First of all I want to say that i love this website, and I am very proud of all of you and of all you are trying to do with your proyect. I have to apologize for my very very poor english, so I hope you take it easy with me. Please understand that I am a spanish woman, and I’m trying to do it as well as I can. So, just like I said, I’m a spanish 28 years old woman and I have found out that I’m pregnant just three days ago. I am visiting your website since 2006’s summer, because I have a very big complex about my stretch marks. I developed them at the adolescence, all around my body: legs, calves, tights, hips, buttocks and even in my breasts. I have to say that I don’t remember when they began to appear, at this age I don’t look at myself too much, but I always remember me with stretch marks. I have had eating disorders (atipic anorexic) for three years of my life, and I imagine that this illness helped to cover my body of this marks. The fact is that I am with my husband since I was 15, and we married on 2005, I know he love me and my body and I love him more than I can explain, but in my inside I’m very scared for the “damage” that pregnancy can do in my appearence. At the other hand I’m very scared too for the change that a baby would introduce in our lives, I fell insecure about my capacity to take care of the baby or to raise him. I don’t know if it’s normal or if I’m a “bad person” because or my concern about my body. I know that stretch marks will cover my belly, and this make me want to cry. I am using a lot of lotions but I’m afraid that they won’t work. I’d love to have your strength, and don’t feel like if I’m faulty for having bad genes. So, I hope you don’t think I’m superficial, because the society we live in often make us think this way. If you let me to I’d love to share my pregnancy with you. The pictures bellow are taken on the day I found out I’m going to have a baby. Thank you. KISSES
7 thoughts on “I’m afraid I’m very scared (Anonymous)”
Estos sentidos son tan normales y no eres una mujer terible. Quien no tiene miedo sobre un cuerpo cambiando? Tu eres una mujer fuerte y durante este embarazo, aprenderas mucho de tu mente y emociones. Tu hija o hijo sera un regalo para ti, y tembien un cuerpo que te ensena es un regalo. Suerte.
I just want to say i understand the concerns you have about the effect this baby will have on your life and your body. I was 30 when i gave birth to our son (9 month ago) and had been married for over 7 years before he was born. I also have had ‘body issues’, not full blown anorexia, or bulimia but a mild case( if there is such a thing) of both. Anyway, what i wanted to say is that probably your body won’t be the same after the baby is born, but it will still look good. I stuck to a healthy diet and lots of exercise throughout my pregnancy , and am still 2kg over my pre preg weight, but I am in my pre preg jeans, which was my goal. My son hasn’t changed the way i feel about my body, but he has made me value it more, what i mean is, yeah i’d like to lose a couple of kilos (old habits die hard) but more than that I want to be healthy, to be here for the most precious thing in my life, thats not to say that some days aren’t hard, but having a baby certainly brings a clearer prospective into your life.
And the fact that you are worried about what kind of mother you will be, shows that you will be a great mother. Just try to relax and enjoy the experience you are going through.
I am prone to stretch marks too. To tell you the truth, they are not so bad. I have them from my breasts down to my calves. I dont think I would have so much if I didnt put on 70 pounds worth of McDonalds while I was pregnant with my son.I only put on 32 with my daughter by eating right. But the good news is that I am 30 pounds below prepregnancy weight 2 kids later (due to diet and exercise) and my stretch marks are silvery and beautiful. Do not be afraid, just make sure you stick to a healthy well rounded diet and whatever you do, do not sunbathe. It can make your stretchmarks turn a brownish color and be more pronounced. I stayed out of the sun and you can barely see mine. Best of luck! You are a beautiful mama and you are truly blessed to have life inside you. Just eat right and enjoy every minute of your pregnancy! God bless!
I had many stretchmarks before I got pregnant…from growth spurts and from gaining weight when I was on Depo Provera.
A few years back, my natural mother showed me her belly. She still has all her stretchmarks from carrying me, almost 26 years ago!
I don’t really mind mine now. I know that I will never wear a 2-piece bathing suit again, and belly tops are out of the question. But, I do belly dance, and am proud to show my belly when I dance, because belly dance is a dance of womanhood, and all women’s bodies are celebrated.
Congratulations on your pregnancy, and enjoy it! We are so blessed to have this incredibly special gift, and it is such a short time of our lives!
Hello – Congrats on your pregnancy. I was nervous just like you. I was married for 5 years and went through many years of infertility before finding out we succeeded. We had boy/girl twins on 4/23/07 and i too was so nervous about what it might do to me. I had some stretchmarks on my hips and breast from puberty so i knew i would be covered… Nope i only got a few lights ones and if i posted pics you would not see them at all. I can also say that after you are so far into your pregnancy it all goes away. All the worries about you and it all directs to them and once you have them you could care less. I am a mother and that is what matters most to me. Good luck to you and again — Congrats!
Hey – congrats on your journey towards motherhood!! It is going to be very excited. Every mother was scared the first time they got pregnant. Those are normal fears, but in the end it all works out.
I also got a lot of stretch marks growing up, my thighsm calves, hips, boobs, but guess what??, none during pregnancy!! I used the cocoa butter on my belly and hips 3-6 times a day. My skin hurt from being stretched and itched a lot so I kept using the cocoa butter and I didn’t get any marks on my belly.
It may be possible for you too!
Hola guapa! Primero felicidades!!!
Yo tambien soy española y ya he pasado por eso; tambien agradezco haber encontrado esta web.
Yo lo agradezco porque de no haber sido así me sentiría muy sola debido a que lo que yo estoy pasando no lo habia visto en la vida ni en familia, amigos ni en nadie.
Así que primero relájate porque el embarazo es precioso, te sentirás guapa siempre, yo lo echo de menos y mi peke tiene 9 meses! Sentirás su corazoncito, sus movimientos, estarás cuidadiiisima… así que no adelantes acontecimientos ya que lo que vemos aquí son casos poco comunes.
Mira, yo tengo una prima que es guapisima, y está llena de estrías aunque tiene un cuerpazo, pues siempre que voy con ella todos los hombres se la comen con los ojos! jajaja, y ella dice que las estrías le hacen sentirse muy femenina porque los hombres no tienen y ella sí. ;-)
Donde está la belleza entonces? Yo creo que en la SEGURIDAD que transmite, que sumado a su belleza arrolladora, arrasa! jeje
No tengas miedo, disfruta lo que viene y como el cuerpo cambia muchas veces.
Tambien pensemos que está en cambio constante 9 meses y luego tarda un poquito en recuperarse, hasta a mi se me ha ido el volumen (aunque me tengan que operar por otras cosas). El pecho tambien se desarrolla y nos hace sentir bien a todas!
Por favor, me repito un montón pero sé feliz, sientete guapa, que sé que lo eres, siente la barriguita, que será lo mas bonito que vas a vivir nunca!!!
Y encima luego verás la cara de/la peque… que ya te hará superfeliz! ell@s lo valen todo, y mi marido, cuando yo me siento chof, me dice que aunque supieramos lo que a mi me iba a pasar repetiría todo mil veces si hiciera falta!!
muchos besitos, disfruta el embarazo, deja que te mimen y léete mi historia si quieres para ver lo que unas pocas estrias no son nada al lado de otros casos ;-)