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Before our loss & After (Anonymous)

Here are photos of my while I was VERY pregnant with our first child. My due date was Feb. 23 2007. I went into labor while I was 41 weeks pregnant at home, well my labor did not continue at home. I delivered our baby Birdie via emergency c-section, and Birdie was stillborn.

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  • Miranda Wednesday, April 18, 2007, 7:42 pm

    That is so sad. I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. Thank you for sharing your photos and story.

  • Kodismom Thursday, April 19, 2007, 12:23 am

    Those pictures are beautiful thank you so much for sharing them with SOAM… I am terribly sorry for your family’s loss.

  • Danielle Thursday, April 19, 2007, 6:00 am

    I’m so sorry for the loss of your precious baby!I know exactly what you are going through. My daughter was stillborn in February. I know the pain and suffering and the longing for the baby that you have scars for but dont have. You can read my story in the March 2007 archives toward the very end. I’m terribly sorry…

  • Rebekah Thursday, April 19, 2007, 6:13 am

    My heart breaks for you and what you have gone through.

  • Fedora Thursday, April 19, 2007, 9:14 am

    I’m so sorry to hear of your family’s loss. Thank you for sharing, and may you find comfort, peace, and healing.

  • Tammy Thursday, April 19, 2007, 10:29 am

    I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing. May you receive peace and comfort.

  • Leigh Thursday, April 19, 2007, 11:05 am

    My heart is breaking for you, sweet goddess birthing mama.
    Your little Birdie is so beautiful and so are you and your partner. May she return to you in this lifetime, or another.
    Sending you love through the skies,

  • drea Thursday, April 19, 2007, 12:41 pm

    that pic with you holding the baby is so beautiful

  • Miss Valerie Jean Thursday, April 19, 2007, 1:09 pm

    I am so sorry for your heartbreaking loss. Your photos are gorgeous.

  • beanbaggie Thursday, April 19, 2007, 2:15 pm

    I am so sorry for the loss of your Birdie. What a lovely name. She is beautiful in that picture. And the one of you laboring in the tub is excellent, aesthetically and artistically. I’m so sorry it ended sadly. My thoughts are with you and your husband/partner.

  • Janice Thursday, April 19, 2007, 4:50 pm

    Such beautiful pictures. I’m sorry that your beautiful baby wasn’t able to stay with you.

  • Bessie Thursday, April 19, 2007, 5:37 pm

    Bless you for sharing your story. Your photos are beautiful.

  • Elle Thursday, April 19, 2007, 6:00 pm

    Your little baby Birdie is beautiful. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story and pictures. Take care.

  • Autumn Thursday, April 19, 2007, 9:38 pm

    i’m so sorry for your loss, those pictures are very beautiful.

  • Raine Thursday, April 19, 2007, 10:41 pm

    Your picture holding your little girl with your husband looking over your shoulder made my heart clench so painfully. It is SO poignant and beautiful! I am truly sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your photos. You are an amazing woman…

    Blessings upon you.

  • Mariel Monday, April 30, 2007, 12:07 am

    Your daughters spirit must have been too pure for this world… She is one of the most beautiful babies I have ever seen. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. I should have a post up some time within the next few days – I remember my loss; my heart aches for you. Always.

  • Caroline Thursday, May 3, 2007, 8:48 am

    I am so sorry. Posting your photos is a lovely tribute to your beautiful girl.

  • dot Friday, May 11, 2007, 11:48 am

    I 1st want to say that i am sorry,

    and then say thank you for sharing!!

    make you receive strength thur it all

  • monica Tuesday, May 22, 2007, 1:13 pm

    My dear,
    I am so sorry.
    Crying reading your post.
    I hope you come to peace with your huge loss.
    I’m sure birdie’s soul is waiting to fly back into your body again – when you’re ready.

    So sorry,

  • Caitlin Thursday, May 31, 2007, 7:36 am

    Your pictures are beautiful and so is your little girl…you’re an amazing person for being able to share your story as hard as it may be for you..I’m sure your pictures and story have helped alot of women realize they’re not alone…

  • Diva Sunday, June 10, 2007, 5:39 am

    I am so, so sorry….Birdie is beautiful, your pictures are gorgeous. Thank you for sharing them, as treasured as they must be.

  • ellie Monday, June 11, 2007, 4:07 pm

    aw honey. I wish I could have been the only person in the world to ever lose a baby. For that, it would be worth the pain.

