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The Aftermath of 3 Kids (Anonymous)

I am a 33 year old mother of a 10 year old boy, a 9 year old boy and a 4 year old daughter. I am including 2 front view pics and 1 side view pic. I feel that this is the best my body will ever be again. I have saggy breasts from breastfeeding. I have stretchmarks on my breasts and on my stomach all the way up far past my belly button. My belly button will always stick out. My stretch marks are as faded as they ever will be. I have diastasis recti which will keep me from ever having an entirely flat tummy again.

Pre-pregancy, my tummy was one of my favorite parts of my body. I had a belly button ring and a gorgeous six pack. I was a size 6 at my biggest. I am now a size 10, and even after years of working out, I will probably always be this size. I struggle with the appearance of my tummy on an almost daily basis….still.

I am thankful for my husband. We have been together since my senior year of highschool, and married when I was 20. He has stuck with me through everything. He is an amazing father to our 3 children. He loves me so much, and still finds me just as sexy and attractive as he always did. I think that I actually believe him when he tells me how beautiful he finds my body….although I have no way to understand how he could.

My hope in posting is to help myself become less shallow and self-focused on the way my body looks. With clothes I am very happy with the way I look actually. :) I have 3 amazing kids and a wonderful husband. There is so much more to life than the exterior, and I want to lay to rest the things that I cannot change and focus on the so many positive things in my life. I can assure you that even if I could have my previous body, If it meant not having the precious babies that I have now, or the sweet bonding moments of breastfeeding each one of them, or the intimacy that I have with my husband that far exceeds an outward attraction of lust….I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I wish the same for each person who reads this. May all we all walk this journey together of learning to appreciate ourselves, and those who love and accept us with each curve, sag, and flaw that we have. May we extend that grace to those on this journey with us.

To being our best selves ladies!

in Belly, Breasts, Mom over 30, Positive Body Image/Words of Enouragement, Postpartum, Submissions, Third Pregnancy
4 comments… add one
  • Andrea Monday, August 18, 2014, 8:30 pm

    I hope I’m not breaking any admin rules but please take a look at mutumamas.com. It’s a site and workout program which talks about post pregnancy exercise with a lot of focus on healing a diastasis recti with proper core strengthening exercises. The usual exercises we are told are best will actually make a dr worse. I have no affiliation with mm, fyi.

  • hollie Saturday, August 23, 2014, 3:59 am

    Hi, I love your post, you look gorgeous and your attitude is very attractive too! Looks is only one part of us, there is so much more to people which makes them beautiful. It saddens me how many women feel so badly about their post baby bodies, we are all beautiful in our different shapes and sizes and we are all unique which is what makes us so special.

  • Fie Sunday, August 24, 2014, 11:01 am

    I agree with Andrea about healing diastasis recti. And your husband is right you are a sexy mom of 3! Goodluck with healing the diastasis! Love xxx

  • Anonymous Wednesday, May 13, 2015, 11:52 am

    Thanks ladies! I have been doing diastasis recti correcting exercises almost every day for 5+ years with minimal results. I mentioned in my post that I am convinced my tummy is as flat as it will ever be. I’m continuing to exercise, but I am no longer confident that it will correct my separation. Thank you!

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