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2 1/2 Years Later- Anonymous

March 26, 2010

Age: 21

A couple months after I turned 18 I found out I was pregnant. Since my boyfriend lived in California and I was so young, I was very nervous. Having my daughter changed my entire life around. I become responsible, mature and learned how to put my daughter’s needs in front of my own. My boyfriend (now fiance) became such a great dad and having her made our relationship so much stronger. However I have had trouble accepting the changes my body have gone through due to pregnancy. When I got pregnant I was 140lbs, and at 5’2, is slightly overweight. I struggled with an eating problems since I was 11, but pregnancy forced to me to learn to eat when I was hungry and choose nutritious food. I ate so healthy that I only gained 10lbs during my entire pregnancy. My doctor was not concerned at all because my baby was growing great and I was a healthy weight. I had a easy and fast labor and delivery and brought my daughter home a couple days later. I was so stressed from being a new mom, and breastfeeding, that I lost weight really quickly. 2 weeks after I delivered I was down to 128lbs and then a month later I was 118. I quit breastfeeding when my daughter was 2 months and my weight loss slowed. I now weigh 113 lbs 2 years later. I got stretch marks when I gained a little weight during puberty but I was surprised when stretch marks showed up darker in my first couple months of pregnancy- since I only gained a couple pounds and didn’t show until about 5 months. Once I gave birth I discovered a couple more stretch marks on my lower belly. My breasts, however, went from a C to a double D, got stretch marks all over them and when I quit breastfeeding I was left with soft, saggy, stretched out breasts. My stomach went pretty flat fast, but my stretch marks have not faded so well. I hated my breasts so much that I got a breast augmentation in November. I LOVE my breasts now, but still feel self conscious about my stretch marks. I plan on losing about 10 more lbs, but will have to wait to save up some $$ until I can get laser treatment to fade them. When it comes down to it, I would have a million stretch marks for my daughter :) She is my angel and my saving grace. I love her more than anything and I love spending each day watching her grow. Ladies: don’t worry about you bodies so much after birth, just focus on being healthy and the amazing ability we have to bring life into the world!

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16 Responses to “2 1/2 Years Later- Anonymous”

  1. Lindsey Says:
    March 26th, 2010 at 10:06 am

    How much did your breast augmentation cost you? You look great by the way! I’m jealous.. I dont see any stretch marks on your stomach.

  2. Sierra Says:
    March 26th, 2010 at 12:06 pm

    u look amazing now y would u want to lose 10 more lbs i’m the same height as you are and i weigh 121 i want to drop down to 114, i used to want to drop to 110 but i thot that would be too skinny. But i guess everyone has their own opinions and their own goals that they look forward to. i personally think you look fantastic!!!! and if losing 10lbs is your goal then i hope you reach it. btw you can’t even see your stretch marks! you look amazing.

  3. Sarah Says:
    March 26th, 2010 at 12:32 pm

    Well you look great! Congratulations on your beautiful daughter! You don’t need any more cosmetic surgery/alterations. You’re beautiful just the way you are.

  4. tanya Says:
    March 26th, 2010 at 2:35 pm

    yur tummy is very nice!

  5. SUE Says:
    March 26th, 2010 at 9:00 pm

    It sounds like it took you a long time to get to the weight you wanted. Looking at your photos you look great,my husband says beautiful. Ihad trouble getting close to the weight I wanted to be at. I had 4 births,3 singles,1 set of twins. After the twins,I think it was the surport and good comments I recieved. From my husband,relation,friends and others. I got to just about where I wanted to be for weight. It also backfired,the comments I got. Some of the comments were from guys,friends,relation and others. They told me them for sexual reasons. They told me how nice I looked and all just for sex. And when they were done with me it got to me. I’m finally getting back to what I want to be for weight,which has taken over 15 years. It’s hell.

  6. Kerry Says:
    March 27th, 2010 at 3:51 am

    You have a gorgeous tummy and tiny waste! I dont see any stretchmarks! Dont worry… no one but you can see them! :)

    Did getting your breasts augmented hurt? I’ve never talked to someone who’s done it.

  7. Happy Momma Says:
    March 27th, 2010 at 4:58 pm

    I think you look great just the way you are, and think you probably looked awesome before your breast job too. And I don’t look at you and see stretch marks at all – none. Why undergo laser surgery? Be proud of yourself! I hope you look in the mirror and see what others around you see – you look great, without any surgeries at all!

  8. combeferre2@yahoo.com Says:
    March 27th, 2010 at 6:16 pm

    Many women have a strong desire to pursue the media’s fantastical notions of what a woman should look like (myself included, but I wouldn’t worry about loosing 10 more pounds, if I were you. You would probably look sickly if you lost that much weight, you are already quite thin…

  9. Jessica Says:
    March 28th, 2010 at 6:49 am

    “Ladies: don’t worry about you bodies so much after birth, just focus on being healthy and the amazing ability we have to bring life into the world!”

    I wish you could have taken your own advice. :(

  10. Shealene Says:
    March 28th, 2010 at 5:59 pm

    Did you mean stretch marks on your boobs or your stomach…cuz I honestly don’t see anything. But I know how it is…you see things as a lot worse on your own body than anyone else does. You look great though!!! I’d be SO scared to get a breast augmentation…I just have this giant fear of surgeries in general! But I’d probably get something done if I wasn’t scared! AH! Your brave and your boobs look great!

  11. Teresa A Says:
    April 2nd, 2010 at 1:22 pm

    Deleted my own comment as it was harsh. I don’t see any stretchmarks. I do hope you can come to accept your changes without the need for further surgery.

  12. TracyKM Says:
    April 7th, 2010 at 10:14 am

    You weigh 113lb and want to lose another 10lb? I hope you don’t, you really don’t need to, and it will make your breasts out of porportion, as well as just make you look way too thin. I’m also 5’2″ and haven’t weighed 113lb since early high school, and I really, really, really can’t imagine wanting to be thinner than that. You look awesome now!

  13. Drea Says:
    April 7th, 2010 at 11:08 am

    I agree with Jessica… I bet your breasts looked great before your augmentation. I am proud of my “saggy” breasts; they worked hard to look like that! :)

  14. Angela Says:
    January 14th, 2011 at 9:38 am

    You GO GIRL!

  15. Katie Says:
    August 11th, 2011 at 12:39 pm

    I disagree with all of you who are subtly putting this girl down for having breast implants- I say good for you, you look terrific and I also plan on getting some “work”done after breastfeeding my daughter. It is a personal choice and not for everyone- if you feel happy with saggy, etc breasts then good for you that is amazing and I am happy for you. But don’t judge other women for choosing to get implants. I breast fed each of my children for 2 years and feel that I have earned to right to do whatever I choose with my breasts without getting judged or accused of caving to media standards. You can’t have it both ways- meaning, you can’t expect people to celebrate your choices if you don’t respect other points of view/choices.

  16. Rebekah Says:
    May 3rd, 2012 at 12:50 am

    Yeah I kinda agree with the last girl, I got a lift and implants to replace all of the volume I had lost due to pregnancy. I love my precious babies, but would never have been able to love those saggy, nipple pointed to the floor, crepe aper breasts again. I feel sexy, and live that when I bend over, I don’t have to tuck a bunch of skin into my bra when I stad upright like I did before. But where as some women have small breasts that sag a lil, I was a d, that went to a g, and then went a c. I filled a bra with skin and felt gross. I think however a woman chooses to feel love for her body should be praised, and regardless of my surgery, I still can see the stretch marks on my breast, but that’s never what bothered me.

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