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6 years after…I still feel a bit unconfident (Anonymous)

May 10, 2010

Age: 36
Number of pregnancies and births: 3 (sons)
Age of my children: 12 1/2 , almost 11 and 6

As you can read above I´m a mother of three. I received my first child at the age of 23, the second one at 25 and the little one when I was 30 years old.
My life is undergoing many changes at the moment ´cause my husband and I are going to separate.
For the last 14 years he was the only one to see my body with all the changes due to the three pregnancies.
Now…I´m starting a new life…and may be some day I´ll have a new partner …
and as you possibly can imagine I´m quite a little bit unconfident if someone else will love me…and the way I look…as a mother of three.
I´m quite satisfied with my weight. I´m a bit too skinny but I try my best to gain a few pounds.
I love my tummy …there are no stretchmarks and I think after 3 pregnancies it really looks fantastic…
what really makes me feel a bit insecure showing my body to someone new are my breasts, the way they look now.
They are so small …I really had nice breasts, well-shaped…a German C-Cup and now it´s only B…
and if I bend over they really look saggy and so empty…I hate that.
As long as I´m standing or sitting and do not move too much they look quite okay…but only then.
I thougt about plastical surgery…but I fear the health risks and wonder if I could live with fake breasts…it probably would feel different…kind of foreign body.
so…I think I have to learn to love them the way they look now…
and I hope I´ll find a new partner who loves me just the way I am and the way my body looks…´cause I think every woman wants to be admired by someone…

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17 Responses to “6 years after…I still feel a bit unconfident (Anonymous)”

  1. Mary V Says:
    May 10th, 2010 at 12:09 pm

    I think you look amazing, I cant believe you have three children! Im sorry you and your husband are seperating, but I do not think any man would ever see your body as anything less than beautiful! And your breasts are very perky!

  2. Felicia Says:
    May 10th, 2010 at 12:24 pm

    Your body, skin and breasts are astoundingly beautiful! Be proud!

  3. Jenna Says:
    May 10th, 2010 at 12:50 pm

    You have a beautiful body. Be confident! Good luck on the new path your life is taking :)

  4. renee Says:
    May 10th, 2010 at 1:07 pm

    Your body is to die for. Don’t be so hard on yourself.

  5. Suzanne Says:
    May 10th, 2010 at 1:32 pm

    oh my god. you have my boobs! :P they are exactly the same, i’m 24.
    you have an indredible body, you could quite easily tell people you have never had children and they would believe you without a doubt, you look about half your age and there isn’t a single sign that you have had children. seriously, you look amazing, don’t ever get a boob job!! your breasts are fabulous, they’re real and still perky!!
    you should be proud of your body!

  6. ME Says:
    May 10th, 2010 at 2:34 pm

    you look great, very similar to what I look like… be happy you like you do, esp at your age, wya to go, women would kill to look like us, enjoy it while you can ,lol.

  7. Emma Says:
    May 10th, 2010 at 2:35 pm

    I think u look awesome.

    I wish I looked as great and sexy as you do

    With a body like that and a nice personality you´ll sweep the bachelor market in no time.

  8. Anna Says:
    May 10th, 2010 at 2:46 pm

    You are extremely lovely.

  9. tanya Says:
    May 10th, 2010 at 4:02 pm

    Your body is gorgeous! perfect womanly sexy hips and boobs!

  10. mrs. petunia Says:
    May 10th, 2010 at 6:36 pm

    If you don’t feel confident, what hope is there for the rest of us? You’re 36 with three kids and have the body of an 18 year old with no kids and still…. not satisfied? Boy, our society is brutal, nothing but sheer “perfection” will do. Of course, we will never ever never never ever be happy believing this. Our bodies will never be good enough. There will always be something to fix. Your post just really brought this message home to me. I mean, when I saw your picture my jaw nearly dropped. It just hit me like a freight train that as long as we are seeking “perfection”, we are simply bound to be miserable. It just doesn’t matter how good you look. I hope you can see the obvious, that you are beautiful.

  11. Amy Says:
    May 10th, 2010 at 6:38 pm

    My breasts look exactly like yours! I don’t like you look too skinny. You look beautifil just as you are.

  12. Amy Says:
    May 10th, 2010 at 6:39 pm

    Oops, I meant to say that I don’t think you look too skinny.

  13. kimber Says:
    May 11th, 2010 at 3:52 pm

    you look one hundred percent flawless. amazing!

  14. tinifer Says:
    May 11th, 2010 at 10:36 pm

    Sweetheart you have NO idea what saggy and empty look like:) you look absolutely fabulous!!!

  15. Jennifer Says:
    May 11th, 2010 at 11:27 pm

    The same thing happened to my breasts! Mine look exactly the same and it’s funny because when I saw your picture I thought they looked pretty damn good. We are so critical of ourselves when seen objectively, things aren’t bad at all.

    You look amazing by the way.

  16. Crystal Says:
    May 16th, 2010 at 8:12 pm

    You look amazing! I hope I look that good (heck, I’d settle for half) after I have my 3rd kid. I hope you can learn to accept your awesome body :)

  17. Jennifer Says:
    May 28th, 2010 at 8:35 pm

    I know exactly what you mean. I am 37 and I also have breasts that look much the same as yours. They aren’t bad until I bend over and then they seem saggy and empty. I also consider enhancement surgery occasionally, but I don’t want to a.) spend the $ that could be spent on other wonderful things b.) take the chance of needing multiple surgeries later c.) take the chance of complications that could make my boobs worse than they are now d.) possibly lose sensation in my nipples which is a big part of my turn on during foreplay…and most importantly e.) set a bad example for my daughter of a woman who can’t be happy with herself when she is perfectly healthy.

    Stay strong my sister. You are absolutely gorgeous and any single man worth his salt would worship the ground you walk on. I mean, seriously, I feel similar to you and I have only had ONE child to your THREE! Thank you for sharing your story & photos.

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