Overweight and Pregnant (Anonymous)

This is me three months pregnant at 23 with my first. As you can see I started out my pregnancy overweight–at 5’4 and 223 lbs. The next picture is one of me at sixth months or so pregnant. I’m now 38 weeks pregnant, tons of stretch marks, and I weigh a whopping 263 lbs. I tried really hard not to gain weight, but it has just kept coming on! The most frustrating part is that you don’t feel “cute” and pregnant when you are overweight. I saw some pictures from my baby shower the other day and feel so ashamed for all the weight I’ve gained. I’ll send postpartum and hopefully a great weight loss story when I finally have my little guy.






165 thoughts on “Overweight and Pregnant (Anonymous)

  • Sunday, September 5, 2010 at 2:33 am
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    I am currently 6weeks pregnant,39 years old and 303lbs The heaviest weight I have ever been when I first got pregnant. I an worried I am at risk for a heart attack due to my weight and pregnancy because I have a lot of pains in my legs, thighs, arms, and hands. I dont know what to do if anyone has any simular experience e mail me at playerkay1@aol.com

  • Wednesday, September 22, 2010 at 11:21 am
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    You are so very brave for posting this for other women like myself to see. i am 21 yrs old and suspecting im pregnant again to soon for a test yet. But i have been worrying my self sick over me weighing in at 225lbs at 5’8 and trying to have a baby. i am wanting a baby now more then ever after my bf and i lost our first sept 09. it was a hard blow to us. thank you comments are very welcome please

  • Thursday, September 30, 2010 at 8:32 am
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    I know exactly how you feel. I just had my son 3 months ago and just found out the other day that I am pregnant again. I gained about 30 pounds with my son and I havent had a chance to loose any of it. I’m 5’2 and 250 pounds…not good. I’m worried about whats going to happen with this next pregnancy. At least my first and second were 2 years apart. Its going to be fun.Thats for sure

  • Monday, October 11, 2010 at 11:30 pm
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    Thanks for sharing. Amazing that u posted it so long ago and ppl are still viewing this and commenting on it. Including me. I had my son 4 years ago and I still haven’t lost all the excess weight yet. It makes me feel so depressed yet all i have to do is look at my baby and it’s all soo worth it. Cheers to all of us!!!

  • Tuesday, October 19, 2010 at 2:49 pm
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    You are such an inspiration! You are beautiful and the fact that you are a mom is even more amazing! I tip my hat to you, brave woman. I am 5’2 and 290. I dont know that I would have been brave enough to post photos of my body! Wish me luck…hope Im next

  • Wednesday, October 27, 2010 at 3:16 pm
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    Thank you for posting your photos. You are so brave and I admire you for having the courage to do so. I too have struggled with weight all of my life and after having my son I am 230lbs. I am ashamed of my body. I was crying reading all of these posts. You are beautiful!

  • Sunday, October 31, 2010 at 8:43 pm
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    Im so glade I found this site! Im 23 years old, and me and my boyfriend been trying to conceive for 2 almost 3 years now! Im 5’5, I weight 285 pounds, I dont know what to do. I went to the doctor and she told me I was overweight, and I should lose weight, thats why I cannot conceive, but she just came to the conclusion of thats what it was. Im so confused/lost, thisis really frustrating, Ive been questioning myself whether I can have kids are not! Please if anyone is having the same problems as me please contact me a candiceg23@yahoo.com THANKZ!

