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Brittany

January 4, 2007

I got pregnant when I was 19, when I told the father he left me, then he moved away and changed his phone number, I was never able to get ahold of him, When my parents found out I was pregnant they disowned me. I went through my entire pregnancy completely alone. I spent the holidays alone, I didnt get a single present for Christmas or my birthday, nor a phone call from my parents. I got fired from my job, and at that point in time I was convinced that I was going to give my daughter up for adoption, I had all the paperwork filled out. It wasnt till I was eight months pregnant that my grandmother on my father’s side came down to Colorado from her house and Montana and helped me get ready to KEEP my baby. It was the best descion I have ever made. She is beautiful. But my body, will never be ever again.

Since I had her, I’ve met someone very dear to me, who could care less and loves me for who I am, and loves my daughter, who was born June 15th 2006 :)

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39 Responses to “Brittany”

  1. eve Says:
    January 4th, 2007 at 2:53 pm

    What a beautiful mommy and baby….and most importantly what a beautiful grandmother you have!

  2. kimmieindallas Says:
    January 4th, 2007 at 3:07 pm

    I can’t imagine how lonely you must have felt. I don’t have appropriate words to say how angry I am that you were abandoned during what should have been a hopeful time for you (even IF you’d adopted your baby to a separate family). Your daughter is beautiful, as you are too!

  3. teresa Says:
    January 4th, 2007 at 4:29 pm

    I pray many blessings for you and your precious angel!

    What a cutie!

  4. CeCe Says:
    January 4th, 2007 at 4:46 pm

    Oh I’m so glad you’ve got that great grandmother of yours!

  5. Suzanne Says:
    January 4th, 2007 at 5:17 pm

    I am very sorry to hear that you felt so alone during a particular difficult time; hormonally, physically, emotionally, finacially.

    My first reaction is to say, “Shame on them!!!” Your parents and the boyfriend/father should be ashamed of themselves. However, it has been my experience, that these types of situations can be wonderful opportunities, to find out who you can, and who you can not, depend on – and that is a gift.

    You do not want people in yor life who do not support you.

    Their rejection of you says more about them than it does about you, anyway.

    Bless your grandmother, and bless you and your beautiful child.

    All the best to you and your new family. May yours be stonger and more loving than the one that you were born into.

  6. Rebekah Says:
    January 4th, 2007 at 7:08 pm

    This made me cry. You are beautiful and so is your daughter. I’m angry that you were shunned and abandoned during your pregnancy.

    I am so happy that you are getting to experience motherhood. You two are a great pair. This made me cry. You are beautiful and so is your daughter. I’m angry that you were shunned and abandoned during your pregnancy.

    I am so happy that you are getting to experience motherhood. You two are a great pair. <3

  7. gigi Says:
    January 4th, 2007 at 7:45 pm

    You are amazing. And so is your daughter. Much love to you both.

  8. Brittany Says:
    January 4th, 2007 at 9:02 pm

    My mom now makes fun of my daughter because she is asian, she wont even tell my little sister who lives with her that I got pregnant because she is ashamed, I cant really do anything about it right now though because she pays my rent. :(

    And I should add I weigh 200 lbs :P I I gained close to 70 lbs pregnant, I gave birth at 245 lbs! It is insane and I know it really isnt an excuse but I blame my eating on the stress I was under.

  9. Caren Story Says:
    January 4th, 2007 at 11:10 pm

    You did a wonderful thing. I love the pictures of you and your daughter. May you have many happy years together :)

  10. Elizabeth Says:
    January 5th, 2007 at 6:06 am

    Who could be ashamed of that BE-U-TI-FUL Baby? She’s nuts! LOL! and you are beautiful too! I say, get on your feet, get out from under her money, and set some boundaries for her. You are a mother now and you need to nip the comments in the bud now before you daughter gets older and starts picking up on gramma’s negative comments about her. If her helping you is allowing her to hurt you, you need to find another solution. I know this is easier siad than done. Good Luck and Best Wishes for you and your gorgeous baby!

  11. Bonnie Says:
    January 5th, 2007 at 8:51 am

    Looking back, the things I regret the most in my life were the times I thought I had no choice in a bad situation and the times I let people hurt me. I hope that you find some strength that I didn’t have back then to realize you and your daughter deserve better than you are getting from your mom. Look into getting a daycare liscense or some work from home jobs to get yourself financially independent.

    Off my soapbox now! Peace to you.

  12. Kate Says:
    January 5th, 2007 at 11:15 am

    You ARE beautiful!

    And so is your daughter :-)

  13. angela Says:
    January 5th, 2007 at 7:53 pm

    what a geat ending to a horrible story. At a time in your life when you should be happy and looking forward to starting a family, you were shunned considered a disgrace to your family. No one needs family like that. Shame on them – you are a very pretty girl and I am glad that you have found someone that treats you like you are meant to be treated and loves you and your daughter. Congratulations!! “YOU” deserve some happiness!

