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First Child, Deployed Husband (Jessi)

June 9, 2011

I’m Jessi. I will soon be turning 21 and my baby girl is 3 months 1 week and 2 days old. She is my pride and joy and I thank God for her every day for allowing me to have her while my husband is off serving our country.

When we first found out I was pregnant we were both so ecstatic! It was a bittersweet time in our lives though because my husband was to deploy when i was at 7 months in my pregnancy. Throughout my pregnancy i had the “morning sickness” which ironically ALWAYS came in the afternoons! Other than my morning sickness (which didn’t bother me at all) i had a perfect pregnancy! I had never in my life been so happy! I was at 150 before i became pregnant and at the end i had only gained 27 lbs… no swelling, no extra weight, nothing! After my husband deployed i “went home to mama” because I was so afraid of trying to go through the rest of my pregnancy alone… and it was a good thing that i did.

Three days before my due date my mother-in-law had me out walking and trying to get the labor moving along. That night the weather was supposed to get bad and I had been having contractions for weeks that were about 15-20 minutes apart so she insisted that we go have me checked before heading home (which i had been checked 2 days before and i was only at 1 cm so i didn’t think that i had moved along ANY!) As the nurse came in and checked me she started counting 1…2…3… id say you are about 5 cm lets get you back to a room! My mom was in the room with me when she said this so we both immediately got on our phones and started telling people. After a few hours in labor my husband calls not knowing ANYTHING that’s going on so i told him and he didn’t believe me at first but his words to me were when i call back you better have a baby here :D

Needless to say after 11 hours of labor thru the night the Dr. finally came in and said what i think we have here is a square peg trying to fit into a round hole… I had only dilated to 8 cm in 11 hrs and a lip of my cervix wouldn’t pull back so we went in for a caesarian section. My mom immediately started crying because she had all 3 of us naturally. I set up my voicemail on my phone to say something like “Baby if you call i had to have a c-section call your mom i love you”. As our baby was being put into my moms arms to go see everyone he was just about to get off the phone with his mom and my mom walked thru the doors with our crying baby girl in her arms… and he got to hear her first cries!!! That was simply amazing to me.

So now as i sit here watching our baby girl sleep and i type this story i realize just how blessed we were for him to be able to call and actually hear her first cries. We still await his arrival home but that joyous, amazing return will come soon! He will be able to meet our daughter for the first time and we will be able to start our family together and not long distance…

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8 Responses to “First Child, Deployed Husband (Jessi)”

  1. Sarah P. Says:
    June 9th, 2011 at 2:49 pm

    Awww what a beautiful story! How wonderful that your hubby was able to hear your daughter’s first cries! :)

  2. Mary V Says:
    June 9th, 2011 at 5:02 pm

    Great story! How big was she at birth, she looks so long laying on you! And your preggo belly was so cute, congratulations!

  3. sarah kata Says:
    June 9th, 2011 at 7:06 pm

    How strong and brave are you! I could never have gone through labour without my childs father. Congrats you are so beautiful and inspirational!

  4. Allyssa Says:
    June 10th, 2011 at 12:24 am

    Awww. My husband is AD Navy and we found out I was pregnant 3 weeks before he left on an 6-8 month deployment. I went through it all alone – From the first appointment until she was 3wks old. His deployment ended up being 8 months long. I had my mom there for everything, too. My husband was luckly awake when I went into labor & stayed awake through it all as we kept in touch via email. He called shortly after our daughter was born & got to hear some of her first cries.

    We had 1 homecoming before this one – With just the 2 of us – And the one where he got to meet his daughter for the first time was by far the best homecoming we’ve had!! It’s indescribable seeing his face as he sees his baby girl for the first time.

    Feel free to email me if you need anybody to chat to – I know how it is! allyssa[dot]mylovesmylife[at]gmail[dot]com :]

  5. Marz Says:
    June 10th, 2011 at 7:42 am

    It’s so wonderful that you and your husband were able to make this time in your life work and that you didn’t have to be alone for your labor :) My husband was deployed for over half of my pregnancy and deployed again pretty much the day after our son was born (his 6th and last deployment). It’s not easy but if you focus on the positives, then it’s not as hard as it seems.
    much love from one military wife to another!

  6. MG Says:
    June 12th, 2011 at 8:09 pm

    I have been reading here for months but and never posted but I must respond to this. My husband deployed when our older son was just 3 months old. That was heartbreaking & the next year was so difficult I wonder how I survived it. The fact that you went through your labor without your husband is almost as beautiful as your little girl and I am in awe of your strength. Being mom to a ‘military brat’ means a lot of enjoying moments on your own but relish them as much as you can because the joy will spill over when you share them & my husband still insists it was that awe in my voice that kept him going while away from us.

  7. L Says:
    June 13th, 2011 at 11:05 pm

    Wow you look really beautiful in all the pictures congrats on your baby girl. Thank your husband for serving our country and your little family as well.

  8. Jessi Says:
    July 3rd, 2011 at 8:19 am

    Thank yall so much for the wonderful words!!! It truely means A LOT! At birth my little Harmony Blair weighed 7 15 and was 20 1/2 long. Im short too (standing at 5’2) so that probably made her even longer :) I am so happy to say that daddy is now home safe and sound and got to witness her rolling over back and forth for the first time!
    Again, thank you all for the wonderful, kind words! Much love and blessings
    -Jessi, Reuben, and lil Miss Harmony :D

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