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Depressed, Disabled New Mommy (Anonymous)

im 20 years old and its my first baby.

ive really never talked to anyone about this is im always scared to. but i dont like how my belly looks. i thank God everyday for my little girl. but i gained about 100lbs with IsaBella. its very ard for me to lose weight because i am disabled… and the father really hasnt shown me much attion so i guess thats why my weight and they way i look gets to me alot i cant fit into any of my clothes i get so down sometimes i just don’t want to move i just want to lay in bed and cry but i know i have to get up and feed her and take care of her. she relies on me. i love being a mom i finilly found my purpose in life is to be a mom. its feels nice to be needed and wanted and to know someone relies on you.

the pics are when i was pregnant and after i had her

in Belly, First Pregnancy, Mothers with Health Complications, Submissions
4 comments… add one
  • Kim Monday, July 7, 2014, 10:08 am

    I don’t know how old your baby is but if you want to lie in bed and cry all day and are depressed, you should go to the doctor. It sounds like you have post partum depression. They’ll be able to help you. And once you’re emotionally in a better place, the physical should follow.

    BIG hugs!!!!

  • Rosalind Monday, July 7, 2014, 11:29 am

    Your tummy is lovely and you are as well.

    It sounds like the feelings of sadness and despair could well be postpartum depression. Please seek out help for both YOU and your little girl. Best of luck.

  • Eli Wednesday, July 9, 2014, 5:31 pm

    Don’t be sad is your new life and body, try a good diet if you cannot exercise, but you need to learn as a mother and young beautiful girl to love yourself first and help you to looks better if you like.

  • Felicity Saturday, July 12, 2014, 6:24 pm

    Dear Anonymous,

    Have you considered seeking some emotional support throughout this period? Whilst the changes to our bodies are often very difficult to adjust to, you should not have to feel incapacitated by despair. It sounds like you’re really struggling, and you shouldn’t have to go through it alone.

    Your body has been through a lot in these past 9+ months – it had to grow and support a whole other life – it will continue to change in times to come; where you are now isn’t where you will be forever.

    I’m sorry your partner hasn’t been showing you as much love and affection as you need. Your body brought his daughter into this world, and that is an amazing thing.

    Becoming a mother is a big change in so many ways; try and surround yourself with positive, supportive people and don’t ever feel ashamed to say, “I need help/support/someone to listen”.

    Best of luck <3

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