Yesterday I was sitting at my best friend’s house. She was playing with her 8 month old son and I asked her; “Do you ever miss our old lives?” She looked at me, with true love in her eyes, and said very simply and without hesitation, “No, I don’t at all. Sure, there are days I’d love to go out and have a bunch of beers and not worry about a baby, but those days would never be worth it.” This made me feel good…and hopeful. I’m 11 weeks pregnant with my first and my fiance and I heard our little ones heartbeat today. It’s hard to imagine giving up my life as I know it. Trading in my beer bottle for a baby bottle, and giving up the freedom that my fiance and I have enjoyed to do whatever it is we want…but to hear my best friend, who was my partner in crime, tell me that she doesn’t miss our lives as they were, it shows me there is more to this being a mom thing than I realized – it’s bigger than me, bigger than her…bigger than anything i could ever want to do. And I hope I am ready for that!
9 thoughts on “First Baby on the Way (Anonymous)”
Good luck! Pregnancy is amazing and seeing your little one for the first time, breathtaking!
It IS worth it — you’ll see. With an attitude like that, I’m sure you will be a fantastic mother. As many people told me, “Enjoy every minute of it! It goes by too fast.”
Boy, you look sooo excited and happy, it’s very cute and heart-warming. All the best for you and your baby!!
First let me say you look so excited in those pictures and you’re already “pregnant glowing.”
In my experience with me and my husband, and we have talked about giving up our old lifestyle before, we find that now we could care less. When his friends call to go out he often says, “Sorry, but I would rather hang out with my family.” There is no question he truly means it.
You will find when that baby gets here, he/she will be the only thing that matters. The old lifestyle will only be for a laugh.
Plus, you can always go out. It isn’t all over or something. You can go out with your friends and hubby watches the kid or vice versa. Or get a sitter!
Don’t worry, when they get a little older you can still go out and get a beer… you just might need to check in with the babysitter every few hours…
You’ll be amazed how natural it is once your child is born. You’ll hold him/her in your arms and just know that he/she is yours! And even nursing… it comes so naturally, the love, the closeness, the bonding (sure it’s not easy for the first few weeks, but it’s so wonderful after that hump)… Even the sleeplessness, you’ll get accustomed to that and you won’t even feel tired. God bless your pregnancy!
I remember after having my first thinking “I remember what it was like before I had kids, but I don’t for one minute wish I was still that person.” Everything changes. And you’ll love it. And if there are times when you don’t love it, that’s okay… and totally normal. You’ll be glad you did all that other stuff before you had a baby. Now you’ll just do “other” stuff.
What a beautiful post! You are adorable! What a fortunate baby to have you as a mother.
I am 43, and just had my fourth child, and there are days (daze) it all seems overwhelming, and truly the days do go slow but the years speed by. I think of my age now (married at 30 – first baby at 31) – and think there is NOTHING I would rather be doing than what I am doing, and will be doing into my 60’s ;-) – being a mother – and of course, then even after they have all moved out – one is ALWAYS a mother.
ALL the best!
You look amazing! I can tell you are absolutely thrilled, and rightfully so. Congratulations to you and your fiancee. Being a mother is a gift so amazing that one cant understand it until you experience it. You are right in saying that you wont miss your lives, because you will still be the same, just better. Children brighten the world and yours will be no exception.