I became a widow 2 years ago in my early 30’s. I didn’t expect to be dating ever again…the prospect of showing your naked torso to a man who didn’t help put those stripes there is a frightening one to say the least. When the date clothes come off this is what you see…no hiding the marks of motherhood.
34 yrs old
4 pregnancies, 3 live births (2 teens and a 4th grader)
You look amazing! Don’t be nervous when the time comes. If he’s a gentleman, he will love them as much as your dear husband did. ?
You are brave and beautiful!!
One of the very few things I miss about my ex is her stretch marks and her belly that are a badge of honor she EARNED by carrying and birthing and finally mothering my children. Most women, even if it is unconsciously, “look for” a man they expect to be a good daddy to her children. There are more men out there than you can imagine that actually hold “that maternal thing” high on their list of things that attract them to a woman. That is actually #1 on my list of criteria for even just a date with a female. Since my ex left, I talk about my kids and how being a dad is my absolute first priority, and I tell them they will always be behind them. If they balk, even in the slightest, I continue my search. When I find someone that says something along the lines of, “OH, WOW! I feel exactly the same about my own kids!!!!” that actually makes me want her that much more. Anyway, just wanted you to know that there are guys out there like your late husband, that don’t even necessarily need that badge of honor to be a result of his manhood, and some hold them in even higher regard as a testament to YOUR womanhood. Best of luck, my friend :)
Just want to encourage you to head over to http://www.widda.org. It’s an online support community for us widows.