  • Wednesday, November 3, 2010 at 2:09 am
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    IM ON BIRTH CONTROL BUT I DONT WANNA BE, I HAVE NO CHOICE BECAUSE WITH OUT IT MY PERIOD WOULD STAY ON AND IM A VERY HEAVY BLEEDER THATS WHY I HAVE TO TAKE IT, ITS LIKE IM TRAPED IF I DONT USE IT! BUT THE ONLY THING IS, IS THAT ME AND MY FIANCEE ARE TRYING TO CONCEIVE! I REALLY NEED HELP! IF ANYONE WAS/IS IN THE SAME SITUATION PLEASE GET BACK AT ME, I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP!! E-MAIL ME AT candiceg23@yahoo.com

  • Thursday, November 4, 2010 at 2:27 am
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    I have never really focused on my weight during pregnancy and my doctor (since I was a teen) never really acted like it was a problem. Besides the point I think sum doctors just say weight is a problem to make you feel bad. Forget them! I am currently having my third child and I currently weigh 253 @ 5 10 in heightand 26 yrs. With my first I weighed 283 to start and weigh 303 at delivery. After dieting I had got down to 250 only to find out 6 mths later I’m pregnant with my second. My ending weight with him was 278 and my beginning weight with my current baby was 226. Smaller than before I even started having children! The biggest factor in losing weight after pregnancy is to breast feed, it may sound weird but you can actually feel tha tighten in your belly and I lost thirty pounds each time with in my 6 wks. I’m not discouraged at all about my weight. My mom is also proof she weighed 350 after she had her last child and just under two years ago after walking cutting back and dropping sodas she wears a 5 @ 46 yrs old. A body u wouldn’t think you could have without surgery but she did it alone and she tells me over time stretch marks fade bc u can’t see not one on her belly. Goodluck and encourage yourself more than anything.

  • Wednesday, November 24, 2010 at 1:17 pm
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    Thank you for posting these beautiful pictures. I keep thin,ing something is horribly wrong because at 17weeks I don’t have anything like a bump and just feel so fat. I was 225 and 5″3 when I got pregnant. I wish I looked pregnant and I’m afraid I never will. I’m embarrassed to tell people I’m pregnant because I think they won’t believe me or be grossed out. I nope I can lose some weight someday again…I was once down to 135 -and I looked much better. Your honesty is so appreciated!

  • Monday, December 20, 2010 at 1:20 am
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    I stumbled upon while looking up all the health risks for being overweight and pregnant, and its scary! im 23, 5’3, 200lbs, and just recently found out i am pregnant. Im only 6 weeks and i worry about the health of my baby. But reading all these amazing inspiring comments and seeing your corageous pictures puts me at ease. Thank you to all!

  • Thursday, January 6, 2011 at 4:54 pm
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    thank you so very much for having the courage to post your pictures. if you had ANY idea how many of us look ALMOST EXACTLY like that right now…

  • Friday, January 14, 2011 at 3:36 pm
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    Thank you. I know it has been a few years since this was posted but I admire your baring all honesty. This is my first pregnancy. I am 35yrs, 6′ and pre pregnant I was 314….my highest EVER and that was with me making an honest true effort in loosing weight! I am today 22 weeks pregnant and having a bad day. This is the first time since being pregnant that I have had self image issues. I wish I “looked” pregnant and not just more fat. That is the hardest thing for me right now. Today I weighed in at 330, even. That means I have only 4lbs to go before I hit the max weight of 20 lbs they want me to gain. My bff is telling me not worry about it until after the baby is born because I am making a human……however it is easy to say and harder to cope emotionally. I have been eating the healthiest I have in the last decade and am proud of that, but it is hard to accept that the weight has climbed.

    In search of support online with how I am feeling I was about to give up as everything is so doom and gloom. Before I closed the window I found you. Thank you! You and all the comments here have made me realize I am not alone and that makes things on the inside so much better.

  • Thursday, February 17, 2011 at 1:18 pm
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    @Didi: All you have to do is stay positive! Regardless of what the Dr’s say that you “probably” will get or how you look. You’re creating a miracle and that in itself is the most beautiful thing. I just got a positive test this week (our 4th baby) With every single one I was severely overweight (#1-273lbs, #2-300lbs, #3-317 and now #4-313lbs) I heard that I was going to get GD, I could develop pre-e and have tons of problems during the c-section because of the previous ones AND GUESS WHAT? None of those things happened. I do too hate it that I don’t “look” pregnant but I’ve learned to say “you know what, I’m beautiful regardless of my size, and to hell with everyone who doesn’t think I am” Hang in there :)

  • Friday, February 25, 2011 at 10:00 pm
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    Hey, you are beautiful! it amazes me, but we look the exact same almost. I have the same body type and carry my weight very much the same way. I am also feeling down about being overweight and pregnant, and I wanted to know when i will start to show instead of just looking overweight and not pregnant at all. Thank you for your post, it really helps.

