Will I ever learn to love my body? (Jen)

32 years old, 3 pregnancies, 2 children, 6 and 4 years old, separated last year

I am trying to learn to love my body again. I am mostly still embarrassed by it and feel disgust when I look in the mirror. I am proud of the fact that I have lost almost 70lbs over a year ago and have kept the weight off. I did that with the help of a personal trainer. Although most days I still feel like I’m overweight.

I have a wonderfully supportive boyfriend now who tells me I look perfect and that he wouldn’t change anything about me. I just wonder everyday if I will ever get over these in securities that are constantly in my mind.
Reading other womens stories here has really helped me feel like at least I’m not alone in this!

6 thoughts on “Will I ever learn to love my body? (Jen)

  • Wednesday, April 25, 2012 at 6:45 am

    I have to agree with your boyfriend! You look wonderful. Congratulations on losing 70 pounds, and keeping it off. That is no easy feat.

  • Wednesday, April 25, 2012 at 9:48 am

    Yes you will! You look fantastic. I have what I call a cow udder. You look wonderful.. but you have to love yourself. Did you get a c-section

  • Wednesday, April 25, 2012 at 11:03 am

    Thank you. No I didn’t have a c-section. My son was a big baby, weighing 11 lbs 10 oz and 25″ long. So my belly got so big, everyone thought I was having twins. lol

  • Wednesday, April 25, 2012 at 12:57 pm

    The thing is, after we have children, most of us will never return to our pre-pregnancy shapes and weights. We have to find a way to accept our new beauty. I struggle with this too. If you feel you need to lose some weight (a blanket statement in general to any mom reading this), work on that. Take care of yourself. It is SOOO easy to ignore our own needs. Even a little bit of exercise can make us feel better even if we aren’t in the best shape we hope to be.

    Your body is beautiful. Sure,your tummy might not be like it was before. You have a great figure, nice curves. Appreciate the good features. That will help you embrace and love your new bod. Downplay the features you don’t love so much.

    You also have nice arms and legs. I would LOVE to have arms like yours. That is what I like least about my body. I don’t have anything close to a firm tone body, but I like my arms the least. UGH. So I have to appreciate other parts. Still working on that!

  • Friday, April 27, 2012 at 2:21 am

    I can only wish i had your body, after 3 beautiful boys i am left with a tyre just above my pubic area, stretch marks that, although they have faded, look like a road map of the andes and my once beautiful boobs have withered to nothing and without the aid of a decent bra resemble two fried eggs on an ironing board. Having said that I have a wonderful husband who loves me for what I am and who tries his hardest to make me feel as sexy as i once did! There may be many things i hate about my body but after all is said and done life is too short to worry about these imperfections. Enjoy the family and try not to worry so much x

  • Tuesday, May 8, 2012 at 11:32 pm

    Think about how those droopy breasts nourished infants, helping them to grow, to feel cared for and safe, that pooch accomodated a growing fetus -feeding and protecting developing clusters of cells until a child is ready to be born. Your body did what it was made to do create, nuture and produce beautiful babies (all mothers KNOW their babies are beautiful) – chubby,lumpy,bald, toothless babies. To me that is such a gift, what power. Post baby bodies are as beautiful as pre baby bodies. Too bad the media portays such a skewed image (with the help of air brushing etc), even sadder is that so many of us have been badly impacted. These are some of the things that make us extra-ordinary!!

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