I am a 26 y/o mother of one beautiful girl. I have always been small, but have been self confident of my belly as it had a little flab to it. When I got pregnant, I was 105lbs. I delivered my baby at 37 weeks and 147 lbs. I got stretch marks on my breasts, thighs, and stomach. I hate them. It’s hard to feel sexy with them, but there is nothing I can do so I guess they are here to stay.
I am now 10 months PP and starting to accept my body. My breasts used to be small and firm, but have changed. I am worried what will happen when I wean. I love them when they are full of milk, but after feeding they are deflated. My belly is still there, and still bothering me. I’m down to 105lbs again but am saggy and it bothers me.
26 yo
1 vaginal birth, 10 months PP
Breasts, PP, first child
Bottom to top: before pregnancy, 10 months pp, full breasts (when I like them), 8 months PP (my belly)
You already look wonderful and you’re only 10 months pp!
I know that’s hard to internalize when feel down about your body but you really do have a great figure. It’s hard to adjust when you inherit a new body all of a sudden.
Everything has been rearranged so it’s natural to be uncomfortable. Hell, rearranging my living room takes some getting used to!
Trying to adapt to a whole new body made me feel totally lost for while.
My daily internal monologue went something like this…
“How did this get over here? Where did that go? And WHERE did these giant things come from?!”
Giving yourself time to adjust is important. I know we should love and accept our bodies entirely, regardless of what condition they are in, but it is a difficult process to get to that point. What’s helped me is accepting myself a little at a time. My stomach isn’t as flat anymore, but hey, I have this great round butt now! Shifting my focus helped ease the shock of all the changes. Some days I feel better about myself than others, but that’s just part of life. I just do my best to let the good outshine the bad.
Give yourself time to heal and along the way, when you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror, regardless of what you look like at that moment, cast aside all self-criticism and remind yourself how fabulous you really are!
Don’t worry about your breasts. After weaning my skin tightened back up and my breasts got perky again (well as perky as a size D on a two time BFing mother can be). I do NOT have very elastic skin either, as my stomach shows, so I have all the confidence that your breasts will return to a comfortable fullness after weaning :) You are beautiful BTW!
In the spirit of honesty here, after breastfeeding for 10 months your breasts are likely to take 3-4 years to get their fullness and shape back and you may be a 1/2 to full cup size smaller permanently. They may not ever be as firm as they were or look exactly the same but they won’t stay the way they look when you wean, so don’t freak out at how deflated they look when you finally wean, they come back more than that! Don’t worry about it too much. Start applying Bio Oil now to firm up the skin. You can make huge gains on your stomach in a few months with pilates, Yoga or something like the Tracey Anderson method but you have to be dedicated and do it DAILY. You already look awesome and are tiny really, so all you need to do is tone, lucky you!!