  • Friday, March 4, 2011 at 4:57 pm
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    Wow I just feel I have to tell you THANK YOU!!! you are amazing and ohhh so brave! I have the same body type as you and have been feeling a little sad about my weight but seeing you be so open and amazing is so inspiring thank you thank you

  • Tuesday, March 8, 2011 at 7:12 pm
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    I am 19 and just found out I’m pregnant with my secound child my son is 15 months. I was trying to lose the weight I gained with him I am 230 and 5’5″ this is the most I’ve ever weighted but I know that with this pregnancy will come another great blessing. Just always remember that u always can lose the weight later on. I keep telling myself it’ll all be worth it.

    Good luck its a true joy

  • Thursday, March 17, 2011 at 1:02 pm
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    my name is April my whole life i was skinny i was 129 between 130. I got pregnant at age 18 i went from 129 between 130 to 166 in two months and in that two months i lost my baby. Then before i know it i was pregnant again i went from 166 to 240 in 8 months then i hade my baby boy. After i hade him my docoter call me saying that i hade cancer cells in my stomch then i went to the docoter in greenville they told me that they where trying to turn into caner cells but then they fanilly told me that it went away. but i was all the time hurting in my stomach. then i wouldnt have my perido in 6 months but i wasnt pregnant they told me i hade really bed scares on my inside’s they where causing me to hurt and not have my prieods. and now i think i am pregnant but not sure i felt a bump inside my stomch and havent hade my pieod in a month. and im scear if i am im already am big i will be bigger im alreadyy at the point i dont want to go no where because of the way i look and sometimes i cry myself to sleep so what should i do.

  • Thursday, March 24, 2011 at 3:06 am
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    april, i think your unhappiness is due to you being overweight, if this is the case then eat healthy and exercise more. go back to your doctor, tell him that you w\nt those cancer cells checkin properley, afterall you ladies are paying for the services you get, you have every right to demand proper testing, otherwise its a complete waste of money.

  • Friday, April 8, 2011 at 1:55 am
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    hello ladies! it took me a while to find a site that actually made me feel a little better about being overweight and pregannt. i’m now going on 7 months pregnant (in a few days) and i’m so overweight :( . mi started off at about 250 something..my last dr appt was yesterday and i was 291!! i have never weighed so much ever :( …it makes me sad and scared for my baby. especially when you see and hear bad things about women that are overwight and pregnant. but reading all these comments has helped me feel a little better. i’m still concerned though..for my baby..i just want him to be healthy. if anyone wants to contact me to talk about pregnancy and stuff feel free to contact me thru my email melie8484@hotmail.com or you can also look me up on facebook with that same email :) .

  • Saturday, May 14, 2011 at 11:18 am
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    Thank you for posting!! Your body type and weight is very similar to mine. DH & I just started TTC and I find it very comforting to see other “plus size” preggers out there, it gives me great hope!! I know I will never have a pretty baby bump, but the baby part is all I care about :)

  • Saturday, June 4, 2011 at 8:07 pm
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    I can understand where u are comin from. I am 17 weeks pregnant with twins. I was 276 lbs before I got pregnant. I have gained 6lbs. I don’t even look pregnant. But I want to tell u u look beautiful.

