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I need to love my body more (Anonymous)

I am 25 years old. In a few weeks my son will be a year old. I can hardly believe it. I love him more then I imagined it possible to love someone. However, love for my self does not come as easily. Having been pretty much anorexic as a teenager I struggle with body image. I gained 42 pounds during my pregnancy. My body just seemed to want to gain whether i wanted it to or not. Now, I weigh 125 pounds, 5 less then my pre-pregnancy weight and still I am not satisfied. I focus in on the negative and am overly bothered by my (very few) stretch marks. Why do I feel this way? Why does it seem the whole world is set up to enforce these feelings rather then encourage a more accepting and loving outlook? I want to appreciate my body for having nurtured my son but find this appreciation overwhelmed by an overly critical eye.

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  • BranBrandidi Thursday, March 6, 2008, 10:18 am

    You have a beautiful body. You look great! It is very difficult, i know first hand about the critical eye. It seems to be the only eye i have :P the more i read these stories the more i am becoming ok with myself. Still have a long way to go but its getting better!

  • jackie Thursday, March 6, 2008, 10:22 am

    i think you look really, really good! the stretch marks are barely noticeable. you look awesome. :) start working out, if you don’t already…it will definitely boost your self-esteem!

  • Sarah Thursday, March 6, 2008, 11:22 am

    There’s nothing to be critical about! You look perfect! I love the beautiful little stretch marks… I love my own! They remind me of my beautiful daughter!

  • Sara Thursday, March 6, 2008, 6:31 pm

    You are gorgeous.

  • tiamama Friday, March 7, 2008, 10:43 am

    I am also the proud owner of a critical eye :) Here’s a trick I like: Stand in front of the mirror and close your eyes. Really center yourself and root your feet to the floor. When you open your eyes, look at yourself as if for the first time and with appreciation. I think you’ll like what you see! You are GORGEOUS!

  • Maria Friday, March 7, 2008, 11:50 am

    Ur definitly still hott, even in media standards, i hated my body too but came to a point where i thought, is it going to rule me, or am i going to rule IT?? You should own this beautiful body! Im 21 so i really know all the pressure youre under.

  • Bettina Friday, March 14, 2008, 10:09 pm

    You look great. Thats all I have to say

  • Emily Friday, April 4, 2008, 6:02 pm

    Keep in mind with your stretch marks, that many women have stretch marks without pregnancy.

    I’m 30 and I have way more stretch marks than you do on your hips, and I have never been pregnant, nor has my weight fluctuated frequently or ever been more than 20 lbs what it is now.

    You have barely any on your stomach, so I’d focus on that and the fact that you went down to prepregnancy weight so quickly. You look great!

  • Micheal Tuesday, April 29, 2008, 4:32 am

    I hardly notice strech marks a all. You have great curves and would still look good in a bikini.

  • anon Tuesday, May 6, 2008, 5:51 am

    You do have a great body and have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.

    The only stretch marks depend on the angle, which means… not bad @ all. It’s definately a beautiful body.

  • margarita Tuesday, May 27, 2008, 12:52 pm

    i was actually expecting a big of a deal when i saw the title of your post. I PERSONALY think that you have an amazing beautiful body!!! couple of stretch marks, that will not turn heads. To have stretch marks is very normal, to have alooooot of them might turn heads, but you just have a few here and there, so they look pretty nice and normal. be proud and show them off! if i were you i would buy a sexy bikini!

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