  • elvira Wednesday, June 20, 2007, 10:41 am

    so so sorry for your loss
    she is so beautiful – all 3 of you look so gorgeous and strong in the picture!
    good luck with the healing.
    sending love & more strength

  • Melissa Saturday, June 23, 2007, 12:22 am

    I am so sorry for your loss. I have many different emotions going right now, with tears in my eyes. My family endured a similar loss 6/05. May your family find peace. Birdie is flying in the heavens. Your family is beautiful.

  • Kendra Monday, June 25, 2007, 7:43 pm

    “An angel in the Book of Life wrote down your Birdie’s birth. Then whispered as she closed the book, “Too beautiful for earth.”

    Such beautiful pictures – I’m so sorry for your loss.

  • Beck Thursday, June 28, 2007, 7:43 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Birdie is beautiful

  • April Friday, June 29, 2007, 10:37 pm

    I am so very sorry for your loss. Birdie was a beautiful little angel.

  • kim Saturday, July 14, 2007, 7:14 pm

    I am so sorry…:(

  • Charlotte Tuesday, July 24, 2007, 12:50 pm

    I am so so sorry for your loss. Many thanks for posting your story and pictures they are truley beautiful! xxx

  • Laura Wednesday, August 1, 2007, 11:29 am

    I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I will pray for you that you will find comfort and strength. We don’t know why things like this happen, and it probably won’t ever make sense to you this side of heaven. But please know that God is in control even when life feels so sad and out of control. He will help you through this.
    Bless you and your partner for sharing your story. I am so sorry for your loss.

  • Wendy Friday, August 24, 2007, 1:16 pm

    I came to this site a few months ago, while pregnant with my first child, and remember feeling so sad over your loss. I just lost that child – my darling boy, Soren, after 30 weeks, 5 days, and now I realize that any sadness I felt was nothing compared to what you went through, and what I am going through now. Your Birdie is beautiful, and the love you both have for her is so beautifully plain across your faces. Take care…

  • Sasha Wednesday, August 29, 2007, 6:32 am

    I started crying as soon as I saw the picture of you holding her. I can’t imagine the pain you must have felt. I am so sorry, I hope you have found comfort and peace.

  • lisa Saturday, September 29, 2007, 10:57 am

    your baby is beatiful and makes me cry to think of your heartache, i am so deeply sorry….a x&o from me

  • Maroline Monday, October 22, 2007, 8:37 am

    I am so sorry for your loss and your heartache. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • ozan Wednesday, November 14, 2007, 8:46 am

    i am so sorry! i lost my baby in january of this year as well after 41 weeks and a failed homebirth. i too have a scar and nothing to show for it. please know you are not alone.

  • Heather Friday, January 18, 2008, 2:04 am

    Just wanted to say how beautiful little Birdie is, I had tears in my eyes reading your post and viewing your photos. I am honoured that you allowed us into your special time with your little girl

  • Tanya Saturday, January 19, 2008, 10:47 pm

    What beautiful pictures. Your Birdie is beautiful. I’m sure her flight to Heaven was easier with your love under her wings.

  • Kenia Santos Thursday, February 28, 2008, 1:21 pm

    So sorry for your loss. Having had a stillbirth myself i know its hard (i lost my son a couple of weeks b4 he was to be born) at times it feels like u cant go on. But our motherly instinct kicks in and we know that our babies are happy in heaven….Ur pics are beautiful. Im sure she is in heaven lookn out for both of you, takin care of you and loving u every second that goes by.
    God Bless

  • kasey Friday, February 29, 2008, 2:54 am

    Oh mama & papa,

    My heart breaks for you both. O wonder if you are still reading these comments, if you keep coming back to fill your hearts up a little more when they are empty. I showed my husband your post and photos and our hearts break , our love and empathy goes out to you both. We had an unnassisted home birth as we are over an hour from the hospital, well, i was scared of what could go wrong. Thankfully nothing did but my little one was very slow to get going. Those moments take an eternity are completely surreal and stay in your heart and memory forever. Hold onto the beautiful memories of your beautiful little Birdie in your belly and heart, know that she touched you both so deeply that you have explored every depth of emotion and have grown and eveloved in your souls. Your little Angel was a magical little spirit that came to you to teach you about love….. I hope you have loving understanding family and friends to help you both
    xx Love to you both and your beutiful perfect little spirit girl xx

  • Jewels Friday, April 11, 2008, 5:44 am

    I just wanted to say how beautiful your photos are. My heart was breaking for you both in the photo of you with your precious daughter Birdie. xx

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