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Worth it All (Ashley)

~Age: 30
~Number of pregnancies and births: 8 pregnancies- 6 births, 2 miscarriages
~The age of your children, or how far postpartum you are: 8,6,5,4,3,2

I don’t even know where to start! I have been coming to this site for so many years…looking through photos and comments, getting the reassurance that I so desperately needed about my body. I am 30 years old and my husband and I have been married for 10 years. After we had been married for 2 years, we had our first child- then had 5 more in the next 5 years lol. I did have 2 miscarriages in the mix, but having a child every year for 6 years really made my body go through so many changes. I gained a lot of weight with each pregnancy…I am 5’4″ and weighed 127 on my wedding day, and 135 before we started having kids… and got up to 200 pounds with most of the pregnancies. I would get into the 140’s between pregnancies only to go right back up! But after my last baby was born 2 years ago, I just worked as hard as I could and now weigh 130, sometimes a few pounds less and sometimes a few pounds more.

I did not know that my last pregnancy would be my last…I wanted more kids. But I got sick. I am disabled now and cannot have anymore. I go to the doctor every 3 weeks, am on a lot of medication, and cannot exercise or work out like I used to. For a year and a half I chronicled my journey as a mom with an illness in my blog. Reading what I have gone through and what I am going through really gives me an amazing perspective about what is really important in life. This new body is hard to adjust to…however, I am SICK and TIRED of caring about my flubby stomach and the extra pounds!! I am fighting to live and enjoy my family, and yet here I am whining because I THINK I look fat!! And maybe I do look fat, but who the heck cares?? Come on now, lol. Seriously, I just need to keep giving myself a good talking-to…because I am an amazing woman! I love my husband, I am a heck of a mom, and I fight hard to live a good life! I have the most beautiful children on earth who tell me a thousand times a day how much they love me. I always let my 5 year old daughter watch me get dressed- and whether I believe it or not I always talk about how beautiful my body and my stomach are. I have some work to do mentally, but while I work on it I am going to make sure my daughter learns that she should complement her body and be proud of every single part of it regardless of how it changes. I AM SO MUCH MORE THEN MY APPEARANCE…and SO ARE YOU.

My husband is the most amazing man I have EVER known. Every single day he tells me how much he loves me, how grateful he is to be married to me, how sexy he thinks I am. He also quit his full time job last year to stay home and take care of me and the kids. I AM A LUCKY WOMAN. He always gets mad when I fuss about my appearance- he cannot believe that I would not like what I see in the mirror. And I understand what he is saying, because so many times I read posts where women hate their bodies- but when I look at them I’m like, “but you look amazing!!” Strange, isn’t it?? Ladies, you are amazing because of who you are- and your body is amazing because it is YOU. Love yourself. Love your body. Love the insanely incredible thing it has done. Complement yourself at least 10 times a day. We are worth so much more then we give ourselves credit.
Blessings!

#1- Me last year
#2- Me last year
#3- Right after my all natural, drug free birth of my last baby- I felt AWESOME after this!
#4- Carrying my 1 year old on my back while apple picking with my kids
#5- Last month when I cut 16″ of my hair off!!
#6- A few weeks ago in Florida with my hubby- ALONE!! I am actually a little heavier there because I ate a lot while we were there lol
#7- I am modest and did not feel comfortable posting a full body shot with no clothes, however I did want you to see my tummy. Pictures can be misleading and clothes can make you look a certain way, which is fine, but this is what my stomach looks like 2 years after having 6 babies. It is wrinkly, thick, and rolls out over my pants lol.
#8- This is me before having any kids.
#9- This is me, my husband, and our 6 kids- taken this past April

in Belly, Child Loss, Four or More Pregnancies, Mom over 30, Mothers with Health Complications, Postpartum, Submissions
10 comments… add one
  • Shannon Friday, August 8, 2014, 12:36 pm

    You are seriously stunning! I hope my tummy looks as good as yours someday! You are beautiful inside and out :) Lovely family!!!!

  • Amy Friday, August 8, 2014, 12:37 pm

    I’ve been awaiting for your admission since you commented on mine “Fourth Pregnancy”. You are stunning Ashley. I love your positivity and strength. I’m sorry to hear you have had to deal with health issues. As you said they are so worth it. They look divine, adorable! Although I think you have every reason to be confident and the more I read here on SOAM the more I believe confidence and how we feel is more important and even sexier then how we look! Well done 6 children takes some management skills! Children are expensive. ;) I wish you all the best. Amy x

  • Amanda H Wednesday, August 13, 2014, 1:02 pm

    you look amazing !!! hope my belly can look as flat as yours when I’m done having babies !! sincerest hope that you can keep on feeling healthy and you can kick your sickness to the curb !

  • Debra Wednesday, August 13, 2014, 7:12 pm

    I think you are an amazing woman. As a family with disability (my eldest stepson, who lives with us), and therefore a bit more active than most regarding the disabled community (although I’m aware of it’s huge diversity) I’d also appreciate learning more about your story, and your link unfortunately didn’t work (although I’ll try tomorrow from a better device). The best to you and your family… I think that you are all truly fortunate to be taking a life journey together, and I am impressed by you all. Each and every one!!!

  • Ashley (OP) Monday, August 18, 2014, 7:14 pm

    Thank you all so much for all the love and support! It feels so good to finally share my story- look forward to reading all of yours! And I’m sorry the link didn’t work- this is the site to my blog: http://www.worthitall04.blogspot.com

  • Bonnie (SOAM) Thursday, August 21, 2014, 12:19 pm

    The link should work now. Sorry!

  • Ashley (OP) Saturday, August 23, 2014, 6:09 pm

    Thank you Bonnie…and again, I just want to thank you all for such kind words and for the support thrown my way. I don’t know how long I will be on this earth, but I know I want to spend it being happy and filled with love. I think we all want that. Blessings to all of you amazing mamas. <3

  • Ann Saturday, August 30, 2014, 9:33 am

    oh my you have 8 kids and look like that! I hope my tummy looks as good as yours after i have more kids i only have one :)

  • Ann Saturday, August 30, 2014, 9:37 am

    sorry 6 kids

  • Sara Sunday, August 31, 2014, 6:09 am

    Wow, what a beautiful classy looking lady you are. I’ve had two children, one three weeks ago, and I think I was pretty lucky as far as my body is concerned, but you are stunning!! Please do not put yourself down, your husband is one lucky man!! x

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