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Anonymous

January 25, 2007

I was so touched by the words woman wrote about their bodies after have given birth to their children.

I myself feel so unpretty, now that I am a mother and went through pregnancy and birth. My whole body takes part in this: my breast which grew to melonsize, my belly with all the dark red streams and lines, and even my vagina which wasn´t stiched up properly after i had torn pushing out the head of my beloved boy.

After birth was over, I felt I was locked up for any sexual thing which could eventually go on in the future. Since I am a single parent, I too lost hope to find a man who could love me in the close future.

But still … I loved the experience of being pregnant and now being a mother. But this all didn´t only leave wounds on my body but also in my soul.

The first picture is taken now – almost 3 month after birth. The second picture shows my 28th week pregnancy belly – which I was very proud of.

(My motherlanguage is german, so I guess my english is not perfect. Could you sort out all the mistakes I made? Thank you!) I added a word here or there, for you! ~Bonnie

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5 Responses to “Anonymous”

  1. cooler*doula Says:
    January 25th, 2007 at 4:58 pm

    Even though English is not your first language, you have captured the love and the loss of motherhood so profoundly. We won’t ever be the same after such a transformative experience, but give your body some time and I wish you acceptance and love. Both your own, and those of a man who deserves to be part of your and your son’s lives.

  2. mardi Says:
    January 25th, 2007 at 11:34 pm

    Love looks beyond your body. I was single with 3 kids and thought I was going to be alone for the rest of my life because of my body. But Long story short I met someone who didn’t care about my post pregnancy body, he just cared about me. We have been together 7 years and have our own little boy who added to the stretched out chaos that is my body. Reading this site makes you aware that there is more to you than a stretched out belly.

  3. Rachel Whetzel Says:
    January 26th, 2007 at 9:45 am

    Beautiful. Both WITH and WITHOUT baby. Never be ashamed of the power your body has. You have the ability to sustain another LIFE. One day, if you want to, you will find a man who loves you for that. I did.

    rachel

  4. Sarah Says:
    January 26th, 2007 at 3:12 pm

    Your stomach looks a lot like mine. I think you are beautiful, and therefor it helps me to think I am too. Thank you!

    Sarah

  5. Lauren Says:
    January 27th, 2007 at 12:30 pm

    motherhood transcends all languages and is a bond that all mothers understand regardless of what spoken language we happen to speak – you’re gorgeous, I understand how you feel but being a mother is so much more important than anything else we will ever do in our lives…

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