost! it looks like you got a bargain! you retained your beauty and gained a beautiful son!
trust me, once you have got your head round the fact that you are beautiful, your confidence will return!
and you will be fighting off men!
I wish you a speedy realisation, and a happy and beautiful life!
with love!
Thank you Garry. I’ll get there. It just takes some time. Thank you for listening.
I think this is a cool post. It’s neat to see the changes in your body and your tattoo. I wouldn’t change a thing if I were you. You’re beautiful. :)
im currently 9 months pp and even though i still look like im 4 months pregnant, im really starting to love my curves and swerves. go onto google and search curvy women and you’ll see beautiful women in all shapes and sizes. women should have a lil extra sexiness to them anyways. i thought i would never feel good about my body again but there are plenty of men out there that will love you and your body. keep your head up girl. you and your son are beautiful :)
You`re beautiful, forget the stupid things that your x said, and focus on what you want for your self. I love your tatoo, and your son is fantastic. HUGS
I look so much like you! We’ve fluctuated around the same weights as well.
I see someone with a great butt, beautiful skin, an amazing piece of art on a beautifully voluptuous woman.
Your ex was an ass. Don’t let his downfall become yours. There are so many men out there who can and will love you in all the ways you deserve. Hold out for that and never accept anything less.
Regrettably, your ex was a massive jerk. The good news is, you don’t have to deal with his unkindness anymore, you have an adorable son, and you look beautiful, truly!
It’s interesting how alone you can feel and then you stumble upon a website like this to see other women in such similar situations with such similar bodies.
I was with my significant other for 10 years and decided to leave him when my son was 7 months. Although he has never said negative words about my looks I’ve had enough negative thoughts about my body to make up for it.
I am now in a position where I am unhappy with my body (postpartum 10 months. 5’5″ 190lbs)and terrified that no one else will find me attractive. It’s difficult to compete with so many hard bodied non mommas out there.
It’s tough but we really need to love ourselves…just as much as our little guys do. :)
I am 4 months post baby and was pretty much dumped meaning he was cheating, lying and disconnected from me emotionally, right after having her. My ex and I had been together for 5 years and our daughter was planned. I gained a lot of weight and had a tough emotional pregnancy and labor but I made it through and now I have a beautiful baby girl.
Before I left her father he made feel terrible about myself, he was blaming me for his loss of feelings and claimed he was not attracted to me anymore. Little did I know his feelings went somewhere else.
Anyways, I took those feelings of insecurity and decided that I was going to lose the baby weight and get down to a much smaller size. I have since lost 44 pounds and have at least another 50 to go. I have stretch marks and a flap still but working out and eating healthy has made me feel so much better. I also put the time in myself everyday whether it be putting on make-up or doing my nails.
I was left at the most vulnerable time and I looked the worst I have ever looked. I hurt for about a week and then realized fuck him, I will never let any man break me! I take my anger towards him and use it as fuel to look the best I possibly can for myself. I know my body does not look that great right now but I will do everything I can to get to a place of great physical fitness and of acceptance for its changes.
You look pretty good! Do everything you can to make yourself feel good! You are a momma and your body is always going to be different but you made a life. No man can do that! Turn your thinking around and use those feelings of hurt and insecurity as fuel for a new and better you physically and mentally! Hang in there sexy momma!