  • Monday, June 27, 2011 at 12:03 am
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    Thank you all for sharing! Thank you for posting those pictures! You all are very brave :)
    I am 28 years old and my husband and I want to have kids in the next year but I want to lose weight before we start trying.
    I have had weight issued my whole life. Today after reading some of the posts I got on the scale. I weigh 236.
    I went to the gym right after- thanks to this forum…
    I want to feel cute and be healthier when I am pregnant. I don’t want to hear anything negative about my weight from doctors.. I asked my doctor at my last checkup what a healthy weight to have a baby would be for my height 5’7, he said 165lbs.
    That’s 71lbs to lose!! My lowest I remember being was 148lbs, about 8 years ago….. I have a lot of work to do but I want it for myself and my future baby.
    Congratulations to all of you and I wish you good health and happiness!

  • Wednesday, July 6, 2011 at 3:54 pm
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    I am almost 24 weeks pregnant and have gained 12lbs. The 12lbs are pounds that I gained back. So im at my pre pregnancy weight 282! I have been stressing out like crazy because im sooo hungry all the time and im so nervous that I am going to gain to much… My doctor hasnt said anything about my weight or the gaining but I cant keep myself from stressing over it.. Im 20 and this is my first pregnancy any advice will be greatly appreciated! Thanks :D

  • Sunday, July 10, 2011 at 6:35 pm
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    I am 39,184 lbs and 5′ and 8 weeks pregnant with my second child. I am nervous because I went up to 210 with my first who is 8. I have been nauseous but not vomited, and Veru tired! how can I pep up? I need to take care of my family,not sleep all day and night. I get hungry often,but after a few bites I feel sick,

  • Saturday, August 6, 2011 at 8:26 pm
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    I absolutly love the fact that you took these beautiful pictures. I am 27 years old, 5’7″ and 265lbs. I am 17 weeks pregnant and have been trying to find a pregnant woman close to my size during pregnancy. Thank you for posting!

  • Wednesday, September 21, 2011 at 9:09 pm
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    I can relate, Im 20 yrs old 5’0 and about 250 lbs. Im 15 weeks pregnant. And im not showing :( Im starting to wonder if I WILL EVER start showing. I don’t take pictures of my self because I feel like im lying to myself because you can’t tell im pregnant. I had a sister who was about 100 lbs and you could always tell she was pregnant! :( I think your a beautiful woman and mommy for posting pictures of yourself. Hang in there once you have your baby…it’s not gonna care what you look like…just that YOU are mommy :)

  • Thursday, September 22, 2011 at 9:34 pm
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    Thank you so much for your courage to post your picture of your body. It makes me feel much better about my situation.knowing that there are women going through the same things as me. Like mostly every women here I am 6 weeks pregnant and weigh 220! I feel stressed becuz I know its unhealthy to be overweight and pregnant and I was starting to feel very ugly becuz I wasn’t sure how my body would look like during the pregnancy. I’m now a bit more relaxed becuz seeing your pics reminded me of how my body looks and you lookd so beautiful showing your pregnant belly. I just hope when I’m farther along my belly will have a bump like yours! :)

  • Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 11:48 am
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    I am so amazed at your bravery to take those pics. I could never do it. Hats off to you sweetie. I am 3 months pregnant with my 6 child, I am almost 38. I use to weigh 407 in 2001 before having gastric bypass in 12-2001. I weighed 227 when I got pregnant now I am 231. The dr. said I can gain up to 15 lbs, not that I want to. I gained only 5 lbs as permitted by last ob/gyn in Oregon. I feel not “cute” either, I should start to look pregnant but you’d never know it by looking at me. I am only 5’4 also. My hubby is awesome, this is his 1st child. He is 6’4 and weighs 234. He says I’m the most beautiful thing in the world. I am still trying to get over the skin that hangs since surgery, yuck!!! He has seen it all, just not when I’m standing up!!!LOL!!! He was at my side in the surgery room, recording everything when I had my tubal reversal in Feb 2011. And me laying there naked was awkward. He didn’t say a word or ever has about my weight. Thanks for being an inspiration. Tracy and Markeith

  • Wednesday, October 5, 2011 at 8:23 am
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    God bless you and your baby. You are beautiful and you have nothing at all to be ashamed of but a whole lot to be proud of!