  14. Jackie Says:
    January 5th, 2007 at 8:22 pm

    I am half asian and half white, like your little girl. My grandparents made their disapproval pretty clear too. Sometimes family environments are toxic and I think this is one of them. There are agencies that can help you get on your feet and people who will accept you and your little Halvsie baby unconditionally. Please, please shelter the little haafu from hate and bigotry. You are a strong and beautiful mother. Please set your mother free and surround your daughter with loving people.

  15. Sally Says:
    January 6th, 2007 at 6:28 am

    You have a beautiful little girl… and I am glad that you made the decision that was right for you :)

  16. Amber Says:
    January 6th, 2007 at 10:39 am

    Congratulations on your beautiful daughter! I’m SO glad your grandmother stepped up to help you during the last little bit of your pregnancy. I hope you were able to get some joy and comfort from it.

  17. Heather Says:
    January 6th, 2007 at 11:14 am

    Congratulations! And what a wonderful thing your grandmother did for you and your baby!

  18. marjorie Says:
    January 7th, 2007 at 5:27 pm

    Your little girl is adorable. I’m sorry to hear that your family made things so difficult for you during your pregnancy. Thank God for your grandmother, she sounds like an angel. I wish you many blessings in the years ahead with your lovely daughter.

  19. Lauren Says:
    January 7th, 2007 at 6:52 pm

    I’m so sorry that you had to go through such a beautiful yet stressful part of your life alone. I almost cried when I read that you didn’t get any gifts for Christmas or your birthday – not because of presents, but more than any other day, that’s when your family should be together. A baby should never be ashamed of. Your family should be proud of what a great mother you’re going to be. Be greatful that you have such a wonderful and loving grandmother.

  20. Acalya Says:
    January 8th, 2007 at 10:29 am

    I am so sorry for your tough pregnancy. I am pregnant and sometimes I am upset because of stupid little things. Your story made me feel embarrassed. I can not imagine what you have gone through. I am so glad that your grandmother and father side helped you to keep your beautiful daughter and you have somebody to love you. Hang on there girl, everything will be better.

  21. Brittany Says:
    January 9th, 2007 at 3:11 pm

    I am afraid I wont be financially stable for a VERY long time I live on basically $100 a month :(

  22. bonnie Says:
    January 9th, 2007 at 4:28 pm

    Brittany,

    Please know I say this with only good intentions in my heart for you. But you ARE in charge of your life. I sometimes forget that myself and I feel boxed in and like Ihave no choice in certain things, but remembering I DO have choices eases my mind, even if – in the end – I choose not to make any of those choices. At least I know I am empowered.

    You have many paths before you, even if it is hard to see them. I know nothing of your life, of course, but some options I can think of off the top of my head might be: finding a women’s shelter, getting a job, working from home, goingon welfare until you can get job skills, etc.

    Now you just need to sit down and think very hard about your priorities. Only YOU can know that, but some things to consider are: is it more important that you stay home with your daughter (I’m assuming you do this now) or is it more important that you bring her up with a strong sense of self-worth, even if that means working outside the home?

    You CAN choose to NOT be the victim in this situation. (((hugs))) mama, you’re awesome.

  23. Lolita Blahnik Says:
    January 21st, 2007 at 10:21 am

    Your story touch me!! I almost cry. You were ( and are) so brave!! lot of love from the other side of the world!!!

  24. Susan Says:
    February 25th, 2007 at 8:21 pm

    Congratulations on such a brave journey. And your daughter is just gorgeous. My daughter was born just one week after yours – and they have matching piggy tails in their hair!!

  25. Eve Says:
    May 13th, 2007 at 8:13 am

    Hi,
    I know, this post is almost a half an year old. But by looking throug this wonderful side, I found it.

    Your story is very sad.
    I´m so sorry that your pregnancy wasnt that nice.

    You are very beautiful and your daughter is so cute.

    I wish you the best for your future.

    best wishes

    Eve (from Germany)

  26. LILY Says:
    July 6th, 2007 at 10:56 am

    Hey Brittany, what a beautiful story. Thank God for your wonderful grandma. I will thank God for your grandmother who obeyed HIS will and took the time to show YOU HIS LOVE. god bless you and your new family.

  27. Jenn Says:
    September 29th, 2007 at 12:04 pm

    Beautiful Mommy and Baby girl! An extremely touching story that leaves me with tears… I admire your toughness in surviving through the hardship you endured, I feel ashamed that I would never be tough enough to do the same. May God bless you and your beautiful baby girl!

