Hi! My name is Ellen. I’m 28 years old and 3 months post c-section. I have had 5 kids in 6 years and had a tubal ligation done with the last one, which was my only c-section.
I’m 5’6 and used to be an athletic 160 lbs and right now I’m stuck at 200. I have major issues with my body now and am planning on having a mommy makeover next year.
The stretch marks are really bad in the light and my breasts, although bigger than they ever were are a bit droopy. My stomach isn’t as bad as it could be, but I don’t like the look of it either. My butt lost a lot of its roundness and my thighs are huge.
As much as I could complain, my children are worth it all. Plus whatever can’t be fixed on its own can be corrected with surgery. Yes, some of our bodies change immensely after having children, but it’s worth the miracle.
Hi – I would just like to encourage you and maybe sway you away from surgery which is very dangerous and potentially can cause long term problems. I have three children and after my third which was 10 lbs natural birth, I had a hard time getting back into the swing of things and learning to love my body again. It has been so hard! My baby is one now and I have bust my butt running and weightlifting combined four times a week and my body really does look great for 37 years old with three kids. I can’t complain. Do I have stretch marks? Yes, and they will be there, they are light but they are there, so what? Women/ men who haven’t bore children have stretch marks, it’s a part of life in all areas of our skin stretching beyond its limit. The droopiness in your butt and that it has lost its roundness, cant be fixed with squats, I have a pretty big butt along the lines of Jennifer Lopez, and I have lifted it up to where it’s firm and very nice with doing so many squats, also for the thighs, you can get them to decrease in size and firm with walking/running eventually when you get to that point. Your midsection, drinking plenty of water, watching what you eat and doing plenty of cardio and once it’s down to a point you are satisfied, than start to incorporate ab work. Believe me, I am still a work in progress, some days, I love my body to pieces and some days, I pick it apart, but I am happy overall with where I am and I honestly feel that surgery is an easy way out and if you aren’t happy with what you see in the mirror, than you can fix that through a healthier means, fitness, which may take longer, but the results will be worth it. We all do an amazing job by carrying little humans in our body and yes the vast majority of us do not bounce back the same, but we can get there by working at it. MAY GOD bless you. Sending you hugs!!!
Thank you for your comment. It has inspired me to try my best to love myself more and work at what I can. : )
Oh sweetie, you don’t need surgery (though I respect your feelings) all I see here is a BEAUTIFUL and STRONG body that has amazingly birthed 5 children in a short amount of time! You are an inspiration, mama! <3
You know, surgery is a very personal decision. I struggled with such self esteem problems that I opted to havea breast augmentation to fix my once 32c breasts turned 32a sagging, drooping breasts with their 3 inch long nipples. I do NOT regret it. they aren’t big at all, just reinflated.
I think it is always BEST to love and accept your body, but I also think it is AS damaging to deny yourself happiness if you cannot accept the things that no amount of exercise can help. Don’t make a snap decision, choose surgery carefully, and do your research. It IS best not to have surgery, but some of us live for years so unhappy that it may be worth it to some of us. I am happy with my decision.
Well, my stomach looks like that and I’ve never had kids, nor has it ever been a problem with men, so I don’t think you need to worry about it at all. Your breasts look great too. You definitely got off light, so don’t fret! 5 kids should have torn through you like a wrecking machine and all you’ve got are a few small changes that most of the female population of the US already has! I think you look pretty good.
Ha ha! Thank you guys for your honesty. I’m really trying to do what I can for now, but if I go the surgery route, I’m okay with that too if it comes to it. I’m just so excited to be “normal” again!