  • Saturday, October 8, 2011 at 2:51 pm
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    you looks beuatiful. i was same with my pregnancies when we see our little ones we forget about it

  • Thursday, November 10, 2011 at 9:16 am
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    I LOOOOOVE THESE PHOTOS!!!! i feel like these are photos of me.. i am three months preg and i feel the same as i did when i started! i feel stretching sometimes for a couple days straight then nothing. Ive had two miscarriages, i am currently 23 and praying all goes well. thank you for sharing.

  • Monday, November 14, 2011 at 10:53 pm
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    im 28 years old and i had a baby seven months ago…im only 5″3 and i weighed 239 pounds at my due date. Its nice to hear that im not alone…

  • Monday, November 14, 2011 at 10:54 pm
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    how can i post a pic? I would be happy to show you what the belly looked like right before delivery!

  • Friday, December 9, 2011 at 9:36 am
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    I am 23 yd 5’8 weigh 340. I havent had my period since July 2011 and its Dec 2011. Any ideas why?

  • Monday, January 9, 2012 at 5:28 pm
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    thank u for sharing these photos…that’s exactly what I look like and Im not pregnant…I am 25 yrs old, 5’4 and 240 pounds…I got down to 217 in May 2011 after going gluten free…but then started gaining again…I have pcos, don’t know if I have endometriosis or not, but am having tons of issues getting pregnant…I am thankful for people like u that are willing to post blogs and photos of pregnancy being a bigger woman…hubby and I have been ttcing our first child for 4 years…we just got done with a six month ttc break…and are hoping to start clomid…we find out what the plan is with my OB on Thursday 1/12/12…thnx again for such a great site

  • Monday, January 9, 2012 at 5:29 pm
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    @N,Stfford
    have u been tested to see if you have polycystic ovarian syndrome? I was told for years that I was fine, just overweight, and I wasn’t getting pregnant or having regular periods…two years into our marriage I found the right dr, she diagnosed me with pcos on the first visit…I was insulin resistant too…which goes hand in hand with pcos and weight gain

  • Sunday, January 15, 2012 at 10:44 am
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    Thank you for being brave enough to tell your story and share your pictures. I too am an overweight (actually according to BMI Obese) mommy to be with #2. I was the same weight with #1 as well.
    Starting weight 218 5’7″. I have been going to the gym between my pregnancies and have continued to go with #2, and I hope this time around I will be able to loose my baby weight, and then some postpartum with the help of breastfeeding as well.

    I to did not feel cute while pregnant with #1, i am only 4 weeks into #2 so hard to know if it will be any different. There were no pictures of me and my bare belly cause of all the stretch marks so I can totally relate- and It gets pretty discouraging when you cannot find maternity clothes that aren’t Mumu dresses…
    Good luck, hope everything worked out for you!
    You are beautiful!!

  • Thursday, January 26, 2012 at 6:24 am
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    I’m overweight and trying to get pregnant. I’ve not had a period for a few months, but this has happened before and it always turned out that I wasn’t pregnant. I’m desperate for a baby, please help!

  • Tuesday, February 21, 2012 at 9:26 pm
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    im 20 years old and pregnant with my first baby, about 18 weeks as of now. at my last doctors appointment i weighed around 315, i just wanna know if im ever gonna start to show and actually look pregnant and not just fat.

  • Wednesday, February 22, 2012 at 12:19 pm
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    Allison, I am going through the same thing right now. I am 23, around 300lbs and my periods are crazy sometimes I do not see it for 6 months or more. Have been TTC for about a year now and nothing. It’s hard but reading success stories about all these ladies that are blessed with getting pregnant and having healthy babies helps. Keep your head up high, it will happen for us as well :)

  • Sunday, April 15, 2012 at 8:47 am
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    I’m so glad to see that others are going through all of it too. I’m now 26 years old and 319 pounds at 40 weeks pregnant (yeah, that’s right, I’m counting the hours!). I have a wonderful husband that continues to love my body even though I have train tracks all accross my belly! Cristina, I’m sure you’ll show as I’ve been approached by many people that tell me that I must surely be carrying twins. Keep your spirits high, ladies, we’re fully woman and are blessed to have the opportunity to have a little life in us! :)

  • Thursday, June 7, 2012 at 6:56 am
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    I want to thank everyone for their comments. My husband and I have been TTC for about 1.5 years now. It’s just not happening. But hearing about all of your success stories helps me hold out hope. THANK YOU!!!

  • Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 11:45 am
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    I am so happy to see all these comments from so many women. I’m 18 weeks today and my family keeps saying “wow, you still can’t tell you’re pregnant!” I’m 23 years old, and started at 320 before pregnancy. Right now, four and a half months later I’m 322. I have been trying SO hard to eat healthy and keep from gaining weight and I’m very proud of myself so far. I just wish I had the baby belly instead of looking like I’m getting fatter, but hey, such is life… With any luck I’ll be able to sink below 300 or maybe even 280 after the baby pops out, before my wedding which is scheduled 7 months later… I look forward to the challenge. Congrats to everybody!!!

  • Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 11:49 am
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    Oh and I’m 5’7″… Forgot to mention. BMI is like 49, so I’m definitely ‘obese.’ Haven’t heard any bad attitude from my OB though, so I’m happy enough. She knows I’m trying!

  • Sunday, August 26, 2012 at 6:03 pm
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    Thank you so much for sharing! I am 38 and on my third pregnancy. I had gestational diabetes with my first two and anticipate it this time. I still haven’t lost any of the weight from my last baby (she just turned one)and I feel awful. It makes me feel better knowing that there are other people out there in my situation. It’s tough to look at all the cute baby bellies out there and know that I will never be that way. Some doctors always harp on weight and don’t seem to realize that I am more than that. It would be nice if they were supportive rather than pointing out the obvious.

  • Sunday, September 9, 2012 at 12:44 am
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    Thank you for sharing this with us. I”m bigger girl, and I was told that I couldn’t have a baby. I went to doctor last Monday because I was felling dizzy and felt like I was going to pass out. I was told I was fat and out of shape. My husband talk me into get a pregnancy test, which came back positive. I took two more after that one because I didn’t think I was pregenent because what I was told at the doctor’s office. I think a lot of people special doctors don’t like over weight people and have silly myth about overweight people. I seen a lot of women post they were told they can have kids because of their weight, and they are wrong. 60 percent of American’s are overweight or obese and I know for fact that people have kids everyday, and I don’t believe its’t only the 40 percent of the “skinny” Americas having kids.

  • Tuesday, October 2, 2012 at 4:42 pm
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    I’m a bigger girl and I’ve been getting so sad because I will be 22 weeks on thursday. and my belly has gotten a little bigger, but I started crying to my boyfriend because i want a big round belly and I think I’m to big to get one. Everyone says I will get one but I don’t think i will it’s a girl though :)

  • Sunday, November 25, 2012 at 7:11 am
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    Thank you for being brave. Im a nurse and I weight 206lbs. Ive been working on and off to stay fit. Diabetes and high blood pressure run in my family, I know I will end up on medication at some point. I have had two miscarrages in 9 months and just found out Im pregnant again. Im not as excited as I should be. I know that there is a very real chance I will suffer that loss again. I wish I could be excited but every time I feel a slight change im afraid its my body loosing another baby. Im watching my carbs and walking. I plan to start water aerobics soon. Im hopeful that I can loose some weight in the first trimester safely and minimize my weight gain to 11-15lbs during this pregnancy. I thank you for your show of strength. I am a little concerned that I wount look pregnant just like a fat lady. I just want a healthy baby and to survuve the pregnancy without to much trouble. I have a very careing doctor and I know he will help me through this.

  • Monday, March 4, 2013 at 4:35 pm
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    i just find out im preganant with my first little miracle and my dr say im fat im 190lbs and im 7 weeks pregnant and i was so nervest but thaxx i look up to you!!

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