I was 1 month to turning 21 when i had my gorgeous heaven sent. She was 9lbs 4 oz and it was an emergency c-section, which came to no surprise. I already knew i was going to have a big baby. Im married to a Samoan so yea lol. Im 5’8 and 1/2 tall and my pre preg weight would be around 130-140 (got comfy with my hubby, so i gained a lil) and right before i had her i was 200. So i gained a good 60-70 lbs with her. Stretch marks were popping up towards the end…i was using all these diff kinds of lotions, sppppsssshhhh that wasnt gonna stop them. But i really didnt make a big deal of those, i call them “love marks”. The belly is what gets me. I am proud to be a mother. I love my daughter and wouldnt trade being her mommy for the world!!! So i try not to be selfish and get down on myself, but sometimes its just hard when you have people around you that are BLUNT. I work at Walmart as a cashier, so im around people constantly. One of the most annoying things that i go thru on a daily basis is hearing the question “awww when you expecting???!!?” That is sooo rude. You shouldnt ask that question…unless if ure positive. And then i have people i know personally that say “ewwww”…and say im just messing with ya, but you know they really arent. Why else would they say it if they wasnt thinking about it? I dont care if i get in a 2 piece, i just wanna wear jeans and a shape fitting shirt again!!! Im only 21 and kno that i can get a nice figure again. Never will i have the same one again…but i actually LOVE my new body…everything EXCEPT the belly. A lot of people complain in a lot of different forums i read on the internet when i google…and i wonder why they complain….you gotta do something. Its not gonna go away. Some women are lucky and bounce back right away….some others have to work for it. So dont complain if you aint worken for it. I just started about a month ago, gradually when i can get to the gym. Starten in June i have plans to get a move on it. Waiting for my best friend to get back home, shes my motivation. I read a lot that when u have a csection, u will always have a pooch. I DONT believe that for one second. I believe you will when you dont do a thing. So because i dont like my belly, i will do something about it. LOL And hope that i keep the butt and breasts. My husband tells me im beautiful and sexy alllll the time. And sometimes i get mad at him. But i realize something…i am the mother of his child, i am his wife, and in his eyes there is no other woman like me so he is right…too him im beautiful and sometimes i forget to thank him. We should all accept the compliments we get from our nears and dears. I love me even with the extra…but its gotta go…haha. If u get my drift. BTW…I lllllooooveeeee this site. Stumbled across it googling. Lol. Keep up the great work!! All you women are awesome!!!!
OH my goodness what a gorgeous little girl!!!!!!!!
I say exactly what you are saying! There are so many women in the world who cannot have children. I’m sure they would trade that with the ability to have children, even if it comes with a few extra pounds and stretch marks. I certainly would!
I like your attitude! You are so right about us women accepting compliments! We need to embrace great things about ourselves and like you were saying..if there is something we are truely unhappy with then we need to change that ourselves. :)
Take Care!
I certainly don’t want to offend anyone but I got pregant in my late 30’s. Trust me, it is harder to lose the weight when you are older! I ate healthfully through my pregnancy, gained 35 pounds and went back to my exercise regimen after my doctor gave me the go ahead. I researched abdominal exercises on the internet and walked, jogged and lifted light weights 5-6 days a week. Now I get in about 4 days a week and still eat healthfully. My body is better than before I was pregnant. I worked hard but I look good for 41. I am no model but my stomach is flat and my weight is 103 (I am only 5’1″) You can get your pre-pregnancy body back, you probably just will have to work for it.