  28. Jill Says:
    June 11th, 2008 at 12:09 pm

    wow! you’re one of the prettiest girls I’ve ever seen! I hope it makes you cry tears of joy every day thinking about how proud of yourself you are. you are a Beautiful Beautiful person who has done incredible things. it takes a lot of heart and soul to make it through what you’ve been through and you are AMAZING.

  29. Stacie Hulm Says:
    July 30th, 2008 at 12:50 pm

    Your little girl’s biological father is missing out, and he doesn’t even know it. I guess what they say is true … ignorance is bliss.

    The bond you have with your daughter shows and I’m so happy that you get to experience that.

  30. katie Says:
    August 6th, 2008 at 12:49 am

    I’m so sorry you had to spend what should have been a magical time alone and afraid. Your parents should be ashamed, and I can only hope that one day they will grow to regret their behavior. The father is a fool, and its HIS loss by far. You are so much stronger than any of them. They didn’t have the strength to cope with your pregnancy, where as you have flourished and are now blessed with such an amazing baby girl!! Just remember that YOU had strength when they had none. They will be pitied.

  31. Sue Says:
    August 6th, 2008 at 10:19 pm

    Brittany,
    If I had your address I would send you some presents! Your borfriend’s reaction is unfortunately too common, but your parent’s reaction was absolutely shameful!! They totally failed in their job as parents. Thank goodness for your angel of a grandmother! Your daughter is beautiful! I am glad you have a good man in your life now. I hope you are secure and happy. You sure deserve it!

  32. Red Says:
    September 1st, 2008 at 11:26 pm

    You are absolutely gorgeous. I love your cheeks and long hair. I think you have just a wonderful face. And your baby is so, so lovely.

    I wish you great happiness, love and joy in your life and heart. And the same to your baby and your wonderful grandmother. You deserve so, so much in this world.

  33. Chelsey Says:
    September 6th, 2008 at 5:31 pm

    Brittany, your story is so touching! You have an absolutely beautiful baby girl, and the both of you are a gorgeous mommy, daughter couple! I wish you and your little one all the happiness in the world :) xO

  34. another young mama Says:
    September 30th, 2008 at 11:04 am

    you and your daughter are just gorgeous. i’m sorry you had such a rough time of it while you were pregnant and i’m sorry your mom is being so unaccepting. no, scratch that, i’m sorry FOR your mom b/c she will not accept the beautiful granddaughter you gave her! what difference does it make if she is half asian or not? she is still a part of YOU and i think she looks like you and mama, like i said, you are GORGEOUS!

  35. Ari Says:
    October 12th, 2008 at 4:55 am

    awww… i know this is an older post, but i totally feel for you sweety. My mom and stepfather threw me out of their home months before I was pregnant and fortunately my grandmother was also there to take me in. I am now 6 months pregnant and she is still allowing me to stay with her until I give birth and move in with my boyfriend who lives an hour away.(we made this decision because I love my OB and the hospital she delivers at is wonderful) It is tough not having the support you need, whether emotional or financial, but I am sure you and your beautiful daighter are doing well. and as for your mother insulting your asian baby, wow!! my son is going to be half cambodian on his father’s side and I get teased too, but from your own mother?? that’s terrible. But look at it this way, if your baby is any part of what your mother is not, she is better off!! and asian babies are beautiful!!!

  36. rose Says:
    November 15th, 2008 at 9:32 pm

    wow.. well your story really almost made me cry.. i cant imagine going through all that… my parents sure didnt support the pregnancy till after she was born, and that hurt enough.. but to have the dad leave and no support and no phone calls, must have been hell. i know i dont know you but i have an overwhelming urge to say im proud of you. look how far youve comme. some of my relatives also wanted me to put my baby up for adoption but i believe the best descision i ever made was to be her mommy and i could never imagine my life without her or her calling someone else mommy. you are beautiful and so is your daughter. xoxo

  37. SAMERA Says:
    November 23rd, 2008 at 7:59 am

    my belly the same after i gave birth, before i got pregnant i was a UK size 8 after i gave birth i was size 18 i was 15 stone. I was sooooooo depressed because for the whole of my pregnancy my husband was not with me so i just ate and ate, so now we have 2 kids the youngest is 5 months. the best advice i can give is try and find the time to go to a gym.It realllyyyyyyyyy helps. I think you are soo beautiful and so is your daughter

  38. Jill Says:
    January 16th, 2009 at 9:57 pm

    you’re SO pretty!!!

  39. daisy Says:
    February 3rd, 2009 at 8:58 pm

    awww you’re SO pretty! I’m glad your story worked out fine and you had a nice relative. my family is always very apart and we don’t support each others (we’re always too busy making drama), which is awful. I was the previous week with my daughter in hospital because she had a surgery – nothing too complicated, though – and we didn’t get a single visit too. Officially I live with her father, though we just saw him like 4 times during the last year (I’m 21 one, I had my baby when I was 16).

    I hope things still go well with you!

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