3 girls later (M)

After having my third baby girl just a few days over a month ago I was feeling pretty grossed out by my body last night. All my life I have been the skinny girl with the lean figure but with each pregnancy things got looser and looser and flabbier and flabbier. I didn’t have time to brace myself for what would happen to my body. I got pregnant at 17 with my first and had my last at 21. Things happened so quickly that it was only after coming across this site that I actually took a minute to really stand in front of the mirror and examine what I have become through the three initiations I have been a part of. At first I was disgusted and choked on the tears- now it was so clear why I quickly shower and dress without even glancing in the direction of the mirror. Having to stop and look was hard. Having to wonder if my husband still finds me attractive underneath his insistence I’m as beautiful as ever to him and if I’m still really *me* under all that flab and stretched out skin hurt my heart more so than my ego, although that smarted a little, too. But it’s all so worth it. Hands down. Motherhood is a higher class of beauty that is, sadly, misunderstood in our society.

11 thoughts on “3 girls later (M)

  • Tuesday, June 12, 2007 at 10:28 pm

    Your body looks just like mine, except I have a smaller chest. The great thing about having a larger chest, though, is that it helps even out everything else. My thighs look the same and hips… I’ve always been the super skinny girl, too. Everything is worth it. It’s nice to be curvy now, though… try something new on for a change! :-P*

  • Wednesday, June 13, 2007 at 4:05 am

    You have a very lovely figure—everything is proportionally balanced and voluptuous. Your husband knows what he’s talking about.

  • Wednesday, June 13, 2007 at 5:22 am

    My husband would call your body “perfection.” Your curves and shape are beautiful. Thanks for being so brave!

  • Wednesday, June 13, 2007 at 5:55 pm

    I’d be interested in hearing her thoughts about how motherhood is misunderstood in our society. I agree that it is, but I wonder exactly what she meant.

  • Wednesday, June 13, 2007 at 6:19 pm

    You look awesome. I was shocked that you think your flabby. You look amazing!!

  • Monday, June 18, 2007 at 10:39 pm

    Willa- in regards to this statement i made: “Motherhood is a higher class of beauty that is, sadly, misunderstood in our society.” is that i feel society in general takes the “battle scars” that come with motherhood and place them in the ugly category because it’s not the “normal” representation of beauty. but that is a misunderstanding of what beauty is, in my opinion. the body of motherhood is beauty but of a different sort and caliber then the narrow definition society has given it. pretty much what i was trying to convey was society doesn’t “get” this sort of beauty so they throw it in the ‘ugly’ ‘gross’ ‘disturbing’ etc categories. we (general ‘we’) don’t know quite where to place the mother’s body.

    clear as mud, right? LOL


  • Sunday, June 24, 2007 at 11:56 am

    You are beautiful just as you are. You have a wonderful figure! Sometimes men really do get it right.I think we as women often have so many expectations of ourselves we can’t see clearly what our parteners can, pure beauty, with no expectations on it.

  • Wednesday, June 27, 2007 at 7:26 am

    I think your body is perfect. I also have had three girls but my body looks nothing like yours. You’re one lucky woman!

  • Wednesday, June 27, 2007 at 12:11 pm

    I’m a guy so maybe my opinion doesn’t count but you still look desirable to me anyway.

  • Monday, August 6, 2007 at 12:11 am

    I think your post is beautiful (and beautifully written!). Also, you have an amazing body, you should love yourself more. I’m currently pregnant with my first child and I’m hoping I look as good as you afterwards.

  • Thursday, May 14, 2009 at 3:55 pm

    You areo so beautiful….you have never been sexier I bet…motherhood agrees with you sweetie..

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