my name is desiree im 22 a mother of one amazing boy who is 14 months before baby I was 125 pounds which is curvy for my height a tiny 5 ft tall at full term I was 172 a year later im still bouncing between 140 and 145. my husband is the kindest most understanding person he “loves” my new mommy curves and I was “too skinny before ” but I feel disgusting I wear 2 girdles sometimes just to hide my bloated belly which is partially due to ulcerative colitis that was triggered by pregnancy I wish I could fix it but no amount of working out did anything to help and surgery is too drastic and expensive im thankful for my awesome son and and amazing hubby but I want to feel sexy again I loved my body before I just want to go back to that. my close friend has 4 kids and is a size 2 with barely a mark on her so I kinda expected the same with myself this site showed me everyone is different and im not alone in the struggle to be comfortable in my own skin again after baby thank you for that ?
4 thoughts on “I Want to Be Me Again (Desiree)”
I’m 20 and look about the same. I weighed 120 pre pregnancy and weighed 181 by the time I had my son. I honestly think you look beautiful. I know it’s hard to look at yourself and see the logic of your husband because it’s hard for me as well! But you look great, and you have a stunning mommy body.
Believe your husband! I think you look amazing! Dont be too hard on yourself you brought life into this world you were a home to a beautiful little being for 9 months be proud embrace your new figure :) great booty may i add!
Don’t be so hard on yourself. I do feel your frustration though, especially if your married you want to be this certain image and still please your husband.
The only thing that has gotten me through is when I think about women who would DIE to have a mommy body if that meant they could have kids. Be proud of it, you carried human beings in that belly ! Its amazing.
I have struggled for so many years (21 with two young daughters) with my image. My breasts are deflated, they were a DD when I was pregnant !
I want an exciting sex life ! But unless I feel confident about my body that won’t happen, so I do plan on getting a lift. Which will put them back to where they were prior to breastfeeding and weight gain/loss. This society doesn’t help when there are almost naked girls all over T.v magazines and the internet. I’m not trying to be this sexy hot teen again but I do want to love my body and feel feminine. I want a natural look to my breasts. It starts with you though, you have to start thinking differently about your body.
BTW I had friends and family who would not even put anything on their bellies and come out with no scars.. It used to bother me now I’m like hey look I carried two babies in this body some women wish they did if it meant they could have their own babies. I put on oil 24/7 and still got marks and It is true, they are hereditary. My mom has them. So I might of prevented more from forming but it